564: Yale’s James Kimmel Jr. on the Science of Revenge

564: Yale’s James Kimmel Jr. on the Science of Revenge

James Kimmel, Jr., lawyer, Yale psychiatry lecturer, and author of The Science of Revenge, joins us in the Strategy Skills podcast to explore the neuroscience and behavioral dynamics of revenge. Drawing on law, psychiatry, and over two decades of research, Kimmel offers a sobering view: revenge is not a form of justice, it’s a “pleasure-seeking behavior” that operates like an addiction, fueled by unresolved pain.

He opens the conversation with a deeply personal story: as a teenager, after years of bullying, he chased down his aggressors with a loaded revolver. In a pivotal moment, he recalls, “The cost of getting the revenge I wanted was far more than I was willing to pay.” That flash of insight redirected his life and seeded a lifelong investigation into how grievance, retribution, and healing operate in the human mind.

Key insights from the discussion include:

  • Revenge Mimics Addiction in the Brain
    Kimmel explains that “your brain on revenge looks like your brain on drugs.” The cycle begins when a grievance activates the brain’s pain network, followed by a surge of dopamine in the reward system. Over time, the craving for retaliation can become compulsive, forming habits akin to substance abuse.
  • Grievance Retention Impairs Judgment
    Unchecked rumination can degrade executive function. “If that prefrontal cortex does not stop you,” Kimmel warns, “and you really crave it… it doesn’t matter how many laws there are.” This impaired self-control is what allows otherwise rational individuals to commit extreme acts of violence.
  • Social Exclusion Can Be a Form of Revenge
    “If you’re ending a relationship not for present harm, but to punish someone for a past wrong, that’s retaliation,” he explains. Even subtle acts like ghosting or ostracism can activate the same pain circuitry in the brain as physical harm.
  • Forgiveness Interrupts the Revenge Cycle
    Neuroscience shows that imagining forgiveness “shuts down the brain’s pain network, silences addiction circuits, and reactivates executive control.” Kimmel calls forgiveness a “human superpower… It doesn’t just cover up the pain like revenge does, it takes the pain away altogether.”
  • Revenge Can Be Prevented, Like a Heart Attack
    Kimmel proposes a new public health framework: treat revenge attacks like cardiac events. “There are warning signs,” he says, grievance fixation, revenge fantasies, acquiring weapons, and they demand the same level of emergency attention.
  • Legal Systems Often Deliver Revenge, Not Justice
    Kimmel reflects on his time as a litigator: “Lawyers get paid to sell revenge under the brand name ‘justice.’” He urges professionals to be aware of how sanctioned systems can enable and normalize compulsive retribution.

For leaders in high-stakes environments, the message is clear: understanding the mechanics of grievance and retaliation isn’t just psychological, it’s strategic. Kimmel’s work offers actionable frameworks to recognize revenge-seeking before it becomes destructive, and calls for a deeper integration of neuroscience into how we define justice, manage risk, and lead with compassion.

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519: Bain & Company's Partner Rob Markey on Customer Strategy, Customer Loyalty and Retention (Strategy Skills classics)

519: Bain & Company's Partner Rob Markey on Customer Strategy, Customer Loyalty and Retention (Strategy Skills classics)

In this episode with Rob Markey, we will discuss valuing and measuring customer loyalty. Rob highlights the gap between executives' intentions to prioritize customers and their actual practices, noting that only 8% of customers believe they receive exceptional experiences, despite 80% of executives thinking so. Rob discusses the need for companies to measure and manage customer lifetime value, using tools like Net Promoter Scores and customer segmentation. He also discusses the challenges of implementing customer-centric strategies, the importance of relationship recovery, and the role of leadership in driving these changes.   Rob Markey is a partner and director at Bain & Company and the founder of the firm’s Global Customer Strategy and Marketing practice. He is a co-author of The Ultimate Question 2.0 and is the host of the Net Promoter System podcast. He is based in New York.   Here are some free gifts for you: Overall Approach Used in Well-Managed Strategy Studies free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/OverallApproach   McKinsey & BCG winning resume free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/resumepdf   Enjoying this episode? Get access to sample advanced training episodes here: www.firmsconsulting.com/promo

20 Tammi 1h 7min

518: Former EY and KPMG Managing Director, Michael J. Lopez, on Strategies for Navigating Change

518: Former EY and KPMG Managing Director, Michael J. Lopez, on Strategies for Navigating Change

