081-Learning to fail - Buddhism in daily life

Learning to fail

Those who can fail find inner strength. In psychology, a good ability to fail is called resilience. Here, mental health is maintained to such an extent that even in the case of serious or stressful events, the person concerned can cope well with the situation, has the ability not to lose mental balance.

And this resilience can be learned, of course it is also partly hereditary, but it can be trained quite easily. People can be divided into two groups here, namely those who are naturally quite hearty, easily coping with difficulties, and then the other group, who are much more sensitive, who can be upset by stress and lose their cool at any time.

The foundation for a positive worldview is laid in childhood, and the ability to fail is a cornerstone that will be learned in a healthy home. And even in later life it is important to have a healthy environment, normal caregivers who will stand by you even in times of stress and problems. Those who have an environment that believes in them are already far ahead.

To learn to fail, one must expose oneself to situations in which one then acquires security. Those who know in advance that they will fail can face it calmly. And whoever repeatedly puts himself in such situations in which he will fail, can then calmly await the things that may come even in the situations in which he has not planned to fail. In this way, one promotes the building of problem solving skills and is adequately prepared for future stressful situations.

In other words, you should push the limits of resilience further and further, and then you will no longer feel any limits. This way they will cope well in all situations of life, they will get a normal resilience, the stresses of life will not really reach them anymore.

People who have not learned to fail in their youth, they always have a hard time in real life, sometimes from the lack of self-confidence then comes mental illness, depression and other disorder of mental activity. Of course, the training of resilience cannot be extended indefinitely, there comes a moment when simply medical advice can help.

The followers of Buddha know that with mindfulness and simple exercises one can train conscious awareness and thus regain one's inner balance. Such inner strength can be trained, so that one can achieve protection from the disturbance of mental activities. According to Buddha, nothing is what it seems at first anyway.

The secret of the extraordinary man is in most cases nothing but the consequence

- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before the year zero

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