88. Red Flags, Green Flags, and Why We Date the People We Do with Dr. Joe Kort

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re diving deep into the psychology of attraction, the patterns that shape our relationships, and how we can make more conscious choices in dating - and in love.

We welcome Dr. Joe Kort, a psychotherapist, author, and relationship expert, who will help us understand why we date the people we do.

We'll open talking about masculinity a bit, touching on the topics of performative masculinity, validation, and male on male flirting!

Then we'll get into what red and green flags in dating really mean—and some common misconceptions about them.

What red flags should you be looking for? What about green flags? And why does this matter?

Next we'll explore Imago Relationship Therapy and how our childhood experiences influence our type and attraction in dating.

Why do we sometimes feel drawn to those who aren’t good for us? And more importantly, how do we break free from those cycles?

So if you're ready to date with a new perspective on red flags, green flags, and why we date the people we do, this episode is for you!

Let’s do this Flirties, and meet Joe!

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About our guest: Dr. Joe Kort is a psychotherapist, certified sex therapist and clinical director of The Center for Relationship Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is the author of four books and a lecturer and facilitator of therapeutic workshops.

Throughout his 37 years of private practice, he has successfully helped hundreds of individuals and couples improve their lives and strengthen their relationships. Dr. Kort specializes in marital problems and conflicts; mixed orientation marriages; male sexuality and out-of-control sexual behaviors.

He is EMDR trained and offers LGBTQIA Affirmative Therapy. Dr. Kort can be found on Instagram, TIkTok, Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn @drjoekort and his website is www.JoeKort.com

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.

Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.

His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, and Yoga Journal.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.