How Your Past Can Hold You Back From Being in a Healthy Relationship Ep. 125

In this episode, I explore the powerful journey of accepting a breakup as a crucial step towards personal growth and healing. Many of us struggle to let go of past relationships, holding on to the hope of reconciliation. Today, we delve into the reasons behind this reluctance and how embracing the reality of a breakup can pave the way for profound transformation. Key Points: The Struggle to Let Go: Many individuals find it challenging to accept that a relationship has ended, often clinging to the hope of a reunion. This reluctance can manifest in behaviors like comparing new dates to the ex, seeking reactions on social media, or dating to incite jealousy. Fear of the Unknown: Change is inherently uncomfortable, and the fear of the unknown can make accepting a breakup difficult. Similar to the challenges faced during unforeseen events like the onset of COVID-19, the end of a relationship thrusts individuals into a new, uncertain reality. Avoidance of Change: Humans tend to resist change, and the end of a relationship disrupts established routines and rituals. The discomfort of facing this change can intensify the emotional pain of a breakup. The Blessing in Breakups: I share my personal story of breaking up with my now-husband. The initial breakup was driven by a need for personal growth, especially regarding the complexities of blending families. The importance of acknowledging when a relationship lacks a future is emphasised. The Impact of Acceptance on Growth: Accepting a breakup is a catalyst for personal growth. It forces individuals to confront unresolved issues, take responsibility for their choices, and embark on a journey of self-discovery and healing. Case for Acceptance: Real change and growth can only occur with a certain level of acceptance. I talk about making peace with the breakup, and highlighting that accepting reality provides the foundation for moving forward and building a better life. A Personal Example of Growth: I illustrate how the breakup was a blessing that propelled me towards significant personal growth. The relationship was rekindled only after both of us underwent necessary self-work and reflection. Overcoming Limiting Beliefs: It's essential to challenge limiting beliefs, such as the idea that there's only one person for each of us. Acceptance opens up possibilities, allowing individuals to grow and potentially outgrow ex-partners. 9. Empowerment through Acceptance: Acceptance restores agency and empowerment. By making peace with the breakup, individuals liberate themselves from the shackles of a past relationship, fostering the freedom to make decisions without being held back. Conclusion: Embracing the reality of a breakup is the first step towards personal empowerment and growth. It's a challenging journey, but the rewards are transformative. By accepting that a relationship has ended, individuals open themselves to the vast possibilities of life and love. Connect with Sylvia: instagram.com/breakuptoblessing Do you want to get over your ex but don't know how? Join my waitlist for my "Get Over Heartbreak" Program coming up in Jan 2024 ➡️ https://www.sylviasuwan.com/comingsoon-get-over-heartbreak-program

26 Marras 202311min

In this Friday episode, I talk about the power of storytelling and how the story you tell yourself has an impact on how your life plays out, and how it impacts your healing. Here are the headlines of this bite-sized episode:   The Victim Mindset The Power of Self-Reflection Empowerment vs. Disempowerment Your Story, Your Reality Positive Impact on Healing Free Healing Affirmations PDF for Self-love Take this weekend to reflect on what your story is, and write a NEW story. To help you with this download my free healing affirmations PDF by clicking the link below: Grab your free PDF: 40 Healing Affirmations healingaffirmations Connect with me on Instagram: Connect

23 Marras 20235min

In this empowering episode of Breakup to Blessing, we explore the journey of rebuilding self-worth after heartbreak. Join Sylvia as she shares principles and tips to elevate your sense of value. Let's dive into the key takeaways: Authenticity Over Conformity Acknowledging the common tendency to question one's worth after a breakup. Emphasizing the importance of authenticity and staying true to oneself. Exploring the negative impact of molding oneself into someone else to gain love. Defining Self-Worth Challenging misconceptions by defining self-worth beyond external factors. Introducing the concept of living in alignment with personal values. Reflecting on the host's values as an example. Separating from Relationships Recognizing the challenge of losing oneself in a relationship. Advocating for self-discovery post-breakup, especially for those prone to quick rebounds. Sharing personal experiences and the transformative power of taking a sabbatical to work on oneself. Unconditional Self-Love Addressing the complexity of self-love and its roots in unconditional acceptance. Illustrating the concept by comparing it to the inherent worthiness of an infant. Emphasizing the unlearning of learned behaviors from past experiences. Choosing Healthy Relationships Linking self-worth to relationship choices and the partners one attracts. Highlighting the importance of valuing oneself to avoid accepting disrespectful behavior. Sharing personal insights on how self-worth influenced the host's current relationship. Practicing Self-Compassion Recognizing the impact of negative self-talk on self-esteem. Advocating for self-compassion as a tool for growth and changing post-breakup narratives. Sharing personal experiences of reframing breakup stories with self-compassion. Celebrating Effort and Setting Boundaries Shifting focus from end results to the effort invested in achievements. Emphasizing the importance of setting healthy boundaries for self-advocacy. Sharing personal growth in setting boundaries and its positive impact. Conclusion Summarizing key principles for raising self-worth after heartbreak. Encouraging listeners to embrace their journey and be kind to themselves. Delivering a heartfelt thank you for joining "Breakup to Blessing." Inviting feedback, ratings, and sharing for a broader impact. If you tuned in to Friday's episode send me a DM in Instagram and let me know how you went: www.instagram.com/breakuptoblessing Work with me 1:1 www.sylviasuwan.com/our-services

