1198: Caroline Fleck | Harnessing Validation to Deepen Human Connection

DV charges didn't stop your ex — they taught him to fight dirty through lawsuits instead of fists. How can you repel his legal abuse? It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1199On This Week's Feedback Friday:Some listener feedback from episodes 1184 and 1187 launches this latest voyage of the dooze cruise. All aboard!You escaped an abusive relationship while pregnant, thinking the nightmare was over. Instead, your ex launched a relentless campaign of lawsuits, false reports, and stalking through the court system. How do you protect yourself and your child when the very system meant to help becomes his weapon? [Thanks once again to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us answer this!]Your dad used his workers' comp settlement to buy rental properties in a distant state, managed by a cousin you've never met who has power of attorney. Now you're drowning in landlord responsibilities, suspicious money requests, and legal brick walls. Can you untangle this mess before it all falls apart? [Big thanks to estate attorney Brent Dille for guiding us through this one!]You're the only one on your team with the required PMP certification for a new management role. But when you checked your boss's calendar, you discovered your coworker already had first and second round interviews scheduled — before your first one. Was this rigged from the start?Recommendation of the Week: A Swim in a Pond in the Rain: In Which Four Russians Give a Master Class on Writing, Reading, and Life by George SaundersAs a stay-at-home mom, you're desperate for adult friendship but keep choosing complicated people or watching relationships mysteriously fizzle out. Your newest friend constantly vents about her marriage but won't take advice. Are you the common denominator in these failed connections?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: OpenPhone: 20% off 1st 6 months: openphone.com/jordanDeleteMe: 20% off: joindeleteme.com/jordan, code JORDANProgressive Insurance: Free online quote: progressive.comLand Rover Defender: landroverusa.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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CBD is hyped as a miracle cure for everything, but where's the proof? Jessica Wynn breaks down the science vs. snake oil here on Skeptical Sunday!Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by Jessica Wynn!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1197On This Week's Skeptical Sunday:Cannabis-sourced cannabidiol (CBD) is widely marketed as a safe cure-all, but most claims — especially for chronic pain, anxiety, and sleep — lack solid scientific backing.The CBD industry is poorly regulated — products may be mislabeled, contaminated, or contain THC, which can cause legal or workplace issues.The only FDA-approved medical use of CBD is Epidiolex, a prescription drug for rare childhood epilepsy — not the casual oils, gummies, or lattes sold in stores.Dosage, purity, and method of use all matter — yet most over-the-counter CBD products provide far lower doses than those shown effective in clinical trials.If you choose to use CBD products, be an informed consumer — look for third-party lab certificates (COAs), consult your doctor if you take medications, and approach packaging claims with curiosity and skepticism.Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!Connect with Jessica Wynn at Instagram and Threads, and subscribe to her newsletter: Between the Lines!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:FlyKitt: 15% off: flykitt.com, code JORDANBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanShopify: 3 months @ $1/month (select plans): shopify.com/jordanSimpliSafe: 50% off + 1st month free: simplisafe.com/jordanHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Your abused sister won't get therapy, screams at her children, and blames everyone but herself. When does trauma stop being an excuse? It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1196On This Week's Feedback Friday:Your father sexually abused your half-sister decades ago, yet she's now cozying up to him while treating you like the enemy. She screams at her kids, won't get therapy, and your mom keeps pushing reconciliation. At what point does trauma stop being an excuse?Your best friend of 20 years kept hanging out with your ex after the breakup — even during your mental health recovery period. When you objected, he basically told you to suck it up. Now she's invited to his annual badminton tournament and you're questioning everything about friendship.You spent $30k on a master's degree but can't pursue new opportunities because your boyfriend keeps getting rejected from game development jobs. You agreed he'd find work first before moving, but his confidence is crumbling. How long do you wait for someone else's career?Recommendation of the Week: Have ChatGPT (or your AI of choice) optimize the timing of your vitamins and meds for maximum efficacy.Your chaotic childhood with hoarder parents led you to interior design, but now unemployment has you questioning everything. Is your passion for organized spaces a genuine calling or just psychological housekeeping?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:Quiltmind: Email jordanaudience@quiltmind.com to get started or visit quiltmind.com for more infoBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanBoll & Branch: 15% off first set of sheets: bollandbranch.com, code JORDANLand Rover Defender: landroverusa.comHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Beyond catfishing, romance scammers are moving in with victims and rewriting wills. Here, Pretend Podcast host Javier Leiva exposes their new playbook.Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1195What We Discuss with Javier Leiva:Romance scams are so common that identical fake stories (architect in Indonesia, talking to Johnny Depp) are used with thousands of victims simultaneously, making them seem like urban legends.Scammers target vulnerable people by checking boxes: isolated from family, cognitive decline, terminal illness, government pension, loneliness. More boxes = bigger mark.Advanced scammers move in with victims, become caregivers, get named as estate executors, then move on to victim's elderly relatives when the person dies.Damage goes beyond money — victims often become unable to trust again and avoid relationships entirely, while family stress affects everyone for years.Watch for red flags: excessive early generosity, isolating behavior, urgent requests bypassing reasoning, password/financial access requests, sob stories. Trust family concerns.