The Psychology of your 20s10 Kesä 2025

303. The psychology of chronic apologising

"Sorry, can I just say something?", "sorry to bother you!", "oh, sorry!" - sound familiar? If you find yourself saying "sorry" for taking up space, having an opinion, or even when someone else bumps into you, you're not alone. That tiny, five-letter word, meant for genuine remorse, often becomes a reflex, a way to make ourselves smaller, more agreeable, and to diffuse a discomfort that sometimes only exists in our own minds. In today’s episode, we’re exploring chronic apologising - we'll uncover how this seemingly polite habit can actually be a sign of deeper anxieties, impact our self-worth, and shape our experiences in our 20s. Things we discuss:

Why apologising goes beyond politeness
Ties to self-worth, anxiety and attachment
Over-apologising as barriers to true connection
Reclaiming your voice in your career
Practical steps to break the habit

If you’ve ever felt like you're apologising for your very existence, or if "sorry" has become your default setting, this episode is for you.

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