141. How 'Your Brain On Porn' Unintentionally Trapped Me In a Porn Addiction

141. How 'Your Brain On Porn' Unintentionally Trapped Me In a Porn Addiction

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In this episode of the Help is Here podcast, hosts Tom and Mari delve into the book 'Your Brain on Porn' by Gary Wilson, discussing its insights and shortcomings regarding porn addiction.


They critique the advice given in the book, emphasizing the importance of understanding the underlying compulsive behaviors rather than merely removing triggers.


The conversation highlights the need for a shift in focus from abstinence to gaining control over one's desires, and the detrimental effects of relying on ineffective strategies like distraction and environmental changes.


They stress the significance of emotional awareness and education in overcoming addiction, while also sharing personal experiences and insights from clients.


The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to seek out resources that provide a realistic understanding of porn addiction and its impacts.


Chapters


00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Book Overview

03:45 The Role of Personal Experience in Overcoming Addiction

05:33 Separating Porn Addiction from Real-Life Relationships

08:28 The Importance of Self-Understanding in Recovery

10:50 Shifting Goals: From Abstinence to Control

12:53 Criticism of Common Recovery Advice

15:47 The Ineffectiveness of Distraction Techniques

18:22 The Role of Environment in Addiction Recovery

20:02 The Path to Freedom from Addiction

22:41 Understanding Triggers and Urges

24:47 The Cycle of Compulsive Behavior

26:29 Rethinking Compulsive Desires

28:04 The Misunderstanding of Emotional Triggers

30:06 The Role of Misinformation in Addiction

31:58 Breaking Free from the Cycle

34:26 The Importance of Education in Recovery

36:14 The Dangers of Streak Mentality

39:31 Neuroscience of Addiction and Compulsion

42:17 The Reality of Porn Addiction

44:42 Sharing Real Experiences to Educate Others


Takeaways


The book 'Your Brain on Porn' offers valuable insights but also contains misleading advice.


Understanding the brain's response to porn is crucial for recovery.


Advice to remove triggers is often ineffective in the long term.


Separating porn addiction from real-life relationships is essential for recovery.


The goal should be to gain control over compulsive desires, not just to stop watching porn.


Emotional awareness plays a significant role in managing urges.


Streaks and counting days can reinforce addiction rather than help overcome it.


Intermittent use of porn can strengthen addictive pathways.


Education about addiction is vital for effective recovery strategies.


Personal accounts of addiction can provide valuable insights for those struggling.

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25. How is Life Beyond a Porn Addiction with Mari Paulus

25. How is Life Beyond a Porn Addiction with Mari Paulus

In this podcast, we talk about life beyond porn addiction and compulsive substitutes. We discuss how porn addiction is totally about addicted neural pathways and not who people intrinsically are. If you want further support in quitting porn, I recommend watching me and Mari's Free Beyond Compulsion™ Method fundamentals training, available at: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com #nofap #addictionrecovery

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24. Overcoming Porn and Helplessness with Mari Paulus

24. Overcoming Porn and Helplessness with Mari Paulus

A lot of NoFap advice creates helplessness within people. In this episode, we talk about how the reality is that you have way more control over yourself and your actions than you think. Choose to live a life of freedom from porn. If you want to learn more about the Beyond Compulsion™ go and get the free training, available at www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com

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23. The Impact of Dopamine on Quitting Porn with Mari Paulus

23. The Impact of Dopamine on Quitting Porn with Mari Paulus

In this podcast, we talk about what about how dopamine makes people want porn, but not necessarily enjoy it. Dopamine is the molecule of more, and you will never be satisfied by pursuing a supernormal stimulus. Free Beyond Compulsion™ Method training: ⁠ www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com

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22. What Happens After 90 Days of NoFap? With Mari Paulus

22. What Happens After 90 Days of NoFap? With Mari Paulus

In this podcast, we talk about what about what happens after 2 or 3 months of abstinence from pornography. Free Beyond Compulsion™ Method training: www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com

27 Touko 202440min

21. The Porn Addiction Recovery Epiphany with Mari Paulus

21. The Porn Addiction Recovery Epiphany with Mari Paulus

If you would like to learn more about the Beyond Compulsion™ method then you can get started with the free training at www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com To be honest I have started to love recording episodes with Mari. We just enjoy it. We share what's been going on for guys in our program, how to quit porn and lots more.

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20. Write a Remember Letter to Quit Porn Addiction with Mari Paulus

20. Write a Remember Letter to Quit Porn Addiction with Mari Paulus

If you would like to learn more about the Beyond Compulsion™ method then you can get started with the free training at ⁠https://www.thomasmolyneux.com/ Mari Paulus has worked in addiction recovery since 1990 and together we're on a mission to help people quit porn correctly using rational emotive therapy and the Beyond Compulsion™ method in particular. In this episode, I share my remember letter, discuss how my ex breaking up with me helped me quit porn, and discuss where porn can take people.

17 Touko 202445min

19. Learning How to Quit Porn Correctly With Mari Paulus

19. Learning How to Quit Porn Correctly With Mari Paulus

Get started with the Beyond Compulsion method by getting the newest free training video at www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com 9 years of failure trying to quit porn. One day, Mari asks to come on my podcast. This random person from the internet. Why not I thought to myself? Mari's credentials looked good to me. 30+ years working in addiction recovery. And that podcast changed things for me. Instead of hearing the same old bs about healing, emotions and triggers - she told me the truth. She was straight with me and made me face the reality of my porn addiction. This is essential to gain permanent mental freedom. We are now sharing this method with others.

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18. Overcoming Porn Addiction with Addiction Recovery Psychotherapist - Jess Waller

18. Overcoming Porn Addiction with Addiction Recovery Psychotherapist - Jess Waller

If you're interested in learning more about the Beyond Compulsion method that I learned from Mari, we have a free guide available at www.beyondcompulsionacademy.com Jess was a great guest and her work is very meaningful. There are many paths to truth and each person has a different way of getting there. Skip to what piques your interest. 0:00 - Why Jess Chose to Work in Addiction Recovery 5:21 - The Problem with the Porn Addict Label 10:50 - The Difference Between Shame and Guilt 12:57 - The Trauma Timeline 19:04 - Is there a "Root cause" of Porn Addiction? 30:42 - The Choice to Step Out of Addiction 34:38 - The People that Addiction Impacts 38:04 - The Effectiveness of the 12-Step Approach 41:12 - The Sad Reality of My Porn Addiction 46:01 - What Does Addiction Give People? 48:46 - Reducing Triggers Versus Dealing with Cravings You can find Jess at https://jmwtherapeuticservices.co.uk/ or email jmwtherapeuticservices@outlook.com Thanks for listening and never give up choosing a life free from pornography. #addictionrecovery #mensmentalhealth #selfimprovement

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