Beyond the Body Count: Reframing Sexual History in Dating
Sex With Emily6 Touko 2025

Beyond the Body Count: Reframing Sexual History in Dating

This week on Sex With Emily, we're tackling one of the most harmful and outdated questions in modern dating: "What's your body count?" In conversation with holistic psychologist and trauma expert Dr. Scott Lyons, we explore the troubling origins of this term, once used to count military casualties, and how it’s been repurposed to judge sexual history, often unfairly targeting women. We unpack the double standards rooted in purity culture, the insecurities this question provokes, and the shame it can breed in both high and low numbers. More importantly, we discuss why the number of sexual partners has nothing to do with sexual skill, emotional readiness, or compatibility. #intimacy #love #relationships Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Body Count: A Sex-Positive Discussion 00:03:00 - Judging Past Relationships 05:51 - Body Count & Insecurities 08:24 - Why Judging is Wrong 10:46:38 - Historical Shame Roots 13:22 - Societal Shame & Body Count 15:47 - Regrets & Sexual Experiences 18:13 - Reframing the Conversation 22:44:04 - Ditching the Question 25:38 - Addressing Relationship Insecurities 37:53 - Pleasure, Goodbyes & Outro If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order go to ⁠https://viia.co/EMILY⁠ and use code EMILY! #viiapartner Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Join the SmartSX Membership : ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides:⁠⁠ https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ ⁠⁠ SHOP WITH EMILY!: ⁠⁠https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ ⁠⁠ (free shipping on orders over $99)Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/⁠⁠ Let’s get social: Instagram ⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/⁠⁠ X ⁠⁠https://twitter.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ Facebook ⁠⁠https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily⁠⁠ TikTok ⁠⁠https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ Threads ⁠⁠https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily ⁠⁠ Let’s text: Sign up here ⁠⁠https://sexwithemily.com/text ⁠ Full show notes: ⁠

Jaksot(1550)

LIVE With Emily - What Nobody Taught You About Dirty Talk

LIVE With Emily - What Nobody Taught You About Dirty Talk

You want to talk to your partner about sex. You really do. But every time you try, your throat closes, your chest tightens, and suddenly it feels easier to just… not. You're not bad at communication —...

27 Tammi 45min

LIVE With Emily - Stress Is Stealing Your Orgasms

LIVE With Emily - Stress Is Stealing Your Orgasms

You're in love. You're committed. So why does sex feel like it dropped off the priority list somewhere between laundry and meal prep? You're not broken — you're just busy, stressed, and maybe a little...

23 Tammi 39min

LIVE with Emily - Sex Became a Chore for Me Too

LIVE with Emily - Sex Became a Chore for Me Too

Let's be honest — for all the progress we've made, most of us still don't know how to talk about sex. We can talk about work, money, kids, literally everything else. But ask your partner what actually...

20 Tammi 52min

Your Body Is Craving Your Attention

Your Body Is Craving Your Attention

EPISODE SUMMARY Dolly Josette is a somatic sexologist and intimacy coach known as "The Pleasure Muse" who helps people reconnect with their bodies to unlock deeper pleasure. In this episode, Dolly ...

16 Tammi 49min

Liberated Love vs Codependent Love

Liberated Love vs Codependent Love

EPISODE SUMMARY Mark Groves is a human connection specialist who transformed his own painful relationship patterns into wisdom he now shares with millions. In this episode, Mark opens up about the ...

13 Tammi 1h 4min

Menopause Myths Your Doctor Still Believes

Menopause Myths Your Doctor Still Believes

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily visits the office of urogynecologist Dr. Patricia Wallace to explore the hidden world of pelvic health—and why it matters so much for sexual pleasure. From the muscles tha...

9 Tammi 34min

How to Know When Someone Is Actually Available

How to Know When Someone Is Actually Available

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily sits down with relationship expert Matthew Hussey to decode modern dating, from confusing chemistry with compatibility to knowing when someone's actually emotionally avail...

6 Tammi 53min

How to Actually Get Your Needs Met in Bed

How to Actually Get Your Needs Met in Bed

EPISODE SUMMARY Dr. Emily shares three listener success stories that prove honest communication transforms sex lives. Graham's pegging journey opened up conversations he and his wife never had befo...

2 Tammi 26min

Suosittua kategoriassa Terveys ja hyvinvointi

unicast
tiedenaiset-podcast
rss-pitaisko-erota
psykopodiaa-podcast
voi-hyvin-meditaatiot-2
selvin-pain
vakeva-elama-viisaampi-mieli-vahvempi-keho
fitnessvastaanotto
selviytyjat-tarinoita-elamasta
paaasia-podcast
meditaatiot-suomeksi
fitnesskulmapodcast
junnut-pelissa
rss-narsisti
terapiassa
rss-uplevel-by-sonja-hannus
rss-kuumilla-aalloilla
rss-lihavuudesta-podcast
rss-rentoudu-podcast-rentoutumiseen-hanna-viljanmaa
rss-nautinto