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:The Cybersecurity Tapes: thecybersecuritytapes.comCaldera + Lab: 20% off: calderalab.com/jordan, code JORDANCookUnity: 50% off first week: cookunity.com/jordan or code JORDANProgressive: Free online quote: progressive.comHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Chemicals in water, food, and receipts are messing with our hormones. Nick Pell helps us understand and reduce the risks on Skeptical Sunday!Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by writer and researcher Nick Pell!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1194On This Week's Skeptical Sunday:Endocrine disruptors are chemicals that interfere with your body's hormone signals by either blocking them or mimicking them, potentially affecting testosterone, estrogen, and other crucial hormones that regulate mood, growth, and reproduction.These chemicals are virtually everywhere — in drinking water, plastic bottles, receipts, shampoos, soaps, food packaging, and even birth control runoff in groundwater. Complete avoidance is impossible in modern life.Evidence suggests EDCs may contribute to declining testosterone in men, early puberty in girls, and male fertility issues. Frog feminization studies show real hormonal effects in wildlife and Alex Jones.Unlike typical toxins, endocrine disruptors follow a "non-monotonic dose response" — meaning lower doses might actually be more harmful than higher doses, making it impossible to determine a "safe" exposure level.You can reduce exposure by filtering water, avoiding receipt handling, using glass/metal containers instead of plastic, choosing bar soap over liquid, and not microwaving food in plastic wrap — small changes that add up.Connect with Jordan on Twitter, Instagram, and YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on Skeptical Sunday, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:Quiltmind: Email jordanaudience@quiltmind.com to get started or visit quiltmind.com for more infoShopify: 3 months @ $1/month (select plans): shopify.com/jordanBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanSimpliSafe: 50% off + 1st month free: simplisafe.com/jordanHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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To your family's chagrin, you escaped conservative traditions to find love with an atheist. Can your heart coexist with your heritage? It's Feedback Friday!And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1193On This Week's Feedback Friday:Gabe finds Portuguese portals to be a-door-able and so-called "hot" yoga temperatures too cool for school. You're a Turkish woman who escaped conservative Muslim traditions, found love with an atheist Canadian, and now face the ultimate family showdown. Can you build bridges between two worlds without burning either one down?After 12 years at your company, you suspect they're quietly orchestrating your exit while you consider taking leave to care for your Alzheimer's-struggling father at home. Is this corporate chess game actually your ticket to the sabbatical you secretly crave? [Thanks to HR professional Joanna Tate for helping us with this one!]Five years ago, someone claimed your husband cheated with a coworker. You've carried this poison pill of doubt ever since, recently confronted the accuser again, but still have no smoking gun. How do you solve a mystery with no evidence?Recommendation of the Week: Join a group fitness class to make friends in new places.Your former yoga student — now imprisoned for violent crimes including kidnapping — sent you a heartfelt letter from behind bars. As a future therapist, you want to help, but as a human, you're terrified. Do you respond to someone who could be dangerous?Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger.Connect with Gabriel on Twitter at @GabeMizrahi and Instagram @gabrielmizrahi.And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors: The Cybersecurity Tapes: thecybersecuritytapes.comLand Rover Defender: landroverusa.comDeleteMe: 20% off: joindeleteme.com/jordan, code JORDANHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comAG1: Welcome kit: drinkag1.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Ordinary citizens are solving war crimes with Google Maps and Twitter. Here, Bellingcat's Eliot Higgins reveals how anyone can become a digital detective!Full show notes and resources can be found here: jordanharbinger.com/1192What We Discuss with Eliot Higgins:Bellingcat, the investigative journalism group founded by Eliot Higgins, pioneered open source investigations using publicly available data — social media posts, satellite imagery, and online databases — to uncover war crimes, assassinations, and state-level deception that traditional journalism missed.Bellingcat's techniques include geolocation (matching video backgrounds to satellite imagery), chronolocation (using shadows to determine time), and "fingerprinting" military equipment by unique damage patterns to track movements across borders.Bellingcat's major investigations exposed Russian involvement in MH17 downing, identified GRU agents in Skripal poisoning through passport/phone metadata, and mapped entire Russian military units from soldiers' social media posts during Ukraine operations.Bellingcat faces serious threats — Russian surveillance, hacking attempts, disinformation campaigns, and even kidnapping plots — while being falsely labeled as CIA fronts to discredit its independent verification work.Anyone can learn open source investigation through Bellingcat's free resources, Discord community of 40,000 members, YouTube tutorials, and volunteer programs — proving that citizen journalism can hold powerful actors accountable.And much more...And if you're still game to support us, please leave a review here — even one sentence helps! Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course!Subscribe to our once-a-week Wee Bit Wiser newsletter today and start filling your Wednesdays with wisdom!Do you even Reddit, bro? Join us at r/JordanHarbinger!This Episode Is Brought To You By Our Fine Sponsors:Saily: 15% off: saily.com/jordanharbinger, code JORDANHARBINGERIDEO U: 15% off: ideou.com/jhsHomes.com: Find your home: homes.comProgressive: Free online quote: progressive.comBetterHelp: 10% off first month: betterhelp.com/jordanSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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