709 How Manipulators + Narcissists Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Control You
The Terri Cole Show22 Huhti 2025

709 How Manipulators + Narcissists Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Control You

How manipulatable are you?

When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not?

If not, or you've never heard of FOG, you're in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I'm breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from my therapy practice to help you become less susceptible.

Note: the purpose of this episode is to educate you on how people will try to manipulate you, not to make diagnoses. People using one of these tactics in isolation (like guilt) does not automatically make them narcissists.

Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/709

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