How To Do Hard Things

What happens when the world sees you as a hero, but you feel lost inside? Abby Wambach, a trailblazer in women’s soccer, shares how facing life’s challenges after retirement helped her discover truth, healing, and self-love.

Summary: Abby Wambach spent years chasing excellence as a world-class athlete, only to find that winning gold didn’t bring the inner fulfillment she craved. In this powerful conversation, she reflects on addiction, shame, identity, and the hard-earned lessons of self-love. Her honesty reveals a new kind of strength. One rooted in vulnerability and the courage to be fully seen.

This episode was supported by a grant from The John Templeton Foundation on Spreading Love Through The media.

How To Do This Practice:

1. Acknowledge the belief that achievement or perfection will make you feel whole.
2. Notice when success doesn’t bring lasting happiness, and let yourself feel that disappointment.
3. Share your struggles honestly, even the ones you're ashamed of.
4. Choose to live openly instead of hiding parts of yourself to fit others’ expectations.
5. Ask yourself where your beliefs about worthiness and shame come from.
6. Keep coming back to love and accept yourself, especially the parts you were taught to hide.

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Today’s Guests:

ABBY WAMBACH is a two time World Olympic gold medalist, FIFA world champion, and bestselling author. She is a member of the National Soccer Hall of Fame and a six-time winner of the U.S. Soccer Athlete of the Year award.

Follow Abby on Instagram here: @abbywambach

Order her book We Can Do Hard Things here: https://treatmedia.com/

Listen to Abby’s podcast here: https://wecandohardthingspodcast.com/

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