43: D is for DRAMA: 5 Things to Address Drama & Chaos in Relationships
Welcome to the fourth instalment of our T&A Alphabet Series where we tackle big topics one letter at a time (and throw in some laughs along the way). Originally broadcast as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube, this episode is all about the letter D with our topic D is for DRAMA: 5 Things to Address Drama & Chaos in Relationships.With so many fun D-words out there (we know what you’re thinking… 🍆), why focus on drama? Because at the time of recording, we had just navigated a “dramatic episode” in our own relationships—something rare for us but important to work through. In this episode, we break down exactly how we handled it and the lessons we learned.Unnecessary relationship drama often comes down to a few key issues: a need for control, poor communication, a craving for validation, or a lack of self-awareness. Drama doesn’t just show up uninvited—you either create it, invite it, or surround yourself with people who bring it.In this episode we cover:✅ How drama manifests in relationships✅ How to recognize when you’re escalating it (or causing it)✅ The 5 things you can do to de-escalate drama and restore balance✅ The connection between attachment styles and dramaAnd a lot more!If opening your relationship or exploring polyamory has felt like a never-ending cycle of drama, conflict, and emotional fires, our Poly Newbies Course can help. It’s designed to guide you step-by-step on building a secure foundation so you can experience the pleasure and enjoyment you imagined when you first decided to become non-monogamous. You can find out more here - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferShow Resources:Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpolyBe the first to find out when our Little Book of Poly Love is out. Join the waitlist here: https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlistLooking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.comLooking for coaching support? Book a coaching consultation call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue
25 Helmi 45min
42: Time Management in Polyamory: How to Avoid Burnout & Overcommitment
After jealousy, time management is often the number 2 reason why people feel that being non-monogamous and having multiple relationships wouldn't work for them at all.And one of the most common things we hear from our listeners is that they struggle with balancing multiple relationships, personal time, and life responsibilities.In this brand new episode of the Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast, we discuss a much requested topic - Time Management in Polyamory: How to Avoid Burnout & Overcommitment.In this episode we cover: What is time management and why is it important? Why time management can become an issue when non-monogamous Strategies and tools for scheduling and managing time How to avoid polysaturation Our Not-To-Do list for time management in relationshipsShow Resources: Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly. Need support in having wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for the Poly Newbies Digital Course -https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Looking for coaching support? Book a consultation call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Article by Sarah Zoloth - https://www.nshss.org/resources/blog/blog-posts/time-management-what-is-it-and-why-is-it-important/ Article in More Than Two About Time Management - https://www.morethantwo.com/polytime.html
18 Helmi 44min
C is for Consensual Non-Monogamy, Communication and ... Cookies!
Welcome to the third instalment of ourT&A Alphabet Serieswhere we tackle big topics one letter at a time (and throw in some laughs along the way). Originally broadcast as live trainings in ourLet’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube, this episode is all about theletter C!We kick things off with the most obvious C-word:Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM). We break down what it is and explore11 different CNM relationship styles—from monogamish to swinging, open relationships, polyamory, and relationship anarchy. Not sure which style fits you best? We’ve got a handy worksheet for that -https://worksheet.letstalkpolyamory.com/cnmstyleOf course, no discussion of C-words would be complete withoutcommunication, communication, and… you guessed it, more communication! We dive into why talking about all the things (yes,all the things) is the key to making non-monogamy work.And then there’scookies—because what’s an episode without a little sweetness? 🍪 What do cookies have to do with polyamory? You’ll have to listen to find out.Sprinkled throughout, we’ve got bonus C-words from ourLet’s Talk Polyamory community, including:✨ The “underrated sexiness” of Canadians 🍁✨ The power ofcock-fidence 😉✨ And, of course, deliciouslysexy French pastries that start with C!🔥COMING IN 2025: Many of the terms and insights from this series will be featured in our upcoming book,The Little Book of Poly Love! A playful, visual, and accessible guide to navigating non-monogamy, relationships, and identity. Want to be the first to know when it’s out? Join the waitlist here:https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlistHit play and let’s get into it—cookies and all! 🎧Show Resources:Need support in having wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for thePoly Newbies Digital Course -https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialofferLooking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call atandreturcottepsych@gmail.comLooking for coaching support? Book a consultation call with Tara -https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community -https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly. Check out the Mondays with Tara and André Guide for the talks we did on communication that we reference in the episode.Jessica Fern’s bookPoly Secure -https://www.jessicafern.com/booksMind Body Green Article -https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/ethical-non-monogamy-guide?srsltid=AfmBOoqrgaGLAspjRN7j3PBO3xND5d5uEzhn--Et3MyeCXz76gFB3jzf
