131. Beyond the Checklist: Values Based Dating with Kelsea Warren

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking values based dating with Kelsea Warren!

Picture this: you date based on timing, chemistry, or pressure—like friends settling down or feeling like you’re running out of time.

While this can all be very real, what if dating wasn’t about chasing a spark or checking boxes, and instead was about grounding yourself in your values? What if clarity on your values could not only help you choose a partner—but also prevent dating burnout, heartbreak, and the feeling of losing yourself in the process?

To explore this, we’re joined today by Kelsea Warren, back on the show! Kelsea helps individuals and businesses elevate wellbeing and prevent burnout by identifying and aligning with their core values and after this episode, I think values based dating just might be your next dating strategy.

We’ll talk about what dating values actually are, how they’re different from surface-level preferences, and why getting clear on them can shift your entire approach to love. We’ll explore how to bring values into the dating conversation without scaring someone off, and how to spot green flags that someone shares your values—even if they don’t say it directly.

So, whether you’re new to dating, stuck in patterns that don’t feel good anymore, or just craving more intentional connection, this episode will help you build relationships that align with who you are.

Alright Flirties, let’s do this, and meet Kelsea!

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About our guest: Kelsea Warren is a coach, consultant, and speaker who specializes in burnout prevention. She has a master's degree in social work and is approaching candidacy for a Ph.D. in Industrial and Organizational Psychology. She is an expert in employee burnout and workplace values and uses that as the lens to help thousands of high achievers create and sustain aligned careers and organizations improve their employee experience.

Kelsea has 6+ years of experience consulting and has worked with hundreds of businesses and employees to operationalize their values for wellbeing. Before that, she spent 8+ years in mental health and working as a clinical therapist. Kelsea has an organic audience of 150k+ across social platforms, which has landed her collaborations and keynotes with brands like Urban Decay, Cox Communications, Association for Talent Development, and University of Arizona.

Kelsea is also an Air Force spouse of 12 years and a mom to 2 daughters.

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About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.

Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.

His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.

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