Welcome to Strategy Skills episode 518, an interview with the author of Change: Six science-backed strategies to transform your brain, body, and behavior, Michael J. Lopez.   In this episode, Michael shares his consulting journey and leadership challenges that shaped his leadership style and led him to start his own firm. He shares his advice for consultants aiming to become partners in today's hybrid work environment.    Michael also discussed change and how deeply personal it is that it can't be approached with one-size-fits-all solutions. Lopez explains why change takes longer than expected, especially in adults, and warns against organizations' tendency to focus too much on immediate outcomes rather than the necessary process of transformation.   Michael J. Lopez is a leading voice in change, combining scientific principles and human behavior to unlock potential in individuals and organizations. With diverse experience across industries, he designs innovative strategies that drive transformation and accelerate performance, earning recognition as a LinkedIn Top Voice.   Get Michael’s new book here: https://shorturl.at/NSBAn Change: Six science-backed strategies to transform your brain, body, and behavior   Here are some free gifts for you: Overall Approach Used in Well-Managed Strategy Studies free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/OverallApproach   McKinsey & BCG winning resume free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/resumepdf   Enjoying this episode? Get access to sample advanced training episodes here: www.firmsconsulting.com/promo

15 Tammi 47min

517: Digital Transformation Consulting: Technology Leader Insights

517: Digital Transformation Consulting: Technology Leader Insights

In this episode, we dive into digital transformation consulting, exploring the top digital transformation challenges faced by today’s technology leader from a large consulting firm working with C-suite executives on large-scale transformation projects. We’ll discuss how emerging tech consulting is shaping the future and how to balance vision and practicality while staying up to date on technology trends, especially the rapid move from AI to generative AI. We cover the challenges of business case development and overcoming ambiguous requirements that often arise in these fast-paced engagements.    We also cover the challenges of staying up to date with consulting best practices, and skill-building for consultants to stay ahead of complex client demands at a time when there is almost no time left in leaders' days for skills development.    It is about adapting to change, managing client expectations, and leading teams through fast-paced tech adoption. Gain insights into delivering digital strategy, employing communication skills and strategic thinking to achieve industry impact.   We will also touch on benchmarking a 5-year vision, aligning stakeholder goals, and working in a lucrative consulting niche, even though it can be stressful.   It is not easy to build disruptive solutions to earn client trust while staying up to date on tech advancements. Whether you’re new to continuous learning in consulting or an established professional, this video will give you ideas on navigating your consulting career successfully.   Also, learn how you can leverage knowledge from McKinsey, BCG et al. former partners, and resources from firmsconsulting.com and StrategyTraining.com to strengthen your consulting skills and stay relevant in a fast-changing world.   If you're ready to sharpen your consulting skills, get three exclusive gifts: Nine Leaders in Action eBook: https://specialoffers.firmsconsulting.com/gift McKinsey & BCG Winning Resume: https://firmsconsulting.com/resumepdf Well-Managed Strategy Study Guide: https://firmsconsulting.com/overallapproach   Watch the video version here: https://youtu.be/jUaO9WiR8NM?si=xGfAik9paUKV6zBE

13 Tammi 8min

516: Professor of Psychology on Succeeding as an Immigrant

516: Professor of Psychology on Succeeding as an Immigrant

Welcome to Strategy Skills episode 516, an interview with the author of Change the Wallpaper: Transforming Cultural Patterns to Build More Just Communities, Nilanjana Dasgupta.   In this episode, Nilanjana discusses her career journey and research on implicit bias and diversity science. She highlights her groundbreaking 2001 study showing that implicit attitudes can be changed through exposure to counter-stereotypical media images. Nilanjana also discusses the importance of understanding and addressing subtle forms of discrimination, such as accent and social class, in professional settings. She advocates for evidence-based strategies over diversity training to foster inclusive cultures.   Her new book, "Change the Wallpaper," offers practical approaches to creating cultural change for equality and justice, focusing on situational forces that influence behavior and perceptions.   Nilanjana Dasgupta is a professor of psychology at the University of Massachusetts. She is a leader in research on implicit bias, diversity science, and designing interventions to create local culture change. Her passion is to translate science for social good.   Get Nilanjana’s new book here: https://changethewallpaper.com/   Here are some free gifts for you: Overall Approach Used in Well-Managed Strategy Studies free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/OverallApproach   McKinsey & BCG winning resume free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/resumepdf   Enjoying this episode? Get access to sample advanced training episodes here: www.firmsconsulting.com/promo