9 Helmi 49min
Debunking Common Myths About Polyamory
Ever had someone question your polyamorous or non-monogamous relationships—or share misconceptions about what polyamory really is? If you’re new to exploring non-monogamy, you might even find yourself wondering the same things! In this episode, we bust five of the most common and persistent myths that have shaped public perceptions, created unnecessary fears, and discouraged people from exploring non-monogamous relationships—even when they know monogamy isn’t the right fit: 🚫 Polyamory is only about sex 🚫 Polyamorous people can’t commit or do the work of being in a monogamous relationship 🚫 Polyamory is unnatural 🚫 Polyamory always leads to jealousy 🚫 Polyamory is just a phase until you find the "right person" + if you truly loved someone, you wouldn’t need anyone else We dive into why these myths simply aren’t true, sharing personal stories, real-life examples, and insights from our years of coaching, therapy practices, and lived experiences in the polyamorous community. 💡 Whether you’re poly-curious, have been practicing non-monogamy for years, or simply want to understand more about consensual non-monogamy, this episode is packed with eye-opening truths and valuable takeaways. We’d love to hear your thoughts! If you’re listening on Spotify, drop us a comment. Join our Let's Talk Polyamory private Facebook group to ask questions, share your experiences, and connect with others. 🎧 Tune in now to debunk these myths and discover the truth about polyamory and non-monogamy! Show Resources: Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly The Little Book of Poly Love - Join the list to be informed when it’s released - https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá. Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Looking for coaching support? Book a consultation call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue
28 Tammi 33min
B is for BISEXUALITY: Identity, Expressions, Myths & Realities
What does being BISEXUAL mean to you? Is it simply about who you're attracted to, or does it extend to your identity, expressions, and how you move through the world? Are you proudly out or navigating life in the closet? In this episode, B is for BISEXUALITY: Identity, Expressions Myths & Realities, we explore bisexuality in all its rich and wonderful dimensions. We unpack what it means to identify as bisexual, debunk common myths, and dive into the stats behind this often-misunderstood identity. We also explain other related identities and expressions including fluid, omnisexual, pansexual, queer, bigender, and androgynous. We examine how bisexual people are sometimes perceived by stereotypes - like the “tourist” trope or the idea that bisexuality is “just a phase”—and highlight research (like a study from Cornell University) that challenges those narratives. We confront invisibility, erasure, and biphobia, exploring the ways these challenges shape the lives of bi folks. Of course, it wouldn’t be one of our episodes without a few detours! Along the way, we also chat about squirting, the G-area (aka the G-spot), P-spot stimulation, orgasms, and pleasure. This is one of our most personal, revealing episodes yet—full of insights, humour, and plenty of thought-provoking moments. Don’t miss it! This is part of our T&A Alphabet Series, originally broadcast as live trainings in our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook Community and on YouTube. The series covers a wide range of topics related to non-monogamy, relationships, identity, and sexuality, and we are thrilled to share it with our podcast audience throughout Season 2 and beyond. ✨ COMING IN 2025: Many of the terms and insights from this series will feature in our T&A Picture Book, a visual and accessible guide to navigating non-monogamy, relationships, and identity. Join the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s available! Need support in having wildly successful, secure and sexy non-monogamous relationships? Join us for POLY NEWBIES - The Course! https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiescourse Show Resources: The Little Book of Poly Love - Join the list to be informed when it’s released - https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Looking for coaching support? Book a consultation call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Episode 33: How to Talk to Kids with Ms. Ashley Robertson - https://open.spotify.com/episode/4mNuk3UkfqUJGWV79BnA4S?si=Y9xSQUxVQKa8gX9pPoy_0g
21 Tammi 56min
A is for Anorgasmia and How to Have Awesome Sexual Pleasure!