19 Marras 202316min

In this special Friday episode of "Breakup to Blessing," I delve into the challenges that weekends can bring, particularly during times of heartbreak. Join me as I explore the transition from eagerly anticipating weekends to dreading them due to loneliness. Key Points: Empathy and Purpose   Introduction to the purpose of Friday episodes: offering inspiration, hope, and practical tips for more meaningful weekends. Highlighting the intention behind the episodes as a source of comfort during challenging times. The Power of Mindset Illustration of how mindset impacts approaching challenging tasks, with a personal example from the host's business. Encouragement to shift towards constructive thinking, using questions to prompt positive reflection. Emphasis on changing one's outlook leading to more constructive actions, shaping day-to-day life. Utilizing the Weekend for Healing Reminder that listeners are not alone in their experiences. Encouragement for self-care and reflection during the weekend as an opportunity for personal growth. Suggestions for asking empowering questions to guide a positive mindset for healing. Emphasizing the goal of finding peace with oneself, laying the foundation for future relationships. Practical Tips for the Weekend Recommendations for mindfulness and breathing exercises for grounding in the present moment. Suggesting resources like free YouTube videos and apps for further exploration. Reminding listeners to acknowledge emotions without judgment or comparison. Proposal of journaling as a therapeutic tool to release bottled-up emotions. Connect with Sylvia: www.sylviasuwan.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/breakuptoblessing

16 Marras 20236min

Welcome back to Breakup to Blessing! In today's episode, we're building on last week's discussion about the importance of finding true purpose after a breakup. If you haven't listened to that episode, I recommend starting there for context. Summary of Last Episode: Recap: In the previous episode, we explored how distractions alone aren't enough to help you move on from an ex. Many find themselves stuck in a cycle of busyness without true fulfillment. The Concept of Ikigai: Introduction to Ikigai The Four Essential Circles: Something you love Something you are good at Something the world needs Something you get paid to do The Importance of Finding Your Ikigai: I share personal insights on how those who lack purpose struggle to move on after a breakup. Emphasis on the need for balance in life. Practical Steps to Uncover Your Ikigai Finding Overlaps and Implementing Your Ikigai: We identify overlaps between the answers to the four questions. Adapting Your Ikigai Over Time: The importance of ongoing self-reflection and adaptation to changing circumstances. Connect with Sylvia: www.instagram.com/breakuptoblessing www.sylviasuwan.com

