Tips for How to Find People to Date with Dr. Alison Ash

Tips for How to Find People to Date with Dr. Alison Ash

Ep 512: Tips for How to Find People to Date that are a good fit for you with Dr. Alison Ash. In this enlightening episode, Ruan Willow sits down with Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, educator at Stanford University, and founder of Turn On Love. She shares her insights on how to find people to date and how to identify who is a good fit for you. This conversation dives into the complexities of modern dating, the impact of dating apps, and the importance of intentionality in relationships.
Topics Covered: Modern dating challenges, the impact of dating apps, intentionality in relationships, the importance of community and social networks, and practical tips for finding the right person to date.

Timeline:
- 00:25 - Doctor Alison Ash is a trauma informed intimacy coach at Stanford University
- 01:27 - Research shows dating apps have harmed our ability to form and sustain long term relationships
- 04:40 - I also think it's helpful to talk about, I think a mixed approach to finding partners
- 10:15 - You should have at least one photo where you're smiling on dating apps, and....
- 16:35 - Research shows that in order to make new relationships, we need regular interactions
- 24:41 - A lot of people are terrified to own what they want
- 25:32 - One of the things that I talk to my clients on is this idea of outsourcing
- 29:34 - What are some warning signs people should look out for when using dating apps
- 35:35 - You teach a course on intimacy and dating skills at Stanford University
- 41:06 - I think couples and long term relationships struggle to keep sexual spark alive
- 44:15 - Is there anything that we've missed talking about that you wanted to mention
- 45:10 - Making sure that you have queer and trans community is so important

Don't miss this episode filled with practical advice and deep insights into the world of dating and relationships.
Guest: Dr. Alison Ash - Turn On Love
PhD (she/her)

Founder of TurnON.love

Intimacy Coach and Educator

Lecturer at Stanford University

AuthorSocial Media Links

Course:

Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game

4 part course for couples in October — reserve your spot today. On-demand rental also available.

🗣️ Quotes from Dr. Alison Ash
"Dating apps have created an optimization overload dynamic where people are just surface level flipping."
"Nobody's going to be able to meet 100% of your needs 100% of the time."
"Touch is the most regulating thing in the world. And it doesn't make you needy. It makes you human."
"Loneliness is hard and it's pervasive, and we can feel that we're stuck in it."
"Conflict is an opportunity to build intimacy and to deepen trust."

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Ep: 18 Inside Ruan Willow Chapter 4: FFM, Female-Female, Dictawhirl, Oral Sex, MOANS!

Ep: 18 Inside Ruan Willow Chapter 4: FFM, Female-Female, Dictawhirl, Oral Sex, MOANS!

Ep: 18 Inside Ruan Willow Chapter 4: FFM, Female-Female, Dictawhirl, Oral Sex, MOANS! What's a Dictawhirl? Well...listen and you will find out. It's done to MEN! It's also in the Quiet Chick book series by BD Hampton and Wahida Clark "The Quiet Chick"  (link below). What happens in this chapter of Inside Ruan Willow with our two erotica authors and sexy superfan Sasha? The threesome gets raunchy! That's what! BD gets the Dictawhirl by Sasha rooting her fingers around, deep oral sex BD and Ruan Willow tangle, and female-female action where Sasha and Ruan get busy. Really busy! Listen and find out now! Get ready for lots of moaning! And nonsense words...get a towel :) Listen to Ruan read chapter 4 from the book she co-authored with BD Hampton.  If you missed the reading of chapter 1, go back to episode 15 to listen to that before this one, chapter 2 in episode 16, and chapter 3 in episode 17. This podcast is a fictional reading from the book Inside Ruan Willow by BD Hampton and Ruan Wilow and is a work of fiction for adults only, purely for entertainment purposes. Topics within this podcast are for 18+ and focus on sexuality.  For users in the US new to Audible, try it out with this free trial with a free audiobook: https://www.audible.com/pd/B09D29TYSY/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-274038&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_274038_pd_us For those in the UK: https://www.audible.co.uk/pd/B09D1WL42Y/?source_code=AUKFrDlWS02231890H7-BK-ACX0-274038&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_274038_pd_uk BOOK LINKS: Universal link for anyone around the world to access the book on Amazon: https://books2read.com/u/mZeWpE Link to Audiobook US markets: https://www.amazon.com/Inside-Ruan-Willow-Between-Writers/dp/B09D21KTZ4/ Link to ebook on Amazon for US markets: https://amzn.to/3goUp4f Affiliate link to the book: https://amzn.to/38Qn7Hs Connect with Ruan: https://mailchi.mp/24862e3a8ec9/authorruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow the Inside Ruan Willow book on Smashwords: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/1074982 Affiliate link to the Inside Ruan Willow book on Amazon: https://amzn.to/38Qn7Hs Connect with BD Hampton: https://linktr.ee/BDHamptonbd https://linktr.ee/BDHamptonbd See all of Ruan's links here: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow This podcast episode was produced by Joe Mendi. To connect with Joe: http://twitter.com/JoeMendi69 Hey y'all! Have a listen give your sexuality a ride! Sexual health is important! Pay attention to yours and whether you have a partner or not, you can still be sexually healthy by providing yourself wi Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

