740 How Perfectionism Sabotages Love
The Terri Cole Show29 Heinä 2025

740 How Perfectionism Sabotages Love

"I'll start dating as soon as I lose those 10 pounds."

"I can't go to that event until I find the perfect outfit."

"I'll put myself out there when I feel more confident, more ready."

Do any of these sound familiar? That little whisper in the back of your head that seems so reasonable, almost protective?

I want you to sit with this for a moment: underneath that whisper is a belief that where you are right now, exactly as you are, is not good enough. That unless you present some flawless version of yourself to the world, you're not worthy of love, connection, or success.

This is how perfectionism sneaks its way into our relationships, and it's far more insidious than you might think. On today's episode I'm going to give you tips to identify where you're being a perfectionist, recognize the impact it's having on your relationships, and take your choices back from perfectionism.

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