14 Marras 202313min

Sylvia warmly welcomes listeners back to the Breakup to Blessing podcast, expressing gratitude for their dedication to healing and personal growth. In this episode, Sylvia delves into the common post-breakup advice of finding distractions, shedding light on the nuanced difference between merely distracting oneself and investing in activities that nurture one's future. Episode Highlights: 1.      Distraction vs. Investment: ·         Sylvia addresses the misconception around post-breakup advice, emphasizing the importance of distinguishing between mindless distractions and purposeful investments in one's well-being and growth. 2.      Individual Circumstances Matter: ·         She highlights the uniqueness of each person's healing journey, emphasizing that factors like natural temperament, relationship circumstances, and personal perspectives significantly influence the recovery process. 3.      Practical Guidance: ·         Sylvia encourages listeners to pay close attention to their feelings and reactions when engaging in different activities. She prompts them to notice moments of presence and engagement, as well as instances where activities may exacerbate negative emotions. 4.      Investing in What Works: ·         Using personal anecdotes, Sylvia illustrates the importance of identifying activities that provide even a slight respite from pain. She encourages listeners to explore and invest in what brings them solace and comfort. 5.      Moving Beyond Distraction: ·         Sylvia asserts that while practices like spending time in nature and self-care are crucial, they alone may not lead to profound healing. She emphasizes the necessity of actively working through emotions and seeking a balanced life. 6.      The Concept of Ikigai: ·         Sylvia introduces the Japanese philosophy of Ikigai, which centers on finding one's "reason for being." She explains how this concept, encompassing passion, expertise, livelihood, and societal need, contributes to a fulfilling life. 7.      Ikigai as a Healing Philosophy: ·         Sylvia emphasizes how cultivating an Ikigai-driven life provides a powerful foundation for overcoming adversity, including the challenges of healing after a breakup. 8.      Designing a Meaningful Life: ·         Sylvia shares that when one's life is designed around purpose, fulfillment, and financial stability, romantic love becomes a beautiful addition rather than a sole source of fulfillment. 9.      Coming Up: Finding Your Ikigai: ·         Sylvia teases the next episode, where she'll dive deeper into the process of discovering one's Ikigai and embarking on a journey of purpose and fulfillment. Connect with Sylvia: ·         Website: www.sylviasuwan.com ·         Instagram: @breakup2blessing

31 Loka 202311min

In this episode, I delve into the often overwhelming experience of feeling obsessed or addicted to an ex-partner after a breakup. I explain the scientific underpinnings of this phenomenon, shedding light on why these emotions can feel so intense and difficult to overcome. Episode Highlights: The Neuroscience Behind Obsession: The Withdrawal Effect: Love as an Addiction: Practicing Self-Compassion: Breaking Destructive Habits:  The Power of Conscious Choices Connect with Sylvia: Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Instagram: @breakup2blessing

28 Loka 20238min

In this episode, Sylvia delves deep into a common modern dilemma: the irresistible temptation to check up on our exes via social media. With the accessibility of today's technology, this seemingly innocuous habit has become prevalent. Sylvia explores the motives behind it, its impact on our well-being, and shares strategies to break free from this cycle. Episode Highlights: Emotional Connection through Digital Connectivity Sylvia uncovers the emotional pain of loss, leading individuals to seek any means of reconnecting, even if it intensifies their pain. Research draws parallels between post-breakup emotions and those experienced in addiction, shedding light on the power of this impulse. Curiosity and Seeking Closure Even years after a breakup, curiosity about our ex-partners' lives may linger. Sylvia emphasizes the importance of understanding our motives in seeking answers, emphasizing healthy closure. Yearning to be Irreplaceable Sylvia delves into the desire to leave an indelible mark on our exes, hoping they'll realize their mistake and return. She warns against falling into the comparison game, which often leads to seeking validation through social media. Winning the Breakup Game Sylvia addresses the desire to see who is "doing better" post-breakup. She cautions against placing too much value on this perceived sense of victory, highlighting its potentially destructive nature. The Quest for Closure and Unanswered Questions Sylvia acknowledges the common impulse to seek answers through social media, especially when closure feels elusive. She advises caution, as conclusions drawn from online interactions may lead to even more unanswered questions. The Impact of Ex-Stalking Research findings from Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking reveal the negative effects of maintaining digital ties or engaging in ex-partner "stalking." These include prolonged distress, heightened negative emotions, increased sexual desire, and longing for the ex-partner, all of which obstruct the healing and moving-on process. Resisting the Temptation Sylvia offers practical advice, emphasizing immediate awareness of how you'll feel after succumbing to the temptation. She encourages redirecting energy positively by engaging in enjoyable activities. Journaling for Emotional Processing Sylvia suggests using a journal as a tool for expressing feelings and emotions, focusing on the emotional aspect rather than dwelling on negative thoughts or hypothetical scenarios. The Breakup Survival Guide Listeners are invited to access a free guide with practical tips to navigate through the healing process. Details can be found at www.sylviasuwan.com. Conclusion: Sylvia reminds listeners that healing is not a linear process. She offers words of encouragement, emphasizing their strength and capability to overcome this challenging phase. Thank you for joining us in this exploration. We look forward to connecting with you in the next episode! Show Notes: Introduction Emotional Connection through Digital Connectivity Curiosity and Seeking Closure Yearning to be Irreplaceable Winning the Breakup Game The Quest for Closure and Unanswered Questions The Impact of Ex-Stalking Resisting the Temptation Journaling for Emotional Processing The Breakup Survival Guide Closing Thoughts Connect with Sylvia: Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Instagram: @breakup2blessing

26 Loka 202315min