#395 Rejection, Disappointment, and How to Stop People Pleasing In Sex - with Hailey Magee
This episode is inspired by Hailey Magee's new book Stop People Pleasing and Find Your Power, as well as the "People Pleaser Support Group" skit on SNL. We discuss why people pleasing in the bedroom is different than other forms of people pleasing, why someone would say yes when they mean maybe or no, the common consequences of sexual people pleasing, as well as some tools to to stop people pleasing here and now. We also discuss why working on your relationship with rejection and disappointment is key on your journey towards embracing your inner power and not getting so stuck again. About our guest: Hailey Magee is a certified life coach who helps people around the world stop people-pleasing and master the art of self-advocacy. She is the author of STOP People Pleasing and Find Your Power, released by Simon & Schuster in May 2024. Hailey's refreshingly nuanced perspectives on boundary-setting and self-advocacy have captured the attention of millions on social media, and her workshops and courses have welcomed tens of thousands of participants worldwide. Certified by Erickson Coaching International, Hailey is dedicated to offering clear, research-supported strategies for change, helping recovering people-pleasers rediscover not only their power and agency, but their pleasure, joy, and sense of wonder. She lives in Seattle, Washington. You can learn more about her workshops, courses, and private coaching at HaileyMagee.com or follow her on Instagram at @HaileyPaigeMagee Come to our Shameless Sex Couple's Retreat in Costa Rica! We only have spots for six couples so sign up asap here and use code SHAMELESSCOUPLES by 8/31/24 to get $500 off: https://tinyurl.com/mpvf858h Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
20 Elo 20241h 7min
#394 Butt Jam Worthy - with Dixie De La Tour
Sexual Folklorist, podcaster and coach Dixie De La Tour joins Shameless Sex to teach us all about the magic behind erotic storytelling -just in time for Anal August! Learn about how developing your personal narrative can help you talk about difficult/intimate things (SEX!) + hear us share some of our own butt jam stories and witness the magic that is Bawdy Storytelling! Check out the Njoy plugs here and the Inflatable Plug here + get 20% off with code ANALAUGUST2024 Follow us on IG @shamelesssex here and @bawdystorytelling here to get your Butt Jams Playlist About our guest: Bawdy Storytelling (‘The Moth for Pervs” - LA Weekly) features tales of Carnal Wins & Epic Fails with No Scripts, No Nets, and No Holds Barred. These folks aren't reading from cue cards: this is honest-to-badness story time with true sexcapades and poignant, transformational tales at each and every show. Join Sexual Folklorist Dixie De La Tour & hand-picked Rockstars as they share their own stories of Love, Lust, and making you feel funny in your bathing suit area. Hey, you may even go home with a few new tricks for your boudoir arsenal! Sexual Folklorist Dixie De La Tour brings the Nation’s Perverrati together on the Bawdy Storytelling stage to tell their own infamously true tales of lust, love, kinky collisions, gender redefinition, sexual identity, life-changing hook-ups, educational one-night stands & everything in between. Bawdy is part storytelling show, part community event; where else can you watch your friends and neighbors get onstage to share their most intimate moments?! Play our Bang-O game to inspire your own stories, and Win Prizes for being brave and talking to strangers.Stories help you Find Your People! #BawdyGotMeLaid. To learn more go to www.BawdyStorytelling.com Also, Dixie De La Tour and the Bawdy Storytelling Podcast are going On Tour! From Chicago to Portland to Seattle and more, she'll be hosting her award-winning Live Show in your city. Dixie's even teaching her simple story system, 'How to Be Bawdy: Dixie's Secret System for Uncensored Storytelling' as a Full Day Storytelling Intensive/Workshop in each city. Join her Live in these cities: Bawdy at The Den (Chicago) - Sept 6th, 2024 https://bit.ly/BawdyChicago2024 How to Be Bawdy Workshop (Chicago) Sept 8th, 2024 https://bit.ly/HTBBawdyChicagoWorkshop First Person Arts (Virtual Workshop) Sept 7th, 2024 FPA Sex Files (Philadelphia Live Event) Sept 10th, 2024 https://bit.ly/FPASexFilesDixie Bawdy Portland (Portland) October 18th, 2024 https://bit.ly/BawdyPDXOct2024 How to Be Bawdy Workshop (Portland) October 20th, 2024 https://bit.ly/HTBBawdyPortlandOR Bawdy Seattle (Seattle, WA) November 1st, 2024 https://bit.ly/BawdySeattle2024 How to Be Bawdy Workshop (Seattle) November 3rd, 2024 https://bit.ly/HTBBawdySeattle More about Dixie: Listen to the Bawdy Storytelling