Can Anything Overcome Our Expectations For Ourselves w/ Spiritual Teacher Cathy Heller

In my talk a few episodes ago with Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa on changing our mindset we discussed the issue of our beliefs, which is a big topic for me. On one hand, we want things to believe in, as it helps guide and anchor our lives. But on the other hand, I feel beliefs can be incredibly dangerous when we aren’t fully clear and aware of why we have them, why, and if we hold on to them blindly. This isn’t a discourse on religion or theology, but a look at considering our mindset. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

3 Loka 202411min

I’m continuing on with some key points I got from my talk with Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa, author of the new audio book, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset, two episodes ago. A point I pulled out and we dug into was the idea of our limitations. We often hear we’re unlimited, we can do and be anything! I disagree, and so does Alexis who gives great research on how our limitations are a benefit. In her book she has a section on limitations and fears and says, “It’s important to know your limitations.” She has a segment titled, “Work with what you’ve got so you’ve got more to work with.” I’ll break it down for you. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Loka 202410min

In the last episode I talked with neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa, author of the new audio book, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset. We hit on the concept made popular by Malcolm Gladwell in his book, Outliers, of how the world’s masters generally put in 10,000 hours. Now, I really appreciate Malcolm and the concept. And, Alexis brought up a point I not only agree with, but I’ve experienced. Simply putting in the hours does not a master make. It’s the kind of hours that matter, and if you put in the right ones you can achieve some mastery far quicker than 10,000 hours. I have a couple personal stories and let’s take a look at Hollywood actors to help make the point. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 Loka 202410min

A 30-Day Guide To Changing Your Mindset. In my search for relevant messages on human potential, I have the top publishers send me their lists of new books. In a list from Simon & Schuster I saw, How To Chase Change: 30 Days to Master Your Mindset, and the title alone was worth a look. What I found intrigued me, starting with the author’s story. If you see Alexis Fernandez-Prieksa on social media, to me she looks more like an actress or social media starlet than a mindset expert. And that’s part of what hooked me. Her personal story of drive I find really interesting. She actually intended to be an actress. But kept coming back to neuroscience and how the brain works, and ultimately got her Masters in neuroanatomy. I think you’ll really enjoy the story at the beginning of our talk. But in this new audio book of her’s, How To Chase Change, she walks us through 30 concepts, and I found some I’d pondered and never heard anyone give focus to. Such as Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hours concept. Alexis points out that just putting the time into something doesn’t guarantee mastery. Absolutely. And the idea of our limitations. We often hear we’re unlimited, we can do and be anything! I disagree, and so does Alexis who gives great research on how our limitations are a benefit. We got into talking about the concept of having an alter ego, which I’d read about but hadn’t really dug into. This is one of those conversations where I wasn’t quite sure what I’d get, and what I got was some great insight into how to change and upgrade our mind and some big paradigm shifts.  Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

30 Syys 20241h 40min

As I wrap up our current discussion on purpose, calling, and destiny, I want to discuss a perspective I see derailing many people. The idea that you need to forge on alone. And be a leader calling others to you. In our social media culture it can feel like everyone is chasing the spotlight. Everyone wants to be, or feels they need to be, the superstar, in order to succeed. To have a platform and followers and an audience. Write a book, star in social media, start a podcast, and get enough attention create an audience and pay your bills. But one, not everyone can be in the spotlight, and two, does being on stage really give you the best odds for success and fulfillment? On this topic I’m bringing back a conversation I had with Tim Schurrer author of, The Secret Society of Success: Stop Chasing The Spotlight And Learn To Enjoy Your Work [And Life] Again. He spent a decade working as COO with Donald Miller and launching Storybrand and then Business Made Simple, and while Don had the spotlight, Tim ran the business and built and led the team that made it all possible. Before that Tim worked at TOMS as well as Apple Inc. He is the host of the Build a Winning Team podcast, where he offers listeners actionable advice as he interviews some of the top leaders in business. We talk about the far greater opportunity for success and fulfillment, outside the spotlight and off the stage. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

27 Syys 20241h 13min

I feel it can be very daunting to feel that finding your destiny is this epic, solo quest. In some ways I’d say much of the discovery is, as the answer is ultimately somewhere within you, not “out there” somewhere. But the living it out in your day to day world does not need to be a solo venture. You may not to be the leader of the quest of your life. It may be part of a group or organization you get to be a part of. I continue this week’s discussion on purpose, calling, interests and destiny with some stories and then some fun resources to recommend; a few books and some entertaining and thought provoking movies. And I’ll end by sharing an adventure I embark on in a couple days as I continue to evolve in my own destiny. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

26 Syys 202413min

In looking at our interests, another way of considering our purpose and calling, a key resource is connecting with other people. So we look at conferences, seminars and many types of networking events. Which are geared towards…extroverts. That’s who often hosts them and I find that’s who they tend to benefit most. Which leaves us introverts out in the wind. So what do you do? I feel it’s best to suck it up and you’ll need to make some social efforts, but you can do some things to lessen the challenge and increase your odds. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

25 Syys 202412min

I think at the end of the day we’d all give up anything, happiness, acclaim, status, just about anything, just to have purpose. Something we cared to wake up to and pursue that had any meaning to us. And I’m going to take that beyond family, which I’ll speak to in a moment. But I find we often handicap our thoughts towards purpose and calling by feeling it must be huge. It must be super altruistic. It must be saving the world. In the last episode I talked with Scott Harrison, celebrity humanitarian who has taken 1 out of 6 people in the world having access to clean water down to only 1 out of 10. Amazing. Truly. Yet the greatest benefit of purpose is not what your purpose does for other people, but what your purpose does for you. I didn’t have Scott on the show to talk about the people he saved. I had him on the show to talk about how he saved himself. This is about you. Anyone you help is just collateral benefit. Sign up for a $1/month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Get 20% off your first probiotic membership order at pendulumlife.com/drivesyou  Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/kevin Go to Quince.com/drives for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns Go to cozyearth.com/driven and use code DRIVEN for an exclusive 40% discount Join thousands of parents who trust Fabric to protect their family. Apply in minutes at meetfabric.com/WHATDRIVESYOU. If you're concerned about OCD, visit NOCD.com to schedule a free 15-minute call with their team. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

24 Syys 202412min