1198: Caroline Fleck | Harnessing Validation to Deepen Human Connection

Chris Voss (@vossnegotiation) retired as the lead international kidnapping negotiator for the FBI, is CEO of the Black Swan Group, and is the author of the national bestseller Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended on It. What We Discuss with Chris Voss: How you can be a more effective negotiator for anything by using the FBI's own field-proven hostage negotiation techniques. How to determine which of the three archetypes of negotiator you're dealing with: The Analyst, The Assertive, or The Accommodator. Who has the real leverage in a kidnapping or hostage scenario -- and how this applies to your own lower-stakes negotiations. What it takes to subtly convince someone to have it your way. The Black Swan Rule: Treating others not the way you want to be treated, but the way they want to be treated. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Helmi 20191h 17min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: What's the best way to let your parents know you appreciate all they've done for you -- especially when they let you live with them rent (and guilt) free while paying down your credit card debt? It's your absolute dream to become a race car driver, though you don't really have experience working with cars and don't want to get stuck in sales or marketing. What's your best next step? You need money, but your hours have been cut. Is it ethical to pick up freelancing work that might put you in competition with your main job? Your current boss feels threatened by your rising star status and seems determined to sabotage your progress. How do you navigate the politics of appropriately pushing back? How can you convince a loved one that the MLM (multi-level marketing) business they're involved with is never going to make them rich no matter how much time is devoted to it? Life Pro Tip: Leave your contact information with all involved parties if you witness an accident. Quick shoutout to Rojenski! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! UFC Superstar Chael Sonnen speaks his mind and interviews MMA studs and legends on You're Welcome! with Chael Sonnen every Wednesday and Friday here on PodcastOne! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

22 Helmi 201947min

Todd Herman (@todd_herman) is an entrepreneur, coach, mentor, and author of The Alter Ego Effect: The Power of Secret Identities to Transform Your Life. What We Discuss with Todd Herman: How you can harness the power of your own secret identity -- and why you would ever want to. What it takes to adopt seemingly out-of-character characteristics and dominate your personal and professional life. Why taking on an alter ego isn't a "fake it 'til you make it" scheme, but channeling little-used facets of yourself you may not even realize exist. The hidden enemy forces that oppose your attempts at accomplishment and how to resist their subtle and not-so-subtle influences. How to honestly understand and come to terms with what truly motivates you -- and deal with what keeps you from following these motivations. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Helmi 20191h 20min

Cesar Millan (@cesarmillan) is the internationally renowned master dog trainer known best as the Dog Whisperer, founder of the Dog Psychology Center, and best-selling author of Lessons From the Pack: Stories of the Dogs Who Changed My Life. What We Discuss with Cesar Millan: How Cesar Millan went from impoverished Sinaloan kid to homeless immigrant to world-famous Dog Whisperer.  What we can learn about communicating with dogs by understanding the priority of their senses compared to our own. Why the key to correcting an "untrainable" dog is usually reprogramming the human in charge. Why the rich, famous, and powerful often find animal companionship so much more grounding than time with even their closest human friends. Why human beings are the only species on the planet that will follow an unstable leader who does not represent the greater good. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Helmi 20191h 14min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is your passively stoic expression (aka resting bitch face) getting you turned down for promotions? Here's some advice for turning down the Spock and cranking up the rock. How can you reduce stress and have a social life when your deadly serious job requires you to be on call 24/7/365? In trying new ways to strike up conversations without coming across as having a motive or being awkward, how do you spot the line you shouldn't cross? Are you missing out on life by not spending as much time and energy on your relationships and friendships in your 20s because you're so focused on personal development? For a year and a half, Your drug-abusing friend's been cut out of your life for ignoring the help you offered. Now he's in rehab and you don't feel much like re-engaging. Are you being selfish? You're understandably skittish about taking your dog out after he was attacked and severely injured by a bigger, unleashed dog. How can you reintroduce him to socializing, get the irresponsible owner to cover vet expenses, and prevent this from happening in the future? Is working for your significant other's brother's business -- even though you're not really qualified yet -- an opportunity or trouble waiting to happen? There are many issues at stake here, not the least of which is: what happens if you break up? Are cryptocurrency and blockchain technologies still relevant in 2019? Pro Tip: If you use AT&T, download the AT&T Call Protect app, which crowdsources spam and robocaller information. Recommendation of the Week: Inside The Mossad Quick shoutout to Mitchell Smith! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! The Adam Carolla Show is the number...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

15 Helmi 201954min

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into why a lot of self-help makes you feel miserable by design and what you can do to improve yourself without being suckered by hucksters or succumbing to an existential meltdown. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: Why so-called "self-help" often makes you feel worse about yourself than before you sought it. How to separate actionable self-help from motivational "hustle porn" designed to prompt emotions and elicit sales. Why those inspirational bromides you’re seeing all over Instagram might goad you into short-term action, but won't do much for you over the long haul. Striving to improve yourself is admirable and encouraged -- just don't get suckered into the myth that there's a finish line. How to consume genuine self-help without being miserable while avoiding the big business con-artistry that pervades this space. And much more... Sign up for Six Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Helmi 201956min

Cal Newport researches cutting-edge technology and writes about the impact of these innovations on society. He is the author of Deep Work, So Good They Can't Ignore You, and Digital Minimalism. What We Discuss with Cal Newport: Why focus in our modern era of endless technological distractions is the new IQ. Why your greatest competitive advantage may lie simply around decluttering and resetting that focus. The best ways to declutter the mental landscape to optimize your capacity to focus. How Henry David Thoreau's analog lessons from Walden can be applied to your 21st century digital lifestyle. How you can use technology to improve your daily life without becoming absorbed by its distractions. And much more... Sign up for Six Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Helmi 20191h 6min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How can you prove that your teacher is name-grading essays without cheating on the paper? You're a veteran looking to transition back to civilian life. Here are some resources that might help (many thanks to your fellow veteran Zach Criswell for this info). When the big change you really need is a job opportunity at another company, is it unfair not to give your current employer a chance to negotiate with you to stay put? You're worried your significant other might have gotten wrapped up in an expensive self-help cult. What might you say to bring them gently back to Earth without wasting even more time and money? How do you find a lawyer who will actually get the job you need done and won't break the bank? An important network connection has offered to help you find opportunities as you're transitioning into a new field, but how can you ensure you're not biting off more than you can chew while still learning the ropes without wasting anyone's time? You're a contractor who has worked for a company that has been bought and sold three times in the past three years. How do you present this on your resume so it doesn't look like you've worked for three companies in that time? You're in your fifties and looking to open a franchise, though you don't have direct retail experience. What should you do to minimize risk so you're not burdened with debt in your retirement years should things go south? Recommendation of the Week: Conversations with a Killer: The Ted Bundy Tapes Quick shoutout to Natasha Holmes! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Rob Cesternino is a two-time Survivor contestant and was referred to by Jeff Probst as "The Smartest Player to Never Win Survivor." Rob...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Helmi 201943min