podcast at http://bit.ly/bawdypodcast On Twitter: @Bawdy On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bawdystorytelling/ On Facebook at www.Facebook.com/BawdyStorytelling Support us on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/Bawdy Subscribe to our YouTube Channel at http://bit.ly/BawdyTV Dixie De La Tour (@bawdy) Come to our Shameless Sex Couple's Retreat in Costa Rica! We only have spots for six couples so sign up asap here and use code SHAMELESSCOUPLES by 8/31/24 to get $500 off: https://tinyurl.com/mpvf858h Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: To listen to more of the fantastic series Making Magic, go to makingmagicseries.com Get 15% off The Perineum Massager with code SHAMELESS at http://butterwellness.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
13 Elo 20241h 25min
#393 An Inside Look into Stripping, Camming, and Being a Proud Sex Worker - with Marcela Alonso
This episode is an inside look into the wonderful world of sex work! From everything from favorite client stories to myth busting to the variations of sex work (stripping, camming, etc) - the fabulous Marcela Alonso shamelessly shares all about a day in the life of being a loud and proud sex worker. About our guest: Marcela Alonso is a woman of many hats and talents—she’s a content creator, social media influencer, podcast host, comedienne, and SAG card-carrying mainstream actress. With over two decades in adult entertainment, she knows adult entertainment and shares her knowledge with the hottest and most fascinating guests in all facets of the industry on her uber-popular podcast, Get Schooled. Marcela also hosts Sunday Funday featuring comedians. Join her private fan club at IloveMarcela.com. Tune into Get Schooled on Apple Podcasts and other podcast platforms and join Check out Sunday Funday on all the major podcast platforms, including YouTube youtube.com/c/MarcelaAlonsoYoutube/videos. Keep up with everything in Marcela’s world by following her on Twitter/X @Marcela_luv, IG @Marcelasobella, TikTok @Marcelaalonsoluv, and Facebook facebook.com/marcelasobella. Get her links in one place beacons.ai/marcelasobella Come to our Shameless Sex Couple's Retreat in Costa Rica! We only have spots for six couples so sign up asap here: https://tinyurl.com/mpvf858h Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% off Epiphany Clit Arousal Serum with code SHAMELESS at http://tryepiphany.com Get soaking wet and bigger loads + 10% off with code SHAMELESS at http://soakingwet.com Get 15% off The Perineum Massager with code SHAMELESS at http://butterwellness.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
6 Elo 20241h 4min
#392 What You Could Learn From Sex Parties (even if they aren't your jam) - with Michael Hollice of The Play
What are "sex parties" and why is The Play different from other play parties? What can anyone and everyone - regardless of their interest in sex parties or non-monogamy - learn from the way The Play beautifully orchestrates and curates their parties? Why is STI testing so important + unique to the way The Play operates? Also, can monogamous people go to sex parties? We known ENM isn't for everyone yet so many of you (yes you) are curious about threesomes and more-somes...and even sex parties! Tune in to learn about all of the above, as well as non ENM (ethical non-monogamy) ways to add newness to your relationships. About our guest: As the Founder and Creative Director of The Play, Michael Hollice has led the play party community for over 6 years, offering a wealth of firsthand experience and knowledge. Guided by the principles of Health, Consent, Intimacy, and Artistry, Michael creates safe and inclusive spaces fostering genuine connections and cultural evolution. His experiences in television and film production, coupled with Operation Management roles at LinkedIn and Google, showcase his ability to combine creativity with efficiency. Notably, as one of the few black play party owners, Michael brings a distinct perspective, enriching diversity within the community he passionately shapes. His dedication to authenticity and inclusivity, coupled with his role as a cultural architect, continues to make The Play a beacon of transformative experiences. To learn more go to https://theplay.la SEATTLE! Come see our LIVE Shameless Sex Unleashed sexy variety show: The Unleashed Tour: Where Shamelessness, Sexiness, and Laughter Collide in a Hilarious Orgy of Fun, Discovery, and Sex Edutainment! Get your tickets here ASAP: https://www.shamelesssex.com/events Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: To listen to more of the fantastic series Making Magic, go to makingmagicseries.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
30 Heinä 20241h 36min
