#446 Beyond the (Religious) Shame and How to Recreate Your Sex Life

Trusted Hot Sex Advisor Susan Bratton joins us once again to talk all about libido, desire, turn on, arousal, lust, how to feel more switch on with sexual energy and how to channel your sexual energy for more pleasure and passion. Oh and lots on sex toys! We also answer a sex question: How do cock rings affect orgasm/ejaculation?  About Susan: Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion.  Married to her husband Tim since 1993, Susan is an author, award-winning speaker, and serial entrepreneur who teaches passionate lovemaking techniques to her fans around the world. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.” Susan is Chair Emeritus of the ad:tech conference; she was both CMO and a member of the Board of Directors for an Anthony Robbins tech start-up as well as serving on numerous boards throughout her career. In 2009, Susan was honored as a “Silicon Valley Woman of Influence” by The Business Journal and as a “Top 10 Internet Pioneer” by AdAge Magazine. In 2010, was bestowed the Lifetime Industry Achievement award by dmg World Media. Susan’s straight-talking, fearless approach is rooted in her personal experience of watching her sex life wither while she and her husband pursued dynamic careers. When their relationship hit a crisis point, the couple made a fierce commitment to do whatever it took to keep their family together and revive the passion in their marriage. Today, she and her husband have the kind of dream relationship most people long-since stopped believing is even possible—until they discover Susan’s teachings.  Susan is CEO and co-founder (with her husband) of Personal Life Media. Through her company, Susan has authored 20 books including Relationship Magic, The Passion Patch and 30 Romance Tricks That Work Like Magic, as well as her International #1 Amazon best-seller, Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials for Connected Sex.   She has also created and published numerous online courses including her wildly popular Revive Her Drive and Steamy Sex Ed® DVD Collection, as well as programs such as: Seduction Trilogy, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight, The Multi-Orgasmic Lover for Men, Female Liquid Orgasm, and Keep Her Coming. Millions of couples and singles have been touched by her TV appearances and Better Lover YouTube channel. Through her Insider’s Club newsletter at Personal Life Media.com, Susan gives away, free of charge, countless MP3 audios, videos, articles, and ebooks.  Susan believes that shame-free, frequent sexual pleasure is every man and woman’s birthright: “After 25 years of marriage, I know from experience that deep, passionate intimacy with my partner is priceless: a priority that tops my list of must-haves alongside good health and the love of family and friends. I have made it my mission to aid anyone who wants the kind of lovemaking that improves with age.”  She and her husband split their time between their home on Mt. Tamalpais in Mill Valley, California and their cozy beach shack in Encinitas, with occasional trips to far-off lands to visit their globe-trotting daughter. To learn more visit her Better Lover YouTube channel or susanbratton.com Other Links: Learn more about why we LOVE Hot Source Yoga at hotsourceyogastudio.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Be the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.com

4 Syys 20191h 16min

Amy Jo Goddard, author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence shares her nine elements for sexual empowerment.  Hailing from Military Dad and Recovering-Catholic-Mom, Amy Jo Goddard is author of Woman on Fire: Nine Elements to Wake up Your Erotic Energy, Personal Power and Sexual Intelligence and co-author of the best-selling classic Lesbian Sex Secrets for Men. Amy Jo earned her Master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education at New York University and studied film at New School University. She has been teaching and speaking about feminism and sexuality for over two decades. She delivered her TEDx talk “Owning Your Sexual Power” in Napa Valley, was named one of GO! Magazine’s “100 Women We Love” and one of Kinkly’s “100 Sex Blogging Superhereos.”  Her forthcoming film At Your Cervix, examines patient consent and bodily autonomy in gynecology and medical education, aiming to end unethical practices that harm both patients and medical students. Her Fire Woman Retreat is an annual sexual empowerment event with powerhouse teachers for women and non-binary folks and she teaches several on-going sexual empowerment programs for adults. To learn more visit firewomanretreat.com/shamelesssex Other Links: Signup for Dana's free webinar How to Get Your Desire Back, After Kids at www.danabmyers.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Be the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.com

24 Elo 201955min

Nurse Practitioner Remy Paille joins us for a very important episode on STI's (sexually transmitted infections, formerly known as sexual transmitted diseases). She also helps us answer a few sex questions including: How do I talk to partners about my STD status? And what do I do if prospective partners have a STD? I have a hard time trusting partners when they tell me their STI status. Should I ask every one of them to get tested? I gained a lot of weight on the IUD. What can I do about this? And are there any nonhormonal birth controls that work well aside from the IUD? My orgasms changed with I switched birth controls. Is this common?And what can I do about this? Also addendum from Remy in regards to one of her answers to a sex question:  "Testosterone revs our sexy engine up. It can be boosted by getting enough sleep, supplementing with vitamin D if our levels are below 50 ng/dL, supplementing with Zinc (oysters, my favorite;-), B complex vitamins as well the Indian herb, ashwaganda.  Too much testosterone can give us facial hair, a deep voice, and other masculine characteristics as well as lead to something called polycystic ovarian disease or PCOS so we want the right balance. Estrogen helps us feel juicy, voluptuous and divinely feminine. An excess of estrogen can occur when we get toxic amounts of estrogen products into our bodies from the environment (plastics—> BPA, phthalates, parabens) When our liver is not functioning effectively , it’s not able to process excess estrogen so it often recirculates causing headaches, tender breasts and crabby moods as well a increasing our risk of breast cancer. One way to rid your body of excess estrogen is to poop it out- every day at least one big healthy one, however you get there. Fiber and magnesium can help.  Progesterone helps us feel calm, safe and relaxed , which definitely helps when you want to get it on. Synthetic progesterone found in contraceptives is a different chemical that can trigger anxiety and depressed mood in some women (not all) the opposite kind of mood you want when you want to really let go into orgasmic bliss.  What’s a girl to do? While we don’t have a ton of options in terms of our contraception, we do have options about what other things we put into and onto our bodies. These can make a difference".  Other Links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com

