287: How to Stop Taking Feedback So Personally | Feedback Friday

You love your wife, but a surgical mishap makes sex painful for her. Is there an ethical way to have your needs met elsewhere? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Have some good stories about your most embarrassing moments that you wouldn't mind us featuring on a future Feedback Friday? Please share with us at friday@jordanharbinger.com (and we'll share some of our own as well)!  You love your wife, but a surgical mishap makes sex too painful for her. She once joked that maybe you should find a girlfriend to help you in that department, so you did — and it didn't go over as well as you might have hoped. Is there an ethical way to have your needs met elsewhere? An addendum to the statute of limitations in your state has you considering taking legal action against your father — who abused you when you were still a child. Would it be worth the time, energy, and money to do so at this point? [Once again, thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us answer another difficult one!] You're financially reliant on your judgmental mother who has withdrawn her support in the past when she felt your values didn't align with hers. How can you get out from under her thumb in what's thus far proven to be a brutally barren job market for your particular set of skills? As a "nice" boss, how can you cultivate the ability to share feedback with your employees that will foster their growth as professionals without feeling like you're nitpicking at their imperfections? You're no stranger to the indispensable power of therapy, but you've found yourself making excuses to avoid it ever since the death of a close friend last year hit you hard. What can you do to stop procrastinating and get the professional help you need? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]  Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Tammi 20241h 16min

How does emotional enmeshment (aka covert incest) with a parent shape our mental health and relationships? Dr. Ken Adams is here to help us understand. What We Discuss with Dr. Ken Adams: What enmeshment is, and how it entwines family members in an emotionally unhealthy way. How enmeshment dictates the course of future relationships. The connection between enmeshment and abuse. The underlying causes for enmeshment to take hold. How to spot enmeshment and begin the process of healing from its repercussions. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/942 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Tammi 20241h

It would be wise to avoid your domestically violent ex and her creepy, extorting family, so why do you want her back so much? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: It would be wise to avoid your domestically violent ex and her creepy, extorting family, so why do you want her back so much? You worked hard to 10x your income and upgrade life for you and your family, but your wife and kids disrespect and destroy whatever nice things you try to buy for them. What can you do? To diversify and expand your network, you're wondering if contacting a current or past professional client outside of the work setting is okay. If so, what boundaries should be observed? A listener thinks we may have been unfair in our assessment of the abusive ex from the lead story in episode 926. We respond — and explain how we weigh the narrative of any story that's shared with us! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/941 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Tammi 20241h 10min

How coded into our DNA are the universal innovations that have driven human history globally? Futurist Byron Reese shares what he's uncovered here! What We Discuss with Byron Reese: Why innovations that increase productivity are always good for humans — because they won't steal and devalue our jobs, but create more than we can fill. Why did it only take humanity three generations to get from the Wright Brothers' first flight at Kitty Hawk to landing on the moon, but our ancestors endured 80,000 generations using the same stone tool without modification? How much does civilization owe to the advent of language? Why are ancient cave paintings found around the world so eerily similar — down to stenciled human hands with missing fingers? What can we learn about our species and its intrinsic coding by studying the communication patterns of honeybees, ants, and other insects? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/940 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Tammi 20241h 2min

The high school principal wants your girlfriend's nude photo for his 'investigation' into the hacker who got her to send it. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is it odd that the high school principal wants your girlfriend's nude photo for his 'investigation' into the blackmailing hacker who — posing as you — convinced her to send it? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for getting us out of yet another pickle!] You spent four years getting a degree in a field that isn't hiring at the pay rate you're worth. Should you forge the path forward by starting your own business, continue working for peanuts, or just give up and go for a new degree? Your wife doesn't buy your estranged father's attempts to make nice with your family — since his dire medical diagnosis — as anything more than a narcissistic compulsion to regain power in the relationship. Does she have a point, or has Dad really turned over a new leaf? As an entrepreneurial woman building your successful business over the past 10 years, you find that clients seem to expect a level of personal involvement or interest above and beyond the service you're providing. How can you get them to respect your boundaries without sending them to the competition? You don't mean to come off as a closed book when meeting new people, but you have trouble understanding when it's appropriate to share thoughts and details from your personal life or keep them to yourself. How can you strike the right balance? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/939 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Tammi 20241h 9min

Your sister's life is dominated by a coffee kibbutz cult. What can you do to make her see the light and come back to reality? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your sister's life is dominated by a coffee kibbutz cult. What can you do to make her see the light and return to reality? [Thanks, again, to Corbin Payne for giving us some guidance with this one!] As we close out 2023, we wanted to take a few minutes to look back at the year-in-doozies, talk about a few of the interesting themes that came up a lot, and just sit back and warm our hands on the collective dumpster fire you guys started in our inbox! How do you intervene when you know your HIV-positive ex is sleeping around and not disclosing his status? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/938 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

29 Joulu 20231h

Nuclear Now director Oliver Stone joins us to advocate for nuclear power as a better alternative to wind, solar, and other green energy solutions. What We Discuss with Oliver Stone: The history of nuclear energy and the political factors that influence its usage. Lessons learned from Fukushima, Chornobyl, and Three Mile Island. How nuclear power compares to wind, solar, hydro, and other green energy alternatives. The influence the fossil fuel industry wields over energy alternatives of any kind. What a future fueled by safe, sustainable nuclear power might look like. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/937 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Joulu 202344min

The accidental discovery of your sister's OnlyFans show has you worried it's only a matter of time before the family finds out. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: The accidental discovery of your sister's OnlyFans show has you worried it's only a matter of time before the family finds out. What can you do to keep this from erupting into a full-blown scandal? When it threatens someone's employment, how can a false report to the understaffed, overwhelmed, and overworked Department of Child Services be contested? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us with another sticky situation!] How can you gracefully leave a new job that makes you miserable without jeopardizing relationships with the friendly insiders who supported your hiring? How can you tell if a ghostwriter — who offers to pen the story of your life for a flat, up-front fee — is legitimate? How do you have the birds-and-the-bees talk with your kids when the message you want to convey differs from the "abstinence only" message their other parent favors? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/936 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Joulu 202351min