#391 Sex Toys, Praise Kinks, and AHA Moments - with Finn
How can people find the right sex toy for them? What makes a sex toy a great toy or product? What are some of the top sex toys on the market? And what about lubes? Also, what the F is a praise kink? And why is having a sexual AHA moment so important? About our guest: Lisa Finn ("Finn" - she/her/they) is a Brooklyn-based Sex Educator. Since starting with Babeland in 2016, Finn has hosted countless interviews and workshops - both virtual to audiences of hundreds of attendees, and in-person from lectures at Ivy League Universities to kink demonstrations at dive bars. She's been featured in podcasts and print + digital publications on topics like beginner’s tips, BDSM how-tos, spicing up date night, self-care and sexual wellness, and - of course - the latest sex toys and trends. (She was even given the kinda absurd yet accurate title of “sex toy fairy godmother” in an article for Women’s Health Magazine). Always lacing humor into her lessons, Finn makes it a goal to "make sex-positive information accessible, and remind [everyone] that pleasure should be fun." To learn more go to https://www.babeland.com/ SEATTLE! Come see our LIVE Shameless Sex Unleashed sexy variety show: The Unleashed Tour: Where Shamelessness, Sexiness, and Laughter Collide in a Hilarious Orgy of Fun, Discovery, and Sex Edutainment! Get your tickets here ASAP: https://www.shamelesssex.com/events Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% off Epiphany Clit Arousal Serum with code SHAMELESS at http://tryepiphany.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
24 Heinä 202457min
#390 How to Find (or Become) a Great Sex and Relationship Coach or Therapist - with Heather McPherson, LMFT-S
When it comes to sex or relationships and wanting to find a therapist or coach, what should people know before they shop around? Are all sex therapists “created equal”? Why is it so important for therapists to be educated on how to support their client’s sexuality while not creating more shame? As a client, what are some of the signs my therapist or coach might not be a good fit for me? And how can I go about that? For people who want to become a sex educator or therapist, how can they start to venture down this path? And what makes SHA different from other sexuality training programs? About our guest: Heather McPherson is the CEO and Founder of the Sexual Health Alliance, a premier education and certification provider for sexuality professionals. Heather also founded Respark, a national brand that encompasses a group therapy practice, Respark Foundation Nonprofit, and ReSpark Retreats. Respark Therapy & Associates (respark.co) is a group practice that serves Colorado, Washington and Texas specializing in sexuality and relationships. She is published in Playboy Magazine as well as Playboy Online, and has been featured on CNN, HuffPost, Rolling Stone, SheKnows, Quartz, Bravo, the Body, the Sun, Sex and Psychology with Dr. Justin Lehmiller, Psychology Today with Dr. David Ley, Parent Harald, and more. Heather McPherson has lectured at prestigious universities including University of Texas at Austin, Texas State University, University of Utah, University of Colorado Denver and Governors State University in Chicago. She is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist Supervisor, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) and a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor (LPC-S). She also is the Texas Section Leader for AASECT (American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists). She has appeared on several podcasts including Loveline with Dr. Chris Donaghue as well as Sex with Dr. Jess. Heather helps clients gain confidence, rebuild trust, increase playfulness, and find passion and meaning in their erotic lives. Heather graduated with honors from Texas State University with a MA in Marriage, Couple and Family Therapy; a CACREP Accredited Program. To learn more go to https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ https://www.instagram.com/sexualhealthalliance https://www.tiktok.com/@sexualhealthalliance https://www.facebook.com/SHAteams https://www.instagram.com/resparkgroup SEATTLE! Come see our LIVE Shameless SexUnleashed sexy variety show: The Unleashed Tour: Where Shamelessness, Sexiness, and Laughter Collide in a Hilarious Orgy of Fun, Discovery, and Sex Edutainment! Get your tickets here ASAP: https://www.shamelesssex.com/events Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% off Epiphany Clit Arousal Serum with code SHAMELESS at http://tryepiphany.com Get soaking wet and bigger loads + 10% off with code SHAMELESS at http://soakingwet.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
