#453 The Vagina Whisperer: Spilling the Tea - with Dr. Sara Reardon

This episode is all about kissing, smooching, making out, and doing the nasty tongue dance. Repeat guests and relationship experts Alicia and Erwan Davon teach us all about the skills needed to be a great kisser, how to match your lover's kissing style, what to do if your partner is just so so in the kissing department, as well as hickeys, spitting, and if there's such thing as too much tongue About our guests: Erwan and Alicia Davon have become the go- to experts for those seeking a higher level of relationship support. Erwan is the founder, senior teacher and president of San Francisco based The Davon Method. Together with Alicia, who has a Masters in Psychology and training as a therapist, they specialize in supporting singles in getting into passionate and successful relationships, and helping couples take their relationships to new heights of romance and intimacy.  Based in the SF Bay Area, Erwan and Alicia provide a high end boutique service that gives their clients an effective way to enhance their relationships. They offer all of their coaching and classes online and support students all over the world.  To learn more text Alicia at 415 308 9580 or visit their website at www.davonmethod.com Find them on social media at @davonmethod Come see us LIVE! Learn more about our events here: https://www.shamelesssex.com/events Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% sexy lingerie, lubes, massage oils, and the best sex toys in the industry with code HOTSEX at https://hustlerhollywood.com Try the Flure Dating App now! Click here Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

26 Maalis 20241h 6min

What non-hormonal options are available to prevent pregnancy OR increase fertility/support getting pregnant? What are some of the most common issues or health risks from using hormonal birth control? What is missing in the common fertility nutrition advice out there today, and why can it be problematic? What do both ancestral practices and modern research suggest to be optimal for female and male fertility when it comes to macronutrients, micronutrients, meal timing/spacing, and so on? And what are some of the specific recommendations for nutrient-dense foods to emphasize as well as ingredients to avoid to support fertility? Are there any specific diets that are more supportive than others? About our guest: Lisa Hendrickson-Jack is a certified Fertility Awareness Educator and Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioner who teaches women to chart their menstrual cycles for natural birth control, conception, and monitoring overall health. She is the author of three bestselling books: Real Food For Fertility (co-authored with Lily Nichols), The Fifth Vital Sign, and the Fertility Awareness Mastery Charting Workbook. Lisa works tirelessly to debunk the myth that regular ovulation is only important when you want children by recognizing the menstrual cycle as a vital sign. Drawing heavily from the current scientific literature, Lisa presents an evidence-based approach to help women connect to their fifth vital sign by uncovering the connection between the menstrual cycle, fertility, and overall health — something our education systems have consistently failed to do. With well over 4 million downloads, her podcast, Fertility Friday, is the #1 source for information about fertility awareness and menstrual cycle health. When she’s not researching, writing, and mentoring women's health professionals, you’ll find her spending time with her husband, her two sons, and her baby girl. To learn more, visit https://fertilityfriday.com Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here. And save $500 on your dream vacation in your own king suite with code KINGSUITE500 now until March 24th, 2024. To apply for our scholarship spot click here: https://forms.gle/x8FrMAZFg1xWhByQ8 Come see us for a FREE LIVE sex ed workshop in Los Angeles Saturday, March 23rd 6-8pm at Hustler's Hollywood Blvd store. Learn all about sex toys and how to up your pleasure game. Sign up ASAP here because the first 20 people get free sexy gifts! Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 20% off (and free shipping on) the best performance enhancers with code SHAMELESS at http://usejoymode.com Get 10% your first Bathmate pump when you go to https://www.bathmatedirect.com/ShamelesSex Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off Shameless Sex Fav's with code SHAMELESSLOVE24 or 15% off all other sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

