257: Overcoming Accidental Accomplice to Fraud | Feedback Friday

Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at human behavior research lab Science of People and the author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People and Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication. [Note: This is a previously broadcast episode from the vault that we felt deserved a fresh pass through your earholes!] What We Discuss with Vanessa Van Edwards: How can nonverbal communication affect the first impression you make to someone — even if they’re just hearing your voice over a telephone call? Explore the science of popularity — what makes the cool kids so cool? Understand the difference between social attraction and romantic attraction — and why they both matter. Find out what we can learn about people from their photographs — especially on dating sites. What interesting patterns turn up in researching episodes of reality television shows Blind Date and Shark Tank? And much more… Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/670 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our conversation with FBI hostage negotiator Chris Voss? Catch up with episode 165: Chris Voss | Negotiate as If Your Life Depended on It here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Touko 20221h 12min

Dallas Taylor is the host and creator of Twenty Thousand Hertz, a podcast revealing the stories behind the world’s most recognizable and interesting sounds. He is also the Creative Director of Defacto Sound, a TED mainstage speaker, a regular contributor to major publications, and a respected thought leader on the narrative power of sound. What We Discuss with Dallas Taylor: How sound designers create audio more in line with what our brains expect to hear when capturing it in reality would fall short. How the tricks of sound design are akin to a magician's ability to invisibly manipulate our emotions. Why we hear certain sounds recycled in movies and trailers to the point of cliché. With the perspective-bending nature of sound design occupying so many of his waking hours, does Dallas find elements of the job extending into off-the-clock parts of his life? Analog vs. digital (and why many prefer to rely on the older technology). And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/669 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss the show we did with Moby — musician, singer, songwriter, producer, animal rights activist, and author? Catch up here with episode 196: Moby | What to Do When Success Makes You Miserable! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Touko 20221h 8min

Tipping isn't a city in China. But it is a shameful institution that encourages racism, sexism, harassment, and exploitation of low-income workers while placing the burden of compensation on customers instead of business owners. If most restaurants and service-based industries in the world can exist without relying on tipping, why does the custom persist in the United States, and what would be a fairer, more sustainable alternative? Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and fact-checker, comedian, and podcast host David C. Smalley break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/668 On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss: The federal minimum wage for tipped workers is $2.13 per hour -- the same as it was 31 years ago (though it can be even less in some states under certain circumstances). Why is it the customer’s responsibility to pay these workers a fair wage? Why, contrary to the protests of whoever happens to be holding the purse strings, raising the minimum wage for the person serving you will not make your burger cost $25. How tipped workers are still expected to fulfill untipped tasks during their "down" time, but without a raise in compensation to make up for it. Why the institution of tipping encourages racism, sexism, harassment, and exploitation of low-income workers. How the custom of tipping came about, why it persists in places like the United States, and what we should be doing to replace it with something that would better serve the server and served, alike. Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Connect with David at his website, on Twitter, on Instagram, on TikTok, and on YouTube, and make sure to check out The David C. Smalley Podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! If you like to get out of your house and catch live comedy, keep an eye on David's tour dates here and text David directly at (424) 306-0798 for tickets when he comes to your town! Sign up for See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Touko 202240min

Your inseparable friend's perpetually ill spouse seems to get a sick kick out of infecting your family on the regular and refuses to respect any boundaries you've tried to establish that might keep her and her nasty cooties at bay. If you didn't know any better, you'd suspect she was doing it on purpose! What can you do to protect the health of your household from this physically -- and perhaps mentally -- unwell woman? We'll try to find a remedy to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/667 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your friend's perpetually ill spouse seems to get a sick kick out of infecting your family on the regular. How can you keep her and her nasty cooties at bay? Must you bid your love adieu to dodge her herpes simplex 2? Is it time to cut loose the "friend" who ghosts you profusely? How can you remain an influential, vital part of your child's life when they live with your ex on the other side of the world? You suspect you're clinically depressed, but how can you ask for help when the thought of therapy just adds to your stress? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Touko 202245min

