What to Say When a Hijackal Says You're Being Overly Sensitive

What to Say When a Hijackal Says You're Being Overly Sensitive

Oh, that's crazy-making, right?

You try to talk about your feelings and you get shut down?


In today's episode, I give you insights into this whole nasty process of being blamed for being overly sensitive when you're actually speaking up for yourself when attacked.


You know what I'm talking about. IT HURTS!


Are you told that you're being overly sensitive too often? Hijackals® can be brutal. Nothing can be their fault, so everything has to be yours. When they want to put you down, and keep you down, they tell you how hopeless, useless, and worthless you are in SO many nasty, overt AND underhanded ways, right?


And, when you speak up for yourself, they tell you that you are overly sensitive, that you have a thin skin.


Or, the worst, that they were just kidding! You know so well they were not, but you also know that they take absolutely no responsibility for anything they do or say, so everything has to be your fault.


Speak up for yourself, and a #Hijackal will say anything to squish you like a gnat!


Today, I'm giving you insights into this nasty behavior, and a very good practice for how to respond effectively...over time.


HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

  • Why telling you constantly that you're overly sensitive is abusive
  • What's really going on this dynamic between you at that time
  • What to practice saying to yourself to get ready to respond well
  • How to speak up effectively for yourself...and, it works!


I hope this help you see that more clearly. If you need help with this, I'm here for you.


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I hope this empowers you to make positive changes NOW.


Talk soon.

Rhoberta


Rhoberta Shaler, PhD,

The Relationship Help Doctor

ForRelationshipHelp.com


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