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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

24 Loka 202533min

We are the self help generation. There is so much access to information on how to better ourselves, work through all the sh*t from our childhoods, and break cycles. Today’s episode is going to be particularly interesting to anyone who is a parent, but even if you don’t have kids yourself, it will help you understand some of the psychology of your own experiences growing up and how those experiences show up in our day to day lives. Dr. Shefali is joining us today and she has been described by Oprah herself as “one of the most profound parenting experts of our time”. With a doctorate in clinical psychology, Dr Shefali is a New York Times bestselling author multiple times over, and the founder of the Conscious Parenting movement. Much of her work centers around healing a lot of the stuff that we are carrying with us from our childhood into our adult lives - and how it shows up in our parenting styles. She also answers one of the biggest parenting questions we tend to ask ourselves - how to build resilience in kids in today’s chaotic world. We chat: How Dr Shefali’s work was revolutionary at the time, but we are now immersed in it Our ego gets in the way when we are parenting How much of our experience as a parent is impacted by our own childhood The real reason children have tantrums Our kids don’t need the ‘heavily architectured’ lives we give them full of extra curricular activities every day Building resilience in kids and how to find the balance Unpacking our challenging relationships with our parents Is parenting actually a selfless act? You can get yourself a ticket to Dr Shefali’s tour SydneyMelbourne You can find more from Dr Shefali’s website and Instagram You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Laura Byrne Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

23 Loka 202547min

Hey lifers! First up, we address the reports that the future of the podcast is unknown. Britt has a friend that received a message from someone they went on two dates with. If Britt hadn't seen it with her own eyes she would have said it was a fake story! Last week we told you about the ridiculous reason Keeshia and Delilah ended up at the vets and today we share the silliest reason your pet made you have a vet visit. Halloween is around the corner. Do you get the treats for the kids or do you pretend you’re not home? Britt wants the kids to tap dance and Keeshia wants dog ‘trick and treating’ to start. Victoria's Secret ditches ‘woke’ rebrand and returns to 'unapologetically sexy' roots. Last week, the new and improved Victoria's Secret Fashion Show made its return to Brooklyn for the second year in a row. They have reversed their "woke" rebrand and they’re moving back to a more traditional, "sexy" image after a period of declining sales, after the reaction to the failure of its inclusivity-focused marketing. In 2025 is woke branding dead or just being recalibrated? We unpack how virtue signalling and brands undergoing impurity tests may have contributed to consumer fatigue. We speak about whether we still want advocacy for social justice issues in marketing and whether this ‘nostalgic’ return to advertising might have more to do with more conservative politics than anything else.We speak about the notion of ‘go woke, go broke’ and the more recent American Eagle campaign with Sydney Sweeney and Carl’s Jr with Alis Earle.We referenced a reel by @carlzjsoda You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

21 Loka 202549min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions!Keeshia had a bit of a nightmare commute to work this morning and it led to her disclosing some of our BTS secrets. We somehow ended up speaking about trigger warnings and the research that suggests they’re not as useful as we have been led to believe.Vibes for the week:Keeshia - Emily Henry “Great Big Beautiful Life” Britt - @parkergetajob Then we jump into your questions! THINKING ABOUT MAKING A SEX TAPE FOR MY BFMy partner and I are thinking about making a sex tape. He is FIFO week on week off swings. We can’t really talk on the phone or FaceTime. Because of his job he is around people all the time and sleeps in a swag with everyone else around him so people would hear if I call him for sexy time. I trust him and don’t have any fears that he will show anyone or anything bad will happen. However, am I being stupid because things live on the internet forever and it could always get out somehow. The person you date if not the same person you break up with, maybe it does get out one day. Do I do it or not? Also have either of you ever done it? I love you girls so much and couldn’t think of anyone else I could ask this question to. HOW TO DISCUSS FINANCES/DEFACTCO WITH NEW BF - I EARN MUCH MOREI’ve been seeing a guy for about 5-6 months. Everything is going great and he is a walking green flag. I’m starting to feel myself get a bit more invested but still not 100%. My problem is a financial one. I have a relatively successful business (I’m talking 7 figures) which he is aware of. I understand that there will come a time where we have to discuss what this looks like going forward and when we are classed as a de facto relationship, how finances will look. I know that there are some criteria that have to be met before being classed as a de facto relationship and what he may be entitled to, should we continue on this steady path. In my opinion, everything that I have earnt before him in my business and property purchases, is considered my own and I worry that he could be entitled to that when we are considered de facto (not that I think he would take anything from me, but you never know)! The thing is, I’m unsure of when I should broach this topic with him. Part of me wants to discuss it now so I know we are on the same page, rather than getting another 1-2 years in and he is unhappy about it. If he’s unhappy about it, that’s a big red flag to me. Is it worth having this conversation sooner rather than later, and if so, how would you go about discussing it ? We are quite open with everything else and we each know what the other owns and salaries etc. He also partially owns a property and is on a six figure salary. MY DAUGHTER HAD A SLEEPOVER WITH A STRANGER WITHOUT US KNOWINGI'm married with a 6 year old daughter from a previous marriage. My new husband is amazing and adores my daughter. We are having another baby in November. My in-laws were great for the first few months but have had a few issues come up and I want to know what your opinion is of this particular scenario. My daughter was having a sleepover with my in-laws, who she adores. I found out whilst they had her that my husband's mum's nephew had come over and had a sleepover too. He is 9 and we have met him maybe 2 or 3 times. They slept in the same bed upstairs whilst my partner's parents were sleeping downstairs. We were incredibly uncomfortable with this. When we confronted them, it was basically implied that we were being over dramatic and they refused to accept that we weren't okay with it and did not apologise. Do you think we were being over dramatic? When my husband picked her up he walked in the room and they were watching movies and TV shows in the bed together, not supervised and the nephew didn't even recognise who my husband was so we are definitely not close family. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