19 Maalis 20241h 21min

This is a continuation of episode #338 Soft Cock Play and Why We Love Them (which is also our top viewed video on YouTube!). You asked, so we are answering by responding to the following questions: why are “you” women able to talk about soft cocks and penis owners' bodies in general? Why is reframing sex so important when it comes to soft cocks? What are the techniques that encourage blood flow AND increase pleasure and fun? What do I do when my partner is in a downward spiral regarding their own soft cock? What do I do if my partner doesn’t want to be part of the problem solving for my soft cock? And what about soft cocks as a symptom of prostate issues/cancer/diabetes? About our guests: Erica Leroye, M.Ed (she/her/they) is the Founder and "Chief Erotic Officer" of Creative Body Release, a philosophy and methodology that is built upon 30+ years of body/mind training and educational expertise across the lifespan. Erica is a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Human Development Specialist, Healing Arts professional, and Erotic Artist/Educator. After the sudden death of her fiancee to undiagnosed diabetes, her life's mission became “De-Mystifying the International Erectile Epidemic” using research-based best practices from multiple disciplines, common sense, and a knowing splash of women's intuition. Erica's unique method for working with arousal and erectile issues (in all gender identities) is founded on a deep understanding of the developmental trajectory of the sensory-motor system and the body/mind challenges of "going with the flow" when it comes to moving through stressful life realities. To learn more go to https://www.flowcode.com/page/creativebodyrelease.com Michelle Renee (she/her) based in San Diego, is dedicated to helping clients live their most authentic life. From her personal journey, Michelle knows that love heals. Michelle has combined her 8+ years of experience as both a cuddle therapist and a surrogate partner to create a hybrid offering called Foundations of Human Connection. She affectionately welcomes clients into her Human Connection Lab, where she supports them in relational healing through experiential touch, unconditional positive regard, celebrated agency, and authentic connection.  She is also the founder of SoftCockWeek.com, co-founder of Embrace Surrogate Partner Resource Group, host of The Intimacy Lab podcast, and Director of Training for Cuddlist.com.  You can find Michelle on social media at @meetmichellerenee or check out her sites HumanConnectionCoach.com and MeetMichelleRenee.com Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Come see us for a FREE LIVE sex ed workshop in Los Angeles Saturday, March 23rd 6-8pm at Hustler's Hollywood Blvd store. Learn all about sex toys and how to up your pleasure game. Sign up ASAP here because the first 20 people get free sexy gifts! Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 50% off our favorite delicious, healthy pre-made meals with code chipndip50 at http://factormeals.com/chipndip50 Get 20% off (and free shipping on) the best performance enhancers with code SHAMELESS at http://usejoymode.com Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off Shameless Sex Fav's with code SHAMELESSLOVE24 or 15% off all other sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

12 Maalis 20241h 32min

This bonus ad-free episode is a 10 minute teaser from one of our favorite sex-ed podcasts Sex Ed with DB. DB sits down with Dr. Lexx Brown-James, therapist and sexologist, to shed light on maintaining healthy conflict resolution, intimacy, and communication in a long-term relationship. They also dive into Dr. Lexx's work in the world of sex-positive parenting, unraveling what it means and how to address personal trauma and therapy's role in the journey towards becoming a sex-positive parent. In a world where sex education is often shrouded in fear, Dr. Lexx guides breaks down how provide shame-free sex education to our children, fostering a future of non-judgmental understanding of sex. Listen to the full episode here More about Sex Ed with DB: Sex Ed with DB is a feminist podcast bringing you all the sex ed you never got through unique and entertaining storytelling, centering LGBTQ+ and BIPOC experts. We discuss topics such as birth control, pleasure, LGBTQ+ health and rights, abortion, consent, BDSM, sex and disability, HIV, sex in the media, and more. Learn more about Sex Ed https://www.sexedwithdb.com Follow Sex Ed with DB on: Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdb YouTube: Sex Ed with DB Twitter: @sexedwithdb Facebook: @edwithdb

8 Maalis 202418min

Learn why King "Daddy" Heff says “In submission there is freedom. In dominance there is responsibility”. King Heff also teaches us how to be more dominant in the bedroom, how to master the sensual art of impact play (spanking), as well as the in's and outs (pun intended) of anal training. About our guest: King Heff is a sexual enhancement product specialist from Charlotte, NC. A strong believer and promoter of positive, honest, & healthy sexual relationships, King Heff is the creator of Pink Heffs & Black Heffs; a line of all natural sexually stimulating supplement vitamins designed to help strengthen and improve the sex lives of both women and men. Unique in nature, the product line, which is comprised of the Pink Heffs The Original Vagina Vitamin for women & Black Heffs God Dick Pill for men, offers individuals an organic option for intense, long lasting, intimate pleasure. King Heff aka Daddy Heff is also a Professional Dom who specializes in the Sensual Side of BDSM. He educates men/women/couples at The Sensual Art of Impact Play Seminar, through his private sessions as well as his seminars at the Exxxotica Expo. King Heff continuously uses the platform that The Heffs Lifestyle provides him to educate others about the importance of self-truth, self-love, self awareness, and sexual satisfaction. To learn more go to https://linktr.ee/kingheff Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get seven days of FREE ethical porn by Afterglow at bit.ly/xoshameless Get 30 days of free hot audio erotica at http://dipseastories.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off Shameless Sex Fav's with code SHAMELESSLOVE24 or 15% off all other sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

5 Maalis 20241h

Trigger warning! This episode is about genital mutilation, female (and male) and circumcision, healing after physiological trauma in and around the genitals, and most importantly how to repair sexual function. Repeat guests and sexual health specialists Dr. Castillo and Remy Paille, NP teach us about the modern day medical technology and tools that can help just about anyone reclaim their pleasure. About our guests: Dr. Castillo is a Fellowship-trained Female Pelvic Medicine specialist. As founder and director of Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos, CA, he is dedicated to improving common quality of life conditions that affect millions of women. Dr Castillo