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Robert Greene (@RobertGreene) is the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers on power and strategy. His latest book is The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Make sure to catch part one here!] What We Discuss with Robert Greene: The benefits of cultivating profound dissatisfaction with your own work while it's still in the process of being created. Why the attitude you have of the world has a feedback effect on the way the world sees you (and how you can change that attitude if it doesn't serve you). The emotional self thrives on ignorance: how focusing on the rational instead of succumbing to your feelings deprives those who prey on your emotions of their power. How you can balance the need to be rational, cautious, and skeptical with the benefits of being curious and open-minded to new ideas. What you can do to train yourself to see past the front that people put on and discover the signs of their true character. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/582 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Marras 20211h

Robert Greene (@RobertGreene) is the author of multiple New York Times bestsellers on power and strategy. His latest book is The Daily Laws: 366 Meditations on Power, Seduction, Mastery, Strategy, and Human Nature. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Stay tuned for part two later this week!] What We Discuss with Robert Greene: The one simple reason why Robert Greene's work resonates among the hip-hop community's most accomplished artists. How seeing the world through a lens of radical realism allows you to be prepared for the worst life can throw your way. What we can do to uncover a career path that aligns with what has brought us joy in the past (hopefully before working 80 jobs we hate like Robert did prior to writing his first bestseller). Why we shouldn't fret if we haven't found our calling early in life -- the experiences we've had and lessons we've learned along the way combine to give us a unique edge when we finally do find it. Always stick to what makes you strange and weird. What made you a "weird" kid makes you an interesting adult. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/581 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Marras 202151min

Grieving the loss of a sibling while still finding your footing at a new job is making it impossible to perform optimally, and you're worried your employer -- while overwhelmingly supportive of your plight -- may be forced to let you go. Is there anything you can do to manage your grief and find a way forward before it comes to this? We'll try to help with this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/580 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What can you do to manage the grief of losing your sibling and find a way forward before you're fired from your new job for subpar performance? Your nephew made an escalating series of bad choices, and now he's serving hard time for the next few years. A recent letter indicates he's adjusted his attitude and wants to turn his life around. How can you be supportive while he waits to be released? You work with a fellow salesperson who takes the spirit of friendly competition into the realm of petty high school rumormongering and character assassination. What can you do to keep your sanity while the boss gaslights the notion that this is even happening? You overcame poverty and work in finance, so your boyfriend's nonchalance over $20,000 in credit card debt and fuzzy details about future income give you pause about your future together. But can his good qualities cast aside the red flags you're seeing? Someone who once referred to you as one of his best friends has taken to completely blowing you off now that his girlfriend's moved to town. You've tried to connect a few times in the past few months only to be completely ghosted. This guy might not be the friend you thought he was, but it still puts a dent in your psyche. What can you do? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Loka 202144min

Yeonmi Park (@YeonmiParkNK) is a North Korean defector and activist whose harrowing experiences are chronicled in her book In Order to Live: A North Korean Girl's Journey to Freedom. [This is part two of a two-part episode. Catch up with part one here!] What We Discuss with Yeonmi Park: Why there's a black market for poop in North Korea. How the people of North Korea are kept isolated from the outside world to the extent that they use a different calendar, have never heard of Shakespeare, and don't even have words for "oppression" or "love." How North Korea's guilt-by-association policy can carry punishment for people who are within several generations of someone perceived as offensive to the regime. Why Yeonmi finds being on the North Korean regime's official kill list to be "liberating." How long it might take to watch Titanic in a country that only turns on the electricity for State holidays (and the ultimate penalty for getting caught doing so). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/579 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Loka 202159min