26 Maalis 202118min

Ep 14: Ruan gets all hot as she reads her sexy erotic snippets and erotic poetry

Ep 14: Ruan gets all hot as she reads her sexy erotic snippets and erotic poetry

Ep 14: Ruan gets all hot as she reads her sexy erotic snippets and erotic poetry....Like Ruan's recordings on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube? She's strung 20 minutes worth together here in podcast 14 so you can keep listening non-stop to her read, moan, ad-lib, and talk. It's what she loves to do and share with you... the inner workings of her erotic brain mixed with the lust in her voice. Let's get hot! You ready to get hot? She sure is! Get inside her as she shares her bright blazing sexuality with you, your sexual health matters! These readings were written and performed by Ruan herself and are a fictional reading stuffed full of romance, love, intimacy, erotica, erotic poetry, and are for entertainment and arts purposes only. This podcast is for adults only. Hey y'all! I hope you enjoy this fun podcast, I sure loved reading it! I really enjoy it and I hope you do too. Thanks for listening and have a sexy day! Love ya! Ruan Visit my website at https://ruanwillowauthor.com/ All my links: https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow New Updates: New book! Inside Ruan Willow with BD Hampton, out April 1st, 2021! Check for it on Amazon:) Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

12 Maalis 202121min

Ep 13: Sexting Grocery Store Tease Short Story

Ep 13: Sexting Grocery Store Tease Short Story

Ep 13: Grocery Store Tease Short Story. Ruan reads her short story about a couple, the male is  "you" for maximum listener enjoyment, where she gets teased relentlessly with sexting to the point of cuming in the grocery. You send her text after text, including a hot naughty pic, until she explodes with an O face and an orgasm right in the store. What happens next after she checks out and runs to the parking lot? Oh, sex in the car with a spanking. Get kinky with Ruan in the grocery store and finish her off in the car. Just listen and enjoy...shhh! It's our little secret! Go on.. let yourself indulge in a little harmless playful BDSM to enhance your fantasy of intimacy. This fiction story is for adults only for pleasure and enhancement of sexuality and sexual health. This erotica fictional reading is for entertainment purposes only and plays on the love and romance a couple already has in their relationship. Click to read this story: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/adult-stories-erotic-grocery-store-tease/ Hey! Thanks for listening to my fun little short story placing you in the driver's seat to tease me while I shop. Let's get hot and enjoy! Have a sexy day, Love, Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

9 Maalis 202115min

Ep12: 10 Habits of Effective Lovers

Ep12: 10 Habits of Effective Lovers

Ep12: 10 Habits of Effective Lovers by erotica author Ruan Willow. For adults only, 18+. Listen as Ruan highlights the 10 habits of effective lovers. Enhance your sexuality, your relationships, and intimacy with these sex tips. Improve your love life by focusing on these top 10 tips of relationship advice. Great ideas for couples who are married or dating, or even friends with benefits, to focus on each other and heighten their enjoyment peaks, to help ensure the best sexual health possible.  This podcast is for entertainment purposes. Hey, y'all! Thank you for listening and I hope my tips help you focus on becoming a more effective lover. Please read my erotic short stories at: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/ Have a sexy day! Love ya, Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

5 Maalis 202120min

Ep:11 Part 2 of the reading of the excerpt from The Nunnery by Cindi Sinclair and BD Hampton read by Ruan Willow

Ep:11 Part 2 of the reading of the excerpt from The Nunnery by Cindi Sinclair and BD Hampton read by Ruan Willow

Ep:11 Part 2 of the reading of the excerpt from the erotic work of fiction The Nunnery by Cindi Sinclair and BD Hampton, read by Ruan Willow. This is for adults only, 18+. Listen to the continuation of the sexy taboo tale of Bill the priest, Carol the nun, and a man named Don. Feel the intense sexual desire and passion these three characters share as the excitement builds, their intimacy takes the trio to new heights in their sexuality. The sexiness will charge up your fantasy life while tickling your lust before it plunges you all the way in. Be a fly on their wall, be their witness and sink into the firey scorching combination the three of them bring to the hotel room. Please listen to this fictional reading podcast for relaxation and enjoyment. This erotica short story is full of sex, romance, and love is for the purposes of entertainment and the arts only. The story contains explicit sex scenes. Find this story, with other similar stories, in a book sold at: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/1074874 Please connect with BD Hampton on Twitter at BdhamptonS Find the books here: affiliate link https://amzn.to/2NGayHE https://amzn.to/3uEmoSZ Connect with BD Hampton and get updates on new publications at https://www.wclarkpublishing.com/the-quiet-chick-page Hey all! Thanks for listening to my podcast! I'm excited to share this reading with you. BD Hampton will be my guest doing an author interview on my podcast soon. We have lots of fun! I hope you have a sexy day. Love, Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

2 Maalis 202130min

Ep 10: An excerpt from the story The Nunnery written by Cindi Sinclair and BD Hampton, narrated by Ruan Willow