Many people think of orgasms as the ultimate destination when it comes to pleasure, but the truth is, they’re just one part of the journey. If you’ve ever struggled with orgasms or thought it was just about physical stuff, buckle up—this episode will have you rethinking a lot of things, taking notes and maybe even laughing along the way! In this episode A is for Anorgasmia and How to Have Awesome Sexual Pleasure we take a playful, yet deeply informative dive into: What anorgasmia actually is (spoiler: it’s more common than you think!). The different types of anorgasmia and the causes behind them. Statistics about anorgasmia and orgasms in general with some myth-busting included. How to talk about what you want to increase your pleasure! And how it’s important to get out of your head and into your body and senses for greater pleasure. We give an up close and person view into our own relationship and individual experiences with pleasure and sex. This is also a special episode as we share a story about talking to André’s 78 year mom about our openness as well as her own desires for dating and a long-term partner. Sadly Maman is no longer with us but there’s some lovely memories of her at the beginning of the episode. 💖 This kicks off our Alphabet Series a collection of trainings that were originally live broadcasted to our Let’s Talk Polyamory private Facebook group. In these lively talks, we unpack everything from non-monogamy and relationships, to sexuality, identity and everything in between. We’re thrilled to bring these fan-favourites to the podcast throughout Season 2 and beyond, alongside brand-new episodes! ✨ COMING SOON: Many of the terms and concepts from this series and more will feature in our Little Book of Poly Love (working title) set to release in 2025. Add yourself to the waitlist to be the first to know when it’s available! Show Resources: The Little Book of Poly Love - Join the list to be informed when it’s released - https://go.letstalkpolyamory.com/polylovebook-waitlist Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Looking for coaching support? Book a consultation call with Tara - https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Let’s Talk Polyamory Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Club L Montreal - https://www.leclubl.com/ Relationship Visualization Exercise with Tara on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnDKIkKD35g&t=27s Sensual Touch Partner Experience with Tara & André - https://www.youtube.com/live/pl9i8PbfTXo?si=laNAJGNKzehnVm2D Find out more about us and services, programs and more at https://taraandandre.com/
13 Tammi 38min
5 Steps to Have Holly Poly-Days and Start 2025 Feeling Secure
Who doesn't want to make their way through the holidays with ease and comfort and as little drama as possible? The holiday season means time spent with friends, family and lovers. And it also can mean a few other things… having to make tough choices on where to be and when to be there, WHO to be with? having to deal with family members that don't necessarily agree with your relational choices or partner(s) needing to de-stress & prioritize fun and sexy times in between all the holiday obligations And if anything is feeling shaky in terms of your non-monogamy journey, the holidays can be, as André describes "miracle grow for your feelings" and amplify those issues making things stressful or uncomfortable. In this podcast episode we talk in detail about 5 things you can do now to set your holidays up for success and start 2025 feeling much more secure: Reflect on the past year Conduct a thorough RAADAR Relationship Review to assess the health and dynamics of your relationships and connections using the Do some pre-planning - the who, what, where, when, and how Sharpen your effective communication skills and communicate your needs, wants and desires to partners Prepare and build your toolkit and get direct or indirect support! Interwoven in this discussion as always are a ton of gems of knowledge and stories from their personal experiences and those of friends and people we work with. And if you're looking for holiday gift that keeps on giving for your partner and yourself that will allow you start 2025 feeling FAB-U-LOUS-LY SECURE, sign up for our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course! And don't worry about having to do it all right away, you'll have a full 6 months to get it all done! We have a special offer for our podcast listeners and Let's Talk Polyamory community. Find out more here - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Show Resources: Poly Newbies Digital Course - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Open Relationship & Polyamory Mastery Program - https://go.taraandandre.com/polyamorymastery Let’s Talk Polyamory Private Facebook Group & Community - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Multiamory Podcast - https://www.multiamory.com/podcast Fit Feels Good by Oonagh Duncan (the health and fitness program Tara is a part of) - https://www.fitfeelsgood.com/ Need support and curious about coaching or therapy? Book a consultation call with us: https://go.taraandandre.com/relationshiprescue Find out more about us and services, programs and more at https://taraandandre.com/
17 Joulu 202449min
36: Your Poly Newbie Survival Kit Essentials
What essentials need to be in your Poly Newbie Survival Kit?Are you new to non-monogamy or opening up a relationship? In this episode, we’ll equip you with a list of the tools, insights, and strategies you need to thrive—and avoid some of the most common challenges along the way. These essential steps are drawn straight from our 7-module Poly Newbies Digital Course, designed to set you up for success:1️⃣ The Basics of Non-Monogamy: Key definitions, identifying your “why,” and navigating your hopes and fears.2️⃣ Choosing Your Style: Exploring what kind of non-monogamy aligns with your needs and desires.3️⃣ Mastering Communication: Building connection, eliminating toxic patterns, and speaking your truth effectively.4️⃣ Rightsizing Jealousy: Understanding this complex emotion and cultivating greater security.5️⃣ Attachment Styles: Discovering yours and moving toward secure attachment.6️⃣ Boundaries & Agreements: Creating personal boundaries and our signature Values-Based Relationship Agreements™.7️⃣ Keeping It Awesome: Relationship check-ins, dating tips, and maintaining the spark!✨ Plus, we dive into juicy extras, including:The stages of polyamory—from curious newbies to seasoned veterans.Whether there’s a “right” age to explore non-monogamy.Surprising challenges when opening up an already solid relationship.All this and personal stories from our own non-monogamy journey! 🎉Hit play and start your journey toward thriving in non-monogamy! 🎧💖Show Resources & Special Offers: Poly Newbies Digital Course Community Offer at $97 for 6 months of access - https://courses.letstalkpolyamory.com/polynewbiesspecialoffer Poly Diaries Docs-Series - Subscribe and listen to our diary entries and others at https://www.youtube.com/@PolyDiaries Looking for therapy? Reach out to host André Turcotte and book a consultation call at andreturcottepsych@gmail.com Have questions about our course or looking for private individual or couple’s coaching? Book a consultation call with host Tara at https://go.taraandandre.com/15mincoffeechat Join the Community: Connect will other polyamorous folk here - https://www.facebook.com/groups/letstalkpoly Learn more: Explore our services, programs and more at https://taraandandre.com/
2 Joulu 202423min