8 Tammi 58min

515: McKinsey, BCG, Bain, Deloitte, PwC et al. Consulting Job Application Office Selection

515: McKinsey, BCG, Bain, Deloitte, PwC et al. Consulting Job Application Office Selection

Today, we will answer a common question about how to determine office location preference to include on the consulting job application with firms like McKinsey, BCG, and Bain and when applying to firms like Deloitte, PwC, KPMG, et al. The thinking process will also be applicable when considering taking a leadership role in various parts of the world versus selecting a role in your hometown or closer to home. Question we received from one of our subscribers: “I’ve been told that the office locations you select on your full-time consulting job application can significantly impact your opportunities. I am considering applying to my hometown office (I am from the US) or applying to another country to get international experience. What is your advice on thinking about this and making a decision?” #McKinsey #consultinginterviews #caseinterview

6 Tammi 16min

514: How to Select Consulting Specialization

514: How to Select Consulting Specialization

Students and consultants usually ask us for help with consulting specialization. This is a crucial question that consultants have to consider when mapping out their management consulting career path. Today’s video will provide our perspective on this topic. Many consultants do not understand consulting specialization. Sector and type of work are not mutually exclusive. What does that mean? To specialize, you need to define your area of specialization around three areas. After watching this video, you will have a much better understanding of how to select your area of specialization as you are building your consulting career.   If you're ready to sharpen your consulting skills, get three exclusive gifts: Nine Leaders in Action eBook: https://specialoffers.firmsconsulting.com/gift McKinsey & BCG Winning Resume: https://firmsconsulting.com/resumepdf Well-Managed Strategy Study Guide: https://firmsconsulting.com/overallapproach   Watch the video version here: https://youtu.be/FIOSVGq2mNs?si=EhGqKZMOQWw495Sr

1 Tammi 9min

513: 9-Figure Founder and E&Y Entrepreneur of the Year on How to Be Successful

513: 9-Figure Founder and E&Y Entrepreneur of the Year on How to Be Successful

Welcome to Strategy Skills episode 513, an interview with the author of Leading Giants: A Leader's Guide to Maximum Influence, Dave Durand.   In this episode, Dave explains his decision to approach life as an adventure, without fearing mistakes and prioritizing the best ideas over being right. He talks about building successful organizations by creating the right culture, hiring for values and cultural fit, and adapting to technological changes. He shares how he balances personal and professional responsibilities, advising us to maintain order in life and strive for continuous improvement.   Dave Durand is a 9-figure founder. He has built and sold multiple businesses which have collectively done over one billion dollars in sales in industries including media, digital services, and leadership training. He has been named Most Respected CEO three times by Glassdoor and Entrepreneur of the Year by Ernst & Young.   Get Dave’s new book here: https://shorturl.at/qoogX Leading Giants: A Leader's Guide to Maximum Influence   Here are some free gifts for you: Overall Approach Used in Well-Managed Strategy Studies free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/OverallApproach   McKinsey & BCG winning resume free download: www.firmsconsulting.com/resumepdf   Enjoying this episode? Get access to sample advanced training episodes here: www.firmsconsulting.com/promo

30 Joulu 202456min

512: How to Build Consulting Storyboards in 3 Weeks (This is How McKinsey, BCG, Bain, Deloitte Do It)

512: How to Build Consulting Storyboards in 3 Weeks (This is How McKinsey, BCG, Bain, Deloitte Do It)

In this episode, we dive into the art and science of creating consulting storyboards early in a strategy study. We'll address a thoughtful question from Henry, a subscriber, about how consultants at firms like McKinsey, etc. can prepare storyboards so quickly without pre-determined answers.   You'll learn: - Why starting with the objective function is key.  - How decision trees, hypotheses, and targeted analyses guide our approach.  - Common mistakes in communication and how to avoid them.    If you're ready to sharpen your consulting skills, get three exclusive gifts: Nine Leaders in Action eBook: https://specialoffers.firmsconsulting.com/gift McKinsey & BCG Winning Resume: https://firmsconsulting.com/resumepdf Well-Managed Strategy Study Guide: https://firmsconsulting.com/overallapproach   Watch the video version here: https://youtu.be/-BbNqxtryHQ?si=XuAEOuzbjh2pIjXV

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