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Are participation trophies ruining kids? Jason Feifer debunks myths and reveals the surprising century-long history behind the debate on Skeptical Sunday! Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we're joined by Jason Feifer, the editor in chief of Entrepreneur magazine, host of the Build for Tomorrow podcast, and author of Build for Tomorrow: An Action Plan for Embracing Change, Adapting Fast, and Future-Proofing Your Career. On This Week's Skeptical Sunday: As it turns out, participation trophies aren't some newfangled millennial invention. These shiny symbols of showing up have been collecting dust on shelves since your great-grandpappy was in short pants. We're talking 1922, folks — when the biggest participation trophy was surviving the Spanish Flu! All of these folks bellyaching about participation trophies probably have a few lurking in their own attics. It's like complaining about kids these days and their gimmicky rock music while air-guitaring to Led Zeppelin. Pot, meet kettle — you're both made of participation trophy material. Despite what the armchair psychologists down at the local watering hole might tell you, there's no scientific evidence that participation trophies turn kids into snowflakes. As they grow, kids naturally get more interested in winning than just showing up — like trading in their tricycle for a Harley. The whole participation trophy hullabaloo is less about plastic awards and more about our collective freak-out over parenting, work ethic, and why these darn kids won't get off our lawns. It's just generational anxiety dressed up in a well-worn, borrowed suit. Want to level up your success game? Ditch the black-and-white thinking. Winning's got more flavors than Baskin-Robbins, so keep an open mind for what's possible. Embrace the past, eye the future, and you'll be batting home runs with life's curveballs like a pro. Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Connect with Jason Feifer at his website, Twitter, Instagram, and See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Your houseguest sister-in-law is messy, irresponsible, and in debt. Can you motivate her to change or is it time for tough love? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday: Your sister-in-law's been mooching off your hospitality as if she's got a get-out-of-rent-free card, turning your home into her personal playground while you're busting your hump to keep the lights on. How can you get through this domestic minefield without blowing up your wife's relationship with her spendthrift sibling — and your sanity? You're a woman who's always played for Team Dude, but lately you've been crushing hard on your sapphic bestie. The long-term forecast is cloudy with a chance of identity crisis, but you can't get her out of your head. How will you solve this romantic Rubik's Cube without peeling off the stickers? Halfway through your Master of Legal Studies program, an ad for AI legal services popped up. Suddenly, your degree looks about as future-proof as a Blockbuster membership card. How can you safeguard your Atticus Finch aspirations without being ground down by the mocking march of the machines? [Thanks — again — to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us answer this one!] You've got front-row seats to a family's horror show, complete with questionable parenting and kids who look like they could use a hug (or therapy). As a concerned friend whose perspective is admittedly biased by your own abusive upbringing, how can you swoop in for the save without nuking your relationship or crossing lines that can't be uncrossed? You're the company's sales superstar who just got kneecapped by the corporate fun police. After pouring your heart and soul into a presentation that was deader on arrival than disco, how will you dust yourself off and keep your mojo intact when the higher-ups have made it clear your ideas are about as well-received as a Christmas morning telemarketer? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Unexpected moments can change the world. Brian Klaas, author of Fluke, reveals how embracing life's randomness can empower us to make a difference. What We Discuss with Brian Klaas: Tiny actions or events can have massive downstream effects and consequences, as illustrated by historical examples like how a decades-old vacation spared Kyoto from nuclear bombing in WWII. Our lives and human history are shaped by chaos theory and random flukes, such as the asteroid impact that killed the dinosaurs or chance evolutionary events that led to complex life. Humans have cognitive biases that make us seek patterns and explanations, even when events are random. This can lead to superstitions, conspiracy theories, and a false sense of control. Wealth and success are often more influenced by luck and arbitrary factors than we like to admit, challenging the idea of pure meritocracy. While we can't control everything, we can influence the world around us through our actions. By embracing this mindset, we can feel more empowered and find meaning in our daily choices, recognizing that even small moments can have a significant impact on the future. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1008 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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You've thrived in a group some call a cult. Are you really accessing the world's mysteries, or just being suckered by shysters? Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You've been deeply involved in an organization that's brought you personal growth and success, but some have raised suspicions that it might be a cult. With expensive programs, controversial teachings, and an elitist hierarchy, you wonder if you've gained genuine wisdom or just been skillfully manipulated. What's the truth behind this modern mystery? You're in an open marriage, but your husband's relationship with another woman has crossed boundaries and is threatening your marital union. She's moved in, turned him against you, and now you're considering legal action. How can you address this situation and potentially save your relationship? Your sister, who has epilepsy and cognitive disabilities, is turning 18 soon. Her father, your ex-stepfather, has been making questionable decisions about her care and education. How can you protect and support her as she transitions into adulthood? You were adopted at birth and have always been curious about your biological parents. You've met your birth mother, but she's hesitant to provide information about your birth father. How can you navigate the complex process of searching for your biological father while respecting everyone involved? Listener Pete Dinnella has sadly left us. His wife Barbara shares the bittersweet details of his final days and we encourage anyone who wants to help her in the aftermath of this tragedy to contribute to their GoFundMe. Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1007 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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It’s Not You author Dr. Ramani Durvasula is here to help us identify narcissists, overcome the abuse we suffer in relationships with them, and heal. What We Discuss with Dr. Ramani Durvasula: Narcissists can often be recognized by common traits like being know-it-alls, interrupting frequently, driving dangerously, throwing tantrums when frustrated, and displaying a strong sense of entitlement. But what kind of narcissists are you dealing with in your everyday life? Strategies for coping with narcissistic relationships when leaving is not an option. The role of cognitive dissonance in keeping people trapped in narcissistic relationships and how creating a written record of abusive behaviors can help overcome this psychological barrier. Growing up with a narcissistic parent can lead to difficulty forming one's own identity and a tendency to accommodate others' needs while suppressing one's own. This pattern can make a person more vulnerable to entering narcissistic relationships in adulthood. While it may seem daunting, healing from a narcissistic relationship is possible. By developing self-compassion, understanding that the abuse was not your fault, and gradually reclaiming aspects of your life that you enjoy (like hobbies, favorite foods, or social activities), you can begin to rebuild your sense of self and create a fulfilling life, even if the process takes time. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1006 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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After treating his own rare disease, Chasing My Cure author David Fajgenbaum explains how existing drugs can help other sufferers survive the unknown. What We Discuss with David Fajgenbaum: Dr. David Fajgenbaum nearly died multiple times from a rare ailment called Castleman disease, for which there was no effective treatment available. The current healthcare system does not incentivize pharmaceutical companies to find new uses for existing drugs, especially for rare diseases, leaving many potential treatments undiscovered. Driven by his own experiences, Dr. Fajgenbaum realized that many existing FDA-approved drugs could be used to fight rare diseases for which they weren't originally intended. Dr. Fajgenbaum founded Every Cure, a nonprofit organization that uses AI to match existing drugs with rare diseases they could potentially treat, greatly accelerating the process of finding cures. You can make a positive impact by supporting organizations like Every Cure, which are working tirelessly to find treatments for rare diseases using innovative approaches. Consider donating to their cause, spreading awareness about their mission, or even sharing your own experiences with off-label drug use that has helped you or someone you know. Every contribution, no matter how small, can help bring hope and relief to those suffering from rare diseases. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1005 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Misconceptions about memory are abundant, so Jessica Wynn is here to let us know which ones we're better off forgetting on this latest Skeptical Sunday! On This Week's Skeptical Sunday: Our memories are more complex than just being videos that we can simply file away and retrieve at will. There are three main processes that characterize how memory works: encoding, storage, and recall. Forgetting is a feature, not a bug. Some memories are more easily recalled than others, and our memories can be manipulated by a variety of factors. While hotly debated, the concept of "repressed memories" doesn't seem to have the science to back it. Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know! Connect with Jessica Wynn. Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1004 This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: jordanharbinger.com/deals Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here — even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Your creepy brother-in-law hit on your mom and 13-year-old sis at your wedding and now targets you, but your husband ignores it. Welcome to Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Every time Jordan goes to the barber, he comes home with another story. Here's the latest. It was the reddest of flags when the creepy brother-in-law-to-be hit on your mother and 13-year-old sister at your wedding. In the six years since, he's been making inappropriate advances toward you, but his brother — your husband — chooses to ignore this. How can you protect yourself and your children from this shadow-lurking predator if your husband won't? Even when you try your best to exude warmth and empathy, you've been told your tone can come off as condescending — not ideal for your job as a hostage negotiator, and not entirely appreciated by your long-enduring wife. How can you enhance your self-awareness to adjust this tone to a more socially appropriate level? Your sister and her family are obsessed with decreasing their carbon footprint to the point where your nephew has developed eco-anxiety. You want to attend a music festival that requires flying, but you're worried about the tension it might cause with your sister — who will definitely guilt you about choosing your own entertainment over her children's future. What should you do? While shopping with your family, you witnessed a father verbally and physically threatening his young son in public. As a mandated reporter through your job as an educator and someone who cares about children, you're struggling with the powerless you felt in the moment and wondering if you should have intervened or reported the incident. [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!] After being laid off from your job of 18 years, you applied for two positions within the company. You were far along in the process with one and ended up getting an offer, but you also interviewed for the other and made a valuable professional connection. What unexpected opportunities might arise from exploring both paths? Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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