Do You Need A Local Lover?

The Question: “I’m still having a hard time navigating the sex part with Rori’s advice to touch him and caress him — but it’s hard to do that when we really don’t spend time together.”

I hear from women 99% of the time about this, and it just makes me cry — because I’ve been through it myself so many times.

If you don’t spend time together, why is that happening?

Why are we accepting that?

If it’s long distance, well, then yes — that’s part of it. But you still need to be having relationships locally, too. You’re a human. You are a woman.

You need to be touched. You need a lover. You need someone there.

Having someone long distance you care about deeply is not enough.

Unless there’s a very real logistical reason (like the armed services, or necessary job placements), physical proximity matters. And even in those cases, logistics must eventually be tackled if a relationship is to grow.

If you’re long distance without a solid plan to be together soon, you must also create a life where you are touched, seen, and loved in the present.

If you’re yearning and wishing all the time?

That’s not real intimacy.

That’s feeding the subconscious fear of real closeness.

You deserve intimacy. You deserve to smell him, touch him, collect good feelings — not just collect wishes.

It’s okay to have different relationships meeting different needs.

You can have a man who is wonderful sexually, and a man who is wonderful emotionally. You have power here.

I give you permission.

And if you’re not giving yourself permission, I ask you:

What’s telling you you can’t?

Is it a community? A religion? Upbringing?

We need to work that out together. Because you deserve it all.

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Love, Rori