16 Heinä 20241h 6min
#389 Opening Up Without Blowing Up - with Ally Iseman
In this episode we meet with ENM and relational expert Ally Iseman. We discuss everything from cheating and affairs to the how to's of non-monogamy, the many variations of non-monogamy, as well as how to become an expert communicator in your relationships. This episode is for monogamous and non-monogamous people who want to up their relational skills for more sexy success in and out of the bedroom. Bio: Ally Iseman is the Founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, through which she offers concierge guidance and online courses and resources for couples and individuals exploring healthy non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics. She has been a speaker, community organizer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016, committed to promoting consensual, empowered, and respectful interactions as a leader within the sex-positive space. As a certified consent and communication specialist and respected non-monogamy ‘sexpert’, Ally sits on the executive leadership board of one of LA’s most distinguished sex-positive nightlife events. She regularly shares her insights on podcasts and at live events, and has been quoted in numerous consumer and industry-facing publications, further solidifying her reputation as a knowledgeable and influential voice on the subject of non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics. Contact: hello@passport2pleasure.com Website: www.passport2pleasure.com Social Media Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/passport2pleasure Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@passport2pleasure Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61554151163099 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@passport2pleasure Free Tools Relationship Ratio: www.passport2pleasure.com/ratio Big Why: www.passport2pleasure.com/bigwhy ENM 101: Exploring Healthy Non-Monogamy | www.passport2pleasure.com/enm101 The Limitless Love Formula | www.passport2pleasure.com/llf Play Party Prep: Private Concierge Session | www.passport2pleasure.com/resource_redirect/offers/Xzny9Yzz Concierge support to prepare for a play party from outfit choice to toy selection, conversation starters to faux pas. Play Party Prep - Just the Tips | www.passport2pleasure.com/resource_redirect/offers/otGPbn7T PDF containing two checklists (Day Before and Day Of) with everything you need to know and do to get ready and excited to explore a play party with confidence. SEATTLE! Come see our LIVE Shameless Sex Unleashed sexy variety show: The Unleashed Tour: Where Shamelessness, Sexiness, and Laughter Collide in a Hilarious Orgy of Fun, Discovery, and Sex Edutainment! Get your tickets here ASAP: https://www.shamelesssex.com/events PS If you upgrade to VIP tickets you get over $400 worth of sex toys, so.... :) Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Listen to the Sex Ed With DB podcast here: https://www.sexedwithdb.com Other links: Get 20% off Epiphany Clit Arousal Serum with code SHAMELESS at http://tryepiphany.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
9 Heinä 20241h 18min
#388 Vaginas, Vulvas and Vibrators (and Period Sex!) - with Jordan D’Nelle
What are some of the many reasons why people might not be interested in having sex with their partners? When it comes to mismatched libidos, what are are top tips for couples in working together to find ways to meet each other’s sexual wants or desires as best as they can? What about period sex? We know not everyone is into it and aren’t trying to convince people to change their minds about it, but what are the main hangups are about period sex? Are there any benefits? And how can people have more pleasurable period sex? About our guest: Vaginas, Vulvas, and Vibrators with Jordan D’Nelle is designed to give women a place to learn about women’s health and sexual wellness. Tune in every Thursday for topics that are relevant to learning how women’s bodies work and how to improve your intimate life. To learn more go to http://jordandnelle.com SEATTLE! Come see our LIVE Shameless Sex Unleashed sexy variety show: The Unleashed Tour: Where Shamelessness, Sexiness, and Laughter Collide in a Hilarious Orgy of Fun, Discovery, and Sex Edutainment! Get your tickets here ASAP: https://www.shamelesssex.com/events PS If you upgrade to VIP tickets you get over $200 worth of sex toys, so.... :) Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Listen to the Wild and Sublime podcast here: https://wildandsublime.com/podcast Other links: Get soaking wet and bigger loads + 10% off with code SHAMELESS at http://soakingwet.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com
2 Heinä 20241h 14min