19 Loka 202551min

It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

17 Loka 202541min

Hey Lifers! Today’s guest is someone that Britt is completely convinced she manifested on to the podcast!Teddy’s voice has been the sound track to her relationship hard launch, her engagement and also her wedding first dance! Teddy is the superstar singer songwriter behind hits like ‘Lose Control’ which has over 2 billion streams on Spotify, ‘Bad Dreams’ and ‘The Door’. He also has a brand new song out with our friend Tones and I and David Guetta! He’s currently touring around Australia, playing sold-out arena shows! But behind the tattoos and the big voice is just a salt of the earth guy who really hustled his way into the music industry. We chat about: The first time Teddy ever heard his song ‘Lose Control’ on the radio from a service station bathroom where he had in fact ‘lost control’ Teddy’s upbringing with Christian pastor grandparents and great male influences Teddy’s mum crying when he said he wanted to stop playing football and do musical theatre Whether he was ever pressured by record labels to ‘be’ a certain way or change the music he was making The hustle and not being an overnight success Writing from heartbreak v writing from a place of happiness Teddy experiencing his first ‘slow burn’ love Becoming a father and it changing his purpose in life Teddy being into manifestation Teddy’s ‘made it moment’ being quite unusual and it involves spy kids What it was like performing at the NRL grand final What Teddy thought of Britt's wedding dance You can find tickets for his AUS/NZ show Follow Teddy on Instagram and Youtube You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Hosted by Britt Hockley & Keeshia Pettit Produced by Keeshia Pettit Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford Recorded on Cammeraygal Land Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! Xx See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

16 Loka 202533min

Hey Lifers! Laura is back and she’s brought Poppy in so we can all hear about how Poppy entered the world! But firstly, we had a really scary moment with Delilah and the vets last week. There were mixed emotions, preparation for surgery and even a souvenir. Laura shares how she was hiding a bit of anxiety about having her 3rd baby and how she was gearing herself up to be miserable for a year. She also speaks about how varied your experience can be based on the support you have around you and whether your baby sleeps and eats. We chat about: The difference between private and public birth The Push It Real Good playlist The song Poppy was birthed to Laura’s induction and what she didn’t know about epidurals How Poppy came out The most horrifying part - the post birth poop How Marlie Mae and Lola have adjusted to having another sister What’s changed in Laura’s relationship with Matt The difference in how mums and dads connect with newborns What Laura didn’t expect Not being able to swim post birth Whether Laura feels as though her family is ‘complete’ Britt also opened up about how frustrating it is that she has not felt the ‘maternal pull’ that everyone says you will feel when the people who are closest to you have a baby. She speaks about feeling broken for not having this thing that is apparently the ‘most natural’ thing for women to experience. You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