Yeonmi Park (@YeonmiParkNK) is a North Korean defector and activist whose harrowing experiences are chronicled in her book In Order to Live: A North Korean Girl's Journey to Freedom. [This is part one of a two-part episode. Please stay tuned for the conclusion later this week!] What We Discuss with Yeonmi Park: Why there's a black market for poop in North Korea. How the people of North Korea are kept isolated from the outside world to the extent that they use a different calendar, have never heard of Shakespeare, and don't even have words for "oppression" or "love." How North Korea's guilt-by-association policy can carry punishment for people who are within several generations of someone perceived as offensive to the regime. Why Yeonmi finds being on the North Korean regime's official kill list to be "liberating." How long it might take to watch Titanic in a country that only turns on the electricity for State holidays (and the ultimate penalty for getting caught doing so). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/578 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Loka 20211h 6min

Your narcissistic sister with special needs thinks nothing of "borrowing" thousands of dollars from you to invest in every sure-to-lose scam that comes her way, and now she wants to "borrow" more to check herself into an assisted care facility (which would make your life easier if you knew that's where the money was actually going). What should you do? This and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/577 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your narcissistic sister with special needs thinks nothing of "borrowing" thousands of dollars from you to invest in every scam that comes her way, and now she wants to "borrow" more to check herself into an assisted care facility. What should you do? [Thanks to cult and scam expert Dr. Steven Hassan for his help with this one!] You moved back home to accept what turned out to be a crummy job. The good news: your old, better-paying job in a city you actually like wants you back. The bad news: your girlfriend might not be able to make the move with you for a year and a half. Should you stay or should you go? Your brother and his wife are lazy, negligent parents to your nieces, aged four and six, allowing them free range of the neighborhood until 11 p.m. You fear for the children's safety, but you're not sure how to bring up solutions without starting a huge hullabaloo. You strive for excellence in all you do, but you want to do a lot. A wide range of hobbies keep you mentally stimulated, but you don't feel like you're able to focus on any one thing in order to excel. Is now the time to switch gears and leave some of your interests by the wayside to really shine at your career? Your little brother gets bad anxiety and overreacts to everything. You know that therapy could really improve his quality of life, but your mother is involved in politics and worries about what effect this would have on her image. How can you convince your parents to get your little brother therapy without it sounding like they're failing as parents? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!] Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Loka 202143min

General Michael Hayden (@GenMhayden) is a retired United States Air Force general, former Director of the NSA and CIA, and author of Playing to the Edge: American Intelligence in the Age of Terror. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh listen!] What We Discuss with General Michael Hayden: How does an intelligence agent view cognition, cognitive bias, and psychology differently from a policymaker? What is The Unpleasant Fact an intelligence agent brings to the briefing table? General Hayden gives us a rare glimpse of working for two very different presidents and conveys the importance of adapting to their particular learning styles. Find out what it’s like to present new intelligence to an administration that forces it to change policy. (Awkward!) Get General Hayden’s take on the Orlando shootings and the difficulty of balancing security with liberty. And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/576 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Loka 20211h 10min

Benjamin Hardy (@BenjaminPHardy) is an organizational psychologist and author of books about willpower, self-limiting beliefs, and teamwork. His latest offering (co-authored with Dan Sullivan), is The Gap and the Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success. What We Discuss with Benjamin Hardy: If you measure your current self against your ideal (often chosen and defined by other people rather than yourself), you’ll never be happy because there will always be a gap. Unsuccessful people primarily focus on this (but we all wind up here sometimes). If you measure your current self against your previous self — and notice the gain you've made between yesterday and today — you’ll experience happiness, satisfaction, and confidence. The most successful people understand this. The difference between ideals (general, immeasurable, and constantly changing) and goals (specific, measurable, and time-bound) -- and why your ideals shouldn't be your benchmark for achievement, but merely the source from which your goals are inspired. How you can weed out the arbitrary reference points with which you've been burdened by external sources and choose ones that are actually meaningful -- not just constant reminders of what you don't have. How the increased confidence that comes from living in the gain allows you to set bigger and more imaginative goals to truly tailor the fabric of your own life. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/575 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Loka 202153min