20 Elo 20191h 16min

Tawny is a bisexual NYC-based writer, public speaker, and event producer. She's passionate about breaking stigmas associated with both sobriety and sexuality. Her words have been published in Playboy, Huffington Post, and her blog SobrieTeaParty.com. When she’s not working on all of the things, she’s doing yoga or eating tacos - sometimes simultaneously. Check out her podcast Recovery Rocks or her website tawnylara.com to learn more.

17 Elo 201933min

Tune in to hear Amy shamelessly flirting with Aaron Alexander of the Align Podcast - all while talking about how men can embrace their vulnerability, orgasms, anal massage and stimulation, prostates, and more! Aaron Alexander CR, LMT, CPT is an accomplished manual therapist and movement coach with over 13 years of professional experience. He is the founder of the Align Method™, an integrated approach to functional movement and self-care that has helped thousands of people out of pain and into health. He hosts the top-rated Align Podcast featuring the biggest names in movement and wellness. Aaron’s clients include Hollywood celebrities, Olympic/professional athletes and everyone in between. He teaches workshops and speaks at events all over the world. Check out Aaron's offerings at https://alignpodcast.com Other Links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com   Add more romance to your life with Audible Escape - free to try for your first month at Audible.com/SHAMELESS

13 Elo 20191h 32min

It's our favorite month...Anal August! And to celebrate we are offering you tips and tricks on how to explore anal safely and pleasurably including how to play with your own ass, how to play with some else’s ass, and how to play with the prostate. Be sure to check out our Instagram contest (just search Shameless Sex Podcast on Instagram) as we are giving away a TON of prizes this month - many of which are sponsored by one of our favorite sex toy brands, Fun Factory.  We also answer a sex question: My wife rarely wants to have sex with me, but she masturbates all the time. Should I talk to her about this? Other Links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Be the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.com

6 Elo 20191h

Dr. Lovejoy and Bratty Nikki join us for a fun yet informative episode all about a day in the life of working as a FemDom (female dominant/dominatrix).  Dr. Lovejoy is an experienced femdom phone sex operator with years in the industry. Bratty Nikki is a very successful online femdom who is also co-owner of iWantClips! They are also co-hosts of the IWantRadio show on siriusxm Ch 415. The hour-long 3 times a week show is devoted to human sexuality, fetish and society’s evolution towards acceptance and celebration of consensual behaviors. Its mission is to celebrate kink and fetish through thoughtful dialogue, education, role playing and coaching. To learn more visit IWantRadio.com and IWantClips.com We also answer a sex question from a listener with chronic yeast infections and UTI's.  Other Links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code Shameless at Manscaped.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Be the first to get Margins Wine's new releases by signing up for their newsletter at marginswine.com

30 Heinä 20191h 9min

What is the orgasm gap? Why does it exist, and what can we do about it both personally and on a larger scale?  Suzannah Weiss is a freelance sex and relationships writer who currently serves as a regular contributor to Vice, Teen Vogue, Bustle, Glamour, Playboy, New York Magazine, and more. She frequently discusses gender, body image, and social justice on radio shows and podcasts and has spoken at conferences including SXSW. Her feminist essays have been published in several books. She has edited for Broadly, Teen Vogue, and several bestselling authors and ghostwritten for well-known CEOs. Whoopi Goldberg once cited one of her articles on The View in a debate over whether asking for what you want in bed is a feminist act. (She thinks it is.) Suzannah holds degrees in Gender & Sexuality Studies, Cognitive Neuroscience, and Modern Culture & Media from Brown University (which she uses mainly to overanalyze The Bachelor and argue over semantics). Her background in writing, editing, marketing, and communications ranges from Silicon Valley startups to academic journals. Before starting her freelance career, she served as Assistant Editor for Footnote, a site that translates academic research for mainstream audiences, Editorial Assistant for Differences: A Journal of Feminist Cultural Studies, Content Specialist for the tech startup WibiData, and Research Assistant for Brown’s Humanity-Centered Robotics Institute and Social Cognitive Science Laboratory. Her writing has also appeared in The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, The Village Voice, Cosmopolitan, Elle, Marie Claire, Harper’s Bazaar, Seventeen, Bitch, Bust, Women’s Health, Paper, Paste, Redbook, Good Housekeeping, Mic, Business Insider, Buzzfeed, The Huffington Post, Alternet, Thought Catalog, Pop Sugar, xoJane, MEL, and much more. To learn more visit: https://suzannahweiss.com/

26 Heinä 201931min