40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.8 Elo 2025

Why Gay Men Struggle with “No”: Rejection, Control & the Path Back to Embodiment – JoJo Bear

Why is hearing “no” so hard for gay men? Why does rejection cut so deep—and why do we sometimes choose control over connection?

In this powerful and revealing episode, somatic guide and sacred intimate JoJo Bear joins us to explore how gay men navigate fear of rejection, touch deprivation, aging, and the need for control in a world that taught us we had to earn love to survive.

JoJo works primarily with gay men over 40, helping them shift from mental noise into embodied presence—and his insights hit hard. We talk body image, consent, intimacy, and why saying yes to yourself sometimes starts with being okay with someone else’s no.

This one is deep, hilarious, healing, and a little bit sexy. Hit play—you’ll feel seen.

In this episode:

Discover how to embrace "no"
Learn why the loss of control can actually make you better at connecting with other men
Rediscover how sex can be great again

About JoJo JoJo Bear is a Sacred Intimate and Somatic Guide based in the San Francisco Bay Area. He works with individuals and groups to support a shift from mental chatter into embodied presence. JoJo primarily serves gay men over the age of 40 who are exploring body image, sexuality, aging, and personal connection—but he welcomes and works with people of all bodies and identities. His sessions offer space for curiosity, healing, and deeper self-trust. He is a facilitator with the Body Electric School and an educator with the School of Consent, where he brings heart, humor, and depth to his teaching. JoJo is also passionate about mentoring fellow practitioners—coaches, sacred intimates, sex workers, and educators—supporting them to expand their work and stay rooted in their purpose. Beyond his somatic work, JoJo is a commentator and comedian, blending insight with laughter to build bridges and break stigma. Connect With JoJo Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Tämä jakso on lisätty Podme-palveluun avoimen RSS-syötteen kautta eikä se ole Podmen omaa tuotantoa. Siksi jakso saattaa sisältää mainontaa.

Jaksot(300)

Rick Clemons – Let’s Celebrate National Coming Out Day

It's National Coming Out Day. A time for remembrance, celebration, and allowing each and every person to come out of the closet their own way and on their on time. Let's reflect, support, and celebrat...

11 Loka 20236min

245: Kevin Kasir – Navigating The Daddy Thirst Trap

You're a guy over 40 and suddenly a younger gay guy calls you "Daddy!" Wait, "What?" Do you take offense, embrace it, or find a path somewhere in between. To answer that question and to navigate the w...

6 Loka 202340min

244: Ed Wilson – What Does It Really Mean To Be A Gay Man?

As gay men we grow up being told not to be seen, to heard, and to be understood. Taking a page, or actually a few pages from those experiences, Author and Coach Ed Wilson beautifully illustrates some ...

29 Syys 202346min

243: Dale Allen-Rowse – Finding the Spiritual Disco of Your Soul

How do you find the soul of yourself? You let it find you, but that doesn't mean you just sit around waiting for it. Author, performer, and Shamanic practitioner, Dale Allen-Rowse takes us on his jour...

22 Syys 202343min

242: Matthew Bennett – Being The Leather Master of Your Life

It's time to drop the shame around what shames us and let our KINKS fly, even if that means you want to be who you are in the boardroom. English Leather Master Matthew Bennett shares how you can be wh...

15 Syys 202342min

241: Grant Miller – Navigating His Life Line One Obstacle At A Time

From an HIV diagnosis, to surviving narcissistic relationships, Grant Miller has found the best path through obstacles and boulders of life is simply through and around them. Sharing his insights of l...

8 Syys 202351min

240: Jason Galvez – Moving Beyond Betrayal and Trauma

If you've ever felt betrayed,or traumatized in your journey as a gay man, this episode is for you. Jason (Jay) Galvez, a Betrayal Trauma Practitioner and Intrapersonal Relationship Coach guides us thr...

1 Syys 202352min

239: Corey and Kendall Stulce – Finding Your Self & The Life You Missed

Imagine losing yourself and finding yourself. But what you lost came and found you in the most unique way. Kendall and Corey Stulce share a unique story of Kendall finding himself and his family of or...

25 Elo 202341min