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabe (@GabeMizrahi) take a deep dive into their tried-and-true approach to asking for a promotion, maximizing your chances of landing it, and building on it to create a thriving career. What We Discuss: The important questions to ask yourself before approaching your boss for a raise or a promotion. What you can start doing to ensure you get a raise or promotion next time around if you can't quite justify one yet. How to build your case for a raise or promotion when you're ready to take one on. The best practices for negotiation when the floor is yours. What to do if you don't get the raise or promotion on the first try. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/666 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Did you miss our deep dive into what you should do if you’re looking for a new job or relationship and you want to know how to get your foot in the door — while avoiding the mistakes that are liable to get that door slammed in your face? Catch up with episode 629: Getting Your Foot in the Door | Deep Dive here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Touko 202240min

Luis Navia worked for nearly 25 years as a cocaine trafficker for the deadliest Colombian and Mexican cartels until the law caught up with him in 2000. He is the co-author (with Jesse Fink) of Pure Narco: One Man's True Story of 25 Years Inside the Cartels. What We Discuss with Luis Navia: Why did Luis Navia -- a Georgetown student and the privileged son of an affluent sugar trader -- get involved in the illicit international cocaine trade with the most ruthless and infamous Mexican and Colombian drug cartels? How did Luis move between 200 to 300 tons of cocaine (roughly worth $10 billion) over the course of 25 years -- and live to tell the tale? Why did Luis insist on carrying out his business without a weapon -- in spite of being regularly surrounded by the perpetrators of unimaginably brutal violence? What are the logistics for smuggling massive amounts of cocaine over international borders with limited space and personnel? How did Operation Journey, an anti-narcotics effort coordinated across 12 nations and led by the United States and Great Britain, finally put an end to Luis' lucrative cocaine trafficking career? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/665 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Miss our two-part conversation with the Caravaggio of currency counterfeiting? Catch up by starting with Episode 488: Frank Bourassa | The World’s Greatest Counterfeiter Part One here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Touko 20221h 27min

Is Reiki -- the not-so-ancient Japanese energy healing technique by which your psychic empath aunt swears -- a legitimate way to treat ailments like cancer, diabetic neuropathy, anxiety, lactose intolerance, and cooties? Or is it nothing more than a placebo that, at best, might offer you a relaxing way to spend an hour of your day -- and a day of your savings? Here on Skeptical Sunday, it's all hands on deck to discover the truth about the controversial practice of Reiki healing. Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and fact-checker, comedian, and podcast host David C. Smalley break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/664 On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss: How "ancient" is the hallowed practice of Reiki healing? With over 800 hospitals in the world offering Reiki -- including Johns Hopkins and the Mayo Clinic -- there must be some tangible benefit to this energy healing technique, right? What scientific evidence do we have to support the efficacy of Reiki healing? How [much] does someone [have to pay to] become a Reiki practitioner? What can (and what can't) Reiki do for you? Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Connect with David at his website, on Twitter, on Instagram, on TikTok, and on YouTube, and make sure to check out The David C. Smalley Podcast here or wherever you enjoy listening to fine podcasts! If you like to get out of your house and catch live comedy, keep an eye on David's tour dates here and text David directly at (424) 306-0798 for tickets when he comes to your town! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Touko 202231min

Celebrating only the second anniversary with your wonderful husband, you've found yourself wondering what life might be like if you'd, instead, pursued a relationship with a certain unrequited crush. Does having these thoughts make you an unfaithful, horrible person, or is this a normal adjustment to married life -- for better or for worse? We'll try to find answers to this and more here on Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/663 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is your marriage screwed because you've been having thoughts about another dude on your second anniversary? Should you give your estranged family -- who abused you and worked hard to slander your name when you broke free -- a second chance just because tragedy has forced you to interact again? You run successful social media pages reviewing a certain company’s products, and it seemed to be a win/win situation -- until you received a cease and desist letter from said company. How can you safely move forward without losing your business entirely? You feel obligated to be there for a new friend who's going through some tough times, but you're concerned that some of your own negativity may be residual from this friendship. Should you stay in their life and risk your own mental health to be the voice of reason, or would it be best just to cut them out of your life entirely? You're resentful that your peer got the promotion you wanted and is now your direct manager, and you feel like your manager isn't trying hard enough to help you get ahead. Should you raise a stink about the unfairness of it all, or learn from this teachable moment and grin and bear it until your next review? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Touko 202248min