255: Tommy Caldwell | The Push for the Path Upwards

Is polite persuasion impossible among the presently polarized populace? Mindstuck: Mastering the Art of Changing Minds author Michael McQueen has answers! What We Discuss with Michael McQueen: Despite technological advances that have changed how we communicate, the psychology that dictates our persuasion, decision-making, and thinking remains the same. The effects of rationalizing our existing beliefs and the power of our expectations and perceptions. The importance of not defining ourselves by our opinions. Practical persuasion techniques such as priming and the power of sequence, as well as the effectiveness — and associated dangers — of using fear as a persuasive tool. How an understanding of these concepts can improve our ability to communicate and persuade — even when society seems hopelessly polarized (and doubly so during an election year). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/946 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Tammi 20241h 30min

The ex-wife turned your son against you because you called the cops when her daughter was caught on camera stealing from you. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: The ex-wife manipulated your son against you because you called the cops when her daughter was caught on camera stealing from you. Now he refuses to talk to you. What can you do? Is there a way to accept the job offer two states over that pays $60,000 more than you were making while sharing custody of your 16-year-old daughter who graduates in 18 months? Ever since you were young, networking and building relationships have made you uncomfortable, and you've always felt like you're inconveniencing people by contacting them. You think it may have to do with time spent around a volatile, negative sister during your formative years. How can you overcome this? Dr. Carl Hart claims that drugs like heroin, crack cocaine, and crystal meth can, when used responsibly, enhance a person's life in a variety of ways, such as helping married couples become closer. Well, in spite of losing your mother to heroin six years ago, you thought you might benefit from giving it a try — to disastrous results. While you're currently in recovery, you wanted to share your story with others to spare them from making the same mistake based on this "expert's" advice. Working at a large company, you're sick of watching so many others around you get promoted while you continue to languish in the middle ranks. And ever since failing to pass a grueling interview gauntlet for a leadership position, your morale has been drained. How can you heal this emotional wound? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/945 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Tammi 20241h 17min

What hurdles must humanity face before it can inhabit the final frontier? A City on Mars co-author Zach Weinersmith is here to ground us with the facts. What We Discuss with Zach Weinersmith: How tethered to reality are Elon Musk's grand plans for the human colonization of Mars? Shouldn't we focus on ensuring the sustainability of our current world before investing in centuries-long efforts to squeeze life out of a dead planet? With current technology, how well can human bodies be protected against prolonged exposure to radiation, extreme temperature fluctuation, and lesser gravity on the Red Planet and the Lunar surface? The economics of farming, mining, and extracting resources in space. The political, legal, and ethical considerations of space colonization. If now's not the most prudent time to hurl our species into the cold, uncaring void, then when? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/944 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Tammi 20241h 22min

You love your wife, but a surgical mishap makes sex painful for her. Is there an ethical way to have your needs met elsewhere? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Have some good stories about your most embarrassing moments that you wouldn't mind us featuring on a future Feedback Friday? Please share with us at friday@jordanharbinger.com (and we'll share some of our own as well)!  You love your wife, but a surgical mishap makes sex too painful for her. She once joked that maybe you should find a girlfriend to help you in that department, so you did — and it didn't go over as well as you might have hoped. Is there an ethical way to have your needs met elsewhere? An addendum to the statute of limitations in your state has you considering taking legal action against your father — who abused you when you were still a child. Would it be worth the time, energy, and money to do so at this point? [Once again, thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us answer another difficult one!] You're financially reliant on your judgmental mother who has withdrawn her support in the past when she felt your values didn't align with hers. How can you get out from under her thumb in what's thus far proven to be a brutally barren job market for your particular set of skills? As a "nice" boss, how can you cultivate the ability to share feedback with your employees that will foster their growth as professionals without feeling like you're nitpicking at their imperfections? You're no stranger to the indispensable power of therapy, but you've found yourself making excuses to avoid it ever since the death of a close friend last year hit you hard. What can you do to stop procrastinating and get the professional help you need? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]  Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Tammi 20241h 16min

How does emotional enmeshment (aka covert incest) with a parent shape our mental health and relationships? Dr. Ken Adams is here to help us understand. What We Discuss with Dr. Ken Adams: What enmeshment is, and how it entwines family members in an emotionally unhealthy way. How enmeshment dictates the course of future relationships. The connection between enmeshment and abuse. The underlying causes for enmeshment to take hold. How to spot enmeshment and begin the process of healing from its repercussions. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/942 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Tammi 20241h

It would be wise to avoid your domestically violent ex and her creepy, extorting family, so why do you want her back so much? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: It would be wise to avoid your domestically violent ex and her creepy, extorting family, so why do you want her back so much? You worked hard to 10x your income and upgrade life for you and your family, but your wife and kids disrespect and destroy whatever nice things you try to buy for them. What can you do? To diversify and expand your network, you're wondering if contacting a current or past professional client outside of the work setting is okay. If so, what boundaries should be observed? A listener thinks we may have been unfair in our assessment of the abusive ex from the lead story in episode 926. We respond — and explain how we weigh the narrative of any story that's shared with us! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/941 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Tammi 20241h 10min

How coded into our DNA are the universal innovations that have driven human history globally? Futurist Byron Reese shares what he's uncovered here! What We Discuss with Byron Reese: Why innovations that increase productivity are always good for humans — because they won't steal and devalue our jobs, but create more than we can fill. Why did it only take humanity three generations to get from the Wright Brothers' first flight at Kitty Hawk to landing on the moon, but our ancestors endured 80,000 generations using the same stone tool without modification? How much does civilization owe to the advent of language? Why are ancient cave paintings found around the world so eerily similar — down to stenciled human hands with missing fingers? What can we learn about our species and its intrinsic coding by studying the communication patterns of honeybees, ants, and other insects? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/940 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Tammi 20241h 2min

The high school principal wants your girlfriend's nude photo for his 'investigation' into the hacker who got her to send it. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is it odd that the high school principal wants your girlfriend's nude photo for his 'investigation' into the blackmailing hacker who — posing as you — convinced her to send it? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for getting us out of yet another pickle!] You spent four years getting a degree in a field that isn't hiring at the pay rate you're worth. Should you forge the path forward by starting your own business, continue working for peanuts, or just give up and go for a new degree? Your wife doesn't buy your estranged father's attempts to make nice with your family — since his dire medical diagnosis — as anything more than a narcissistic compulsion to regain power in the relationship. Does she have a point, or has Dad really turned over a new leaf? As an entrepreneurial woman building your successful business over the past 10 years, you find that clients seem to expect a level of personal involvement or interest above and beyond the service you're providing. How can you get them to respect your boundaries without sending them to the competition? You don't mean to come off as a closed book when meeting new people, but you have trouble understanding when it's appropriate to share thoughts and details from your personal life or keep them to yourself. How can you strike the right balance? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/939 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Tammi 20241h 9min