050-You I take - Buddhism in daily life

To let a person into one's life, that requires a lot of energy, a lot of courage and almost unlimited confidence.

It is not necessarily a Buddhist approach to sleep around, to constantly change partners, according to the philosophy of the sublime, a moral life is right.

If you can stand a week with a person, you can also spend a month with the person, even a year, and in consequence then a whole life.

"One" should not use people and living beings like shirts, but if one "takes" someone (for a day, a month, or a year), then consequences, obligations, common goals arise from it.

Today's fun society sees it quite differently, after a while people just "divorce", they go separate ways, prosperity allows the free development of personality. Our ancestors saw things completely differently, here the (marriage) partners were a community of fate, also a community of prey, fun was so not on the game plan. Certainly we are allowed to have fun in life, but don't we become jaded, hollow and unhappy by the eternal separating and coming together?

Can I still find a better partner? Or a younger girlfriend? A better earning boyfriend? Or a prettier woman? A taller man?

Sure, we can go looking for a partner again and again, fall in love over and over again, but is that really love? Or just the longing for "being loved"? Wouldn't it be nicer if we didn't use people, but could keep the partner we originally took?

When I met my girlfriend at the time, it hit me like a bolt of lightning. I saw her, and I knew that I loved this woman, the moment I saw her for the first time. Already at that time it was clear to me that I must not run away from here, that I want to honor this relationship, if I now say "I'll take you", then it is meant honestly, it is not a game, not a "stopover" to something "better", no, then clear consequences follow here. Well, I wanted her, she wanted me, today we are a couple.

Nowadays we say "I'll take you" far too easily, without being aware of the consequences, without even thinking about the responsibility that comes with it. By the way, this is true for all living beings, for which we formulate a "I'll take you" at will, no matter if we "acquire" a dog, or buy a bird, here lies a clear commitment to this living being (or human being).

When was the last time you said "I'll take you"? Did you mean it?

The way is the goal!

He is steadfast in striving, responsible in striving for wholesome conditions

- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before the year zero

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