14 Loka 20251h 13min

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt has an aeroplane/travel dilemma of her own - who owns the space UNDER the seat? Is it the person whose designated seat it is? Or is it the person behind whose legs go underneath? Vibes for the week: Britt - __mrsinthemaking Bridal & Hens Personalised Jewellery Keeshia - Great Company with Jamie Laing Podcast - Spencer Matthews Our First Honest Conversation About Our Friendship Then we get into your questions! ARE TOPLESS WAITRESSES NORMAL?I recently found out that my husband and his mates sometimes ‘order’ topless waiters during their Saturday night drinks. He says it’s only happened 2–3 times over our 6 years together, but I can’t help feeling like it’s a bit sleezy and icky. He never mentioned it to me before, and I only found out after poking and prodding when I could tell he was hiding something on the weekend. He insists it’s never his idea and that he just goes along with the group. It’s usually 4–5 friends, none of whom have wives or kids at home (unlike us), and I guess I’m wondering… am I overreacting for feeling put off by this? Would this bother anyone else, or is it something I should just let slide MY FIL IS A PIG BUT ALSO HELPS ME OUTAm I justified in being frustrated with my filthy father in law, or is it the price I have to pay for a reliable pet sitter? For context, my partner and I have been together for 10 years and are in our late 20’s. My partner’s father is much older, aged in his 70’s, and will pet-sit for 2-3 weeks when we go overseas for an annual holiday. He is always very willing to house sit as he loves the fur-babies, and he lives by himself in a caravan park, so he enjoys the space and company. We of course give him a bit of cash (usually $50-100) to use towards take out. Now here is my dilemma. Every time we return home from a holiday, I am extremely frustrated with the lack of cleaning and things I find around the house that give me the ick. Certain things are probably outside my FIL’s control - like his dandruff skin flakes all over the couch. However, there’s things that have frustrated me and I can’t tell if I’m being unreasonable. Examples include: Tobacco flakes spilt on the floor and kitchen bench. - Food spillage on the kitchen floor and down the cupboard doors. - Putting dirty greasy Tupperware away because he refuses to use the dishwasher. Drapping his wet bath towel on the bed instead of 1 of the 3 towel racks in the bathroom. - And here is my main cleaning frustration. My FIL has a stoma bag (which I of course am not judging him for) and he obviously has to empty it. However, on multiple occasions, including most recently, we’ve come home to find a little bit of shit splattered on the toilet seat or even dripping down the bowl onto the floor. My partner will always clean up the toilet because I’m disgusted, but I also don’t think it’s my partner's responsibility to clean up after his dad when he is still mobile and capable. I have tried to say things as they arise, for example, asking my FIL not to smoke directly next to the clean laundry outside. However, I don’t feel like I should have to say this to a grown man. I am trying to see the other side of it, including the fact that he lives alone, so maybe my FIL doesn’t realise how messy he can be. However, I would be mortified if I house-sat for someone and left shit on their toilet for them to clean when they got home. My partner it’s not confrontational and does not want to embarrass his father, but I think his father is a grown man and should have more respect for our home and cleaning up after himself, even if he is doing us a favour by looking after the pets. So - should my partner and I say something to him? Or do I just suck it up, bite my tongue and clean up when we return home from a trip? IS EVERYONE A LITTLE UNHAPPY IN LOVE?Is everyone struggling just a little bit in their relationship or is it just me?!? Lifers I need help. I love my partner, we have been together for 5 years and he is exactly what I was looking for in a lot of ways. He’s thoughtful, emotionally available, loyal, affectionate, hard working, funny and just generally a good partner. And although most of the time I truly feel he is my penguin. There are also times where I completely question it all, lately a lot more. I sometimes feel he’s a bit immature, with his favorite activity still getting drunk most weekends with “the boys”. He’s not very present (completely hooked on his phone) and is very snappy/impatient. And sometimes these traits really make me question it all. Do we want the same things (I rarely drink)? Do I want kids with someone who is so snappy and impatient? Anyways, I’m worried i’m just striving for a perfection that doesn’t exist, that i’ll always feel the grass is greener and I need to stop being so critical. So my question is, are most couples just slightly unhappy? Do we all question our relationships from time to time and just not talk about it? I feel like most couples I know are all struggling with something, but i’m not sure if that’s how it usually is/or if it’s just my circle HUSBAND WANTS TO ‘WET THE BABY’S HEAD’ AND I THINK IT”S UNFAIR AND JUST A PISSUPI want to know your ladies thoughts on a ‘wet the head’? For context, my husband and I are expecting a baby in April next year. We aren’t the first in our friendship group to have a baby, so therefore my husband has been to a few wet the head celebrations before. Here’s the kicker; it always turns into a huge piss up. I’m talking bulk beers and hours at the pub while the new mother is at home alone in the absolute trenches of having a new born baby and navigating postpartum hormones. My husband was talking about his ‘wet the head’ a few days ago when I mentioned I wasn’t keen on the idea. He was quite upset by this when I stated that I don’t understand why the men would get a celebration after childbirth when respectfully they’ve done nothing I understand their excitement around having a new born baby and them having a proud dad moment, but wouldn’t it be better received if they were at home being a supportive father/husband. What are your thoughts? You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

12 Loka 202554min