Ep 10: An excerpt from the story The Nunnery written by Cindi Sinclair and BD Hampton, narrated by Ruan Willow

Ep 10: This episode is a reading of an excerpt from the story The Nunnery written by Cindi Sinclair and BD Hampton and narrated by Ruan Willow. This podcast is for adults only, 18+. In this podcast episode, Ruan hosts erotica authors Cindi Sinclair and BD Hampton as her guest authors. This guest erotica fiction piece is part 1 and part 2 will be on the next podcast after this one, season 1, episode 11. This is a sexy tale, taboo and hardcore elements run through this scorching sexually jarring saga. It starts out like a joke ... a priest, a nun, and a guy all walk-in .... and stuff happens. You will have to listen to find out what the characters get themselves into and out of, what they love, what their ideas are about love and romance, how they practice their intimacy, what they hate, and how they find joy together. The themes of this story are taboo and it contains some BDSM. Thanks for listening to my podcast.  I hope you enjoy this fictional reading of erotica. All characters are fictional and any relation to anyone is purely coincidental. This podcast is for entertainment and arts purposes only. This reading is about sexuality. Find this story, with other similar stories, in a book sold at: https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/1074874 You can connect with BD Hampton on Twitter at BdhamptonS Find their books on this Amazon affiliate link: https://amzn.to/2NGayHE https://amzn.to/3uEmoSZ Connect with BD Hampton and get updates at https://www.wclarkpublishing.com/the-quiet-chick-page Hey, y'all! Just a heads up, BD Hampton will be doing an author with me soon. Keep your ears peeled for that saucy interview, we have some fun! Thanks for listening. Have a sexy day! Love, Ruan Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

26 Helmi 202131min

Ep:9 Tracy's Dog Sex Toy Review and Tips

Ep:9 Tracy's Dog Sex Toy Review and Tips

18+ only. In Episode 9, Ruan does a review of the Tracy's Dog sex toys: the OG and a toy that is shaped like a big pen with a clit sucker on one end and a plastic pen-like finger on the other end. Hear about all the sexy hotness associated with using these toys, the sex tips for enhancing sexuality and romance, improving intimacy for dating couples and married couples in relationships, improving the sexual experience, and how to enjoy these toys. Take care of yourself with self-care ( these toys are ideal for this) or enjoy them with a  partner, either way, these toys are amazing, delicious, satisfying, and thoroughly worth purchasing. Ruan gives them both a 10 out of 5 stars. Listen for tips for enhancing your sexual health and fitness and relationship advice to improve your relations with your partner in the bedroom, in romance and love.  For adults only, entertainment purposes only. To learn more, please click these affiliate links: https://amzn.to/2NvKz5v https://amzn.to/37FEIRY Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

23 Helmi 202122min

Ep:8 Couples Sex Toy Delivery for Hot Quarantine Sex, an erotic short story read by Ruan Willow

Ep:8 Couples Sex Toy Delivery for Hot Quarantine Sex, an erotic short story read by Ruan Willow

Couples Sex Toy Delivery for Hot Quarantine Sex, an erotic short story read by Ruan Willow...get ready to get hot and turned on when you listen to this story about a couple waiting on a delivery of sex toys and a sexy hot piece of lingerie. Having fun at home during the lockdown means deliveries, and for this couple, it means a delivery for enhancing their already delicious and satisfying sex life together. But this delivery takes them to the next level trying new sexual acts, new sex toys, and new ways to heighten their intimacy and sexuality. This story is for adults only, no one under 18 is allowed to listen. Sex tips: Copy this model in your own life to enhance, titillate, and grow in your own lovemaking.  This is a  great story for singles, for couples, for those dating, and also for those who are married. It's for everyone! This story also provides real relationship advice to spice up not only the game of your romance and love life but also by inspiring you to surprise each other with a delivery of sexual enhancements to enjoy at home. Relationships benefit from variety, so why not go online and find some new things to enjoy together? Make it a surprise for each other, like the couple in the story. It's also a great way to introduce your partner to new ideas and toys and to potentially fulfill your fantasies. Your health and fitness will benefit from a healthy sex life so try this idea to improve your own sexual encounters. Hey you, Thanks for listening! Don't forget to connect with me on social media. I love to interact on Twitter, Instagram, MeWe, YouTube, and even on Pinterest. Have a very sexy day! Love, Ruan P.S. I am an affiliate for LoveHoney sex products. I love their products. Check out their awesome stuff at: https://tinyurl.com/ydgotdej Check out their website and make a plan to surprise your partner today! Or find something for yourself, they offer fabulous self-pleasure toys as well. Self-care is so important as is your own sexual health. Just try it. You will love it! I sure do. You can read this full story on my erotica website of erotic short stories at: https://ruanwillowauthor.com/couples-toys-delivery-for-hot-quarantine-sex/ This story is fiction and in no way reflects any real people. All similarities are coincidental. Support the show Newsletters https://subscribepage.io/ruanwillow https://linktr.ee/RuanWillow Affiliate Firm Tech 15% OFF with code ruan15 https://myfirmtech.com/ruanwillow

19 Helmi 202150min

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