287: How to Stop Taking Feedback So Personally | Feedback Friday

Now in his 80s, the abusive dad who made your life Hell is experiencing domestic violence at the hands of his younger wife. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Are you making the right decision, or are you making the decision right? Now in his twilight years, the abusive dad who made your life Hell is experiencing domestic violence at the hands of his younger wife — though he would never admit to being victimized by a woman. What should you do? You're great at actively listening and asking questions to keep a conversation rolling — until the focus turns to you. How do you develop confident storytelling skills that keep an audience engaged in what you have to say? How do you manage your infatuation with multiple partners during the devil-may-care, badminton-driven casual dating phase you're going through? Despite trying to resolve numerous points of family drama by doing the right thing, you have regrets that maybe you didn't do the right thing even better. As we review the circumstances, might you consider giving yourself a damn break? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/967 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here —...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Maalis 20241h 16min

How has a drug cartel operating as its own country thwarted hostile actions by its neighbors and the CIA? Narcotopia author Patrick Winn is here to explain! What We Discuss with Patrick Winn: Burma vs. Myanmar. The CIA's role in Wa State's formation. How Wa State went from a poppy-harvesting cartel to a self-sufficient, defense-capable narco nation. The evolution of Wa State's drug branding and distribution that outsells Starbucks and McDonald's. The future of Wa State and its potential global impact. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/966 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Maalis 20241h 12min

Your friend is legally chained to a life of debt for something he did in his youth. Is there an ethical way to ease his burden? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your friend is legally chained to a life of debt for killing one person and disabling another when he fell asleep behind the wheel in his youth. While everyone agrees he should be held accountable, it seems cruel and unusual that his only hope for relief is death. Is there an ethical way to ease his burden? [Thanks to bankruptcy attorney Erin Hoskins for helping us with this one!] On your big wedding day, how should you navigate the friction that's liable to happen between your trans brother, the other two members of his throuple, and your conservative family who doesn't get (or wants to get) how any of this works? How do you tell your MS-diagnosed and newly unemployed roommate and his ever-present (but non-rent-paying) girlfriend to either find a new place, move back home, or start contributing more to household cleaning and maintenance? Should you share unsupervised custody with your toxic, out-of-control, cheating ex who has exhibited countless episodes of poor judgment and domestic violence with the woman he left you for? Or should you trust your instincts and keep things the way they are? Do we recommend any networking conferences that might help an ambitious 25-year-old learn more about himself, gain valuable experiences, and add perspective to his life? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/965 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Maalis 20241h 24min

How do globally organized criminals stay two steps ahead of the law? Chasing Shadows author Miles Johnson takes us into the underworld for answers! What We Discuss with Miles Johnson: The global impact of drug trafficking and sanctions busting. How the DEA internationally operates more like the CIA than the FBI. The Syrian conflict: a tangled web of alliances and interests. Innovative low-tech money laundering schemes and the shadow economy. The evolution of criminal networks and the role technology plays in their prosperity. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/964 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Maalis 20241h 21min

How can we build rapport and optimize our connection with others? Supercommunicators author Charles Duhigg brings us the practical steps here! What We Discuss with Charles Duhigg: The three categories of conversation: practical, emotional, and social. The biological underpinnings of communication — such as neural entrainment — that make humans unique. How to become a better active listener through looping — ask a question, repeat back what you just heard the person say in your own words, and ask if you got it right. The difference between matching and mimicry in communication — and which one will serve you better. Understanding and overcoming stereotype threat. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/963 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Maalis 20241h 25min

Are timeshares ever not a scam? Kevin Rapp joins us for Skeptical Sunday to delve into their pros and cons without the high-pressure sales gauntlet! On This Week's Skeptical Sunday, We Discuss: The hidden costs of timeshares. The unconsidered benefits of timeshares. The unexpected demographics of today's timeshare owners. The trials and tribulations you'll probably face if you try to exit your timeshare investment. Weighing the pros and cons — and reading the fine print — to decide if a timeshare might be right for you. Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Connect with Kevin Rapp at his website or Twitter, and be sure to subscribe to his newsletter at Substack! Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/962 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

10 Maalis 202444min

Postpartum psychosis is a serious disorder that can make mothers kill their children. So why aren't we talking more about it? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: In the wise words of James Clear (and Adam Smith, probably): "Don't spend what you haven't earned." A friend you've known for years killed her baby under the influence of a disorder called postpartum psychosis. The media is having a field day reporting her as a murderous monster, but why isn't it taking the opportunity to raise awareness of this condition so others can avoid repeating the nightmare she and her family are experiencing? You're torn between the desire to maintain the happiness you have with your current partner and the longing for love with someone else who seems unattainable. How can you reconcile these conflicting emotions without hurting anyone? Is there truth to the idea that your teen niece's father is "the kind of person" who might sexually assault her, or is your conspiracy-minded sister just paranoid about her ex having visitation rights? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!] How can you focus on networking and being authentic on a professional level when your Fortune 10 employer has you signing non-disclosure agreements that keep you from mentioning the nature of your work or even the name of your company? Hey! We've got an update from the listener whose psychiatrist was hitting on her on episode 931! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/961 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Maalis 20241h 9min

What are attachment styles, and how can we understand them to find and keep love? Attached author Amir Levine is here to share what the science has to say! What We Discuss with Amir Levine: The four attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and anxious-avoidant.  The influence genetics, environment, and upbringing have on these attachment styles. How people tend to handle relationships based on their attachment style. How the development of attachment styles has evolved over time. What the dependency paradox is and how we can navigate it per our attachment style. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/960  This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals  Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Maalis 20241h 3min