How to stop worrying about small problems that don't matter (and kill your perfectionist)

Ever notice how you'll curse for days when stuck in traffic but never celebrate hitting all green lights? Your brain's flaw-detection software is working overtime. In our quest for the ideal—the perfect relationship, the flawless investment, the dream career—we often miss the opportunity to appreciate what's already working. This isn't about lowering standards; it's about recognizing diminishing returns and the opportunity costs of perfectionism. Gratitude research shows that people who accept small imperfections actually experience more satisfaction and happiness. It's not about settling—it's about optimizing for what truly matters and recognizing the diminishing returns of chasing perfection. Identify what's truly non-negotiable versus what's just a small cost of admission See where you get stuck in diminishing returns of perfectionism and break out of the cycle Reframe "tolerating flaws" as "accepting the whole, complex reality" of what you value Ready to stop obsessing over small flaws and start enjoying the ride? Your ticket to a more satisfying life is waiting. Feedback Sam is launching a workshop for building certainty in an uncertain world Opinions here https://form.jotform.com/250963827592368 Related Episodes How to stop catastrophising Psychology of Control - Why your brain overcomplicated everything How to build emotional intelligence Upgrade to Premium: 🏖️ Ad-free listening 🤘 Support the show 🔓 Exclusive AMAs and bonus content 💬 Community Discord GrowthMindset.Supercast.com Get in Touch 👋 Free Call - Schedule Link - https://cal.com/samwebster/mindset 📧 Email - GrowthMindsetPodcast (@) gmail,com 🗣️ Feedback Form - Creating certainty in an uncertain world - https://form.jotform.com/250963827592368 Growth Mindset Psychology: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. 📺 Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) 🛜 Website - Growth Mindset Show: Growth Mindset, psychology of self-improvement Episode: How to stop worrying about small problems that don't matter (and kill your perfectionist) Chapters: 00:00 Hardwired for problem seeking 00:55 Concept of paying the price of admission 01:23 Relationships 04:43 Stock markets 06:02 More examples 08:42 Gratitude and Game Theory 10:41 Perfectionism and diminishing returns 12:55 Martha Nussbaum and the Descent of Love 13:58 Positive and negative flywheels of gratitude and perfectionism 15:48 Chang Chang and the Broken Vase Garden 17:17 Send Off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices