40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.8 Elo 2025

Why Gay Men Struggle with “No”: Rejection, Control & the Path Back to Embodiment – JoJo Bear

Why is hearing “no” so hard for gay men? Why does rejection cut so deep—and why do we sometimes choose control over connection?

In this powerful and revealing episode, somatic guide and sacred intimate JoJo Bear joins us to explore how gay men navigate fear of rejection, touch deprivation, aging, and the need for control in a world that taught us we had to earn love to survive.

JoJo works primarily with gay men over 40, helping them shift from mental noise into embodied presence—and his insights hit hard. We talk body image, consent, intimacy, and why saying yes to yourself sometimes starts with being okay with someone else’s no.

This one is deep, hilarious, healing, and a little bit sexy. Hit play—you’ll feel seen.

In this episode:

Discover how to embrace "no"
Learn why the loss of control can actually make you better at connecting with other men
Rediscover how sex can be great again

About JoJo JoJo Bear is a Sacred Intimate and Somatic Guide based in the San Francisco Bay Area. He works with individuals and groups to support a shift from mental chatter into embodied presence. JoJo primarily serves gay men over the age of 40 who are exploring body image, sexuality, aging, and personal connection—but he welcomes and works with people of all bodies and identities. His sessions offer space for curiosity, healing, and deeper self-trust. He is a facilitator with the Body Electric School and an educator with the School of Consent, where he brings heart, humor, and depth to his teaching. JoJo is also passionate about mentoring fellow practitioners—coaches, sacred intimates, sex workers, and educators—supporting them to expand their work and stay rooted in their purpose. Beyond his somatic work, JoJo is a commentator and comedian, blending insight with laughter to build bridges and break stigma. Connect With JoJo Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Tämä jakso on lisätty Podme-palveluun avoimen RSS-syötteen kautta eikä se ole Podmen omaa tuotantoa. Siksi jakso saattaa sisältää mainontaa.

Jaksot(300)

142: Loving Yourself Through and Out of Addiction – Gregory Silva

LGBTQ people are 9-10 times more likely to addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or food. Why? For many reasons, but the most obvious reason is we've been shamed into submission for not being good enough. I...

15 Loka 202133min

141: The Art of Relating, Man-to-Man – Rick Clemons

This man-to-man connecting, dating, mating, and relating, is so damn hard. Or is it? It can be if the effort isn't there, but it does take effort in all the right places. It may even take work, but wh...

8 Loka 202110min

140: All The Sh*T You Can Do After 40 – Anthony Hand

When you hit 40 you think, "It's all down hill from here!" Sure it is if you are on a bike, riding 500 miles and you come into the home stretch of the AIDS Life Cycle ride. Yes, after turning 40, that...

1 Loka 202139min

139: Why Open Relationships Work – Canaan

If you don't like gay marriage, then don't marry someone who's gay. If you don't approve of abortion, then don't have one. And, if you don't want an open relationship, then don't be in one, and stop t...

24 Syys 202143min

138: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 3 – Rick Clemons

We're coming into the home stretch of this three part series that explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to live and be who they are in the world - no excuses...

17 Syys 202111min

142.1: 20 Years of Making It Work With My Man – Rick Clemons

I can't believe I'm saying this, but we've made it work, last, thrive, and sometimes even survive. Yup, me and my guy - George Solis - are celebrating 20 years of being with and loving each other. Her...

16 Syys 202111min

137: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 2 – Rick Clemons

As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one ...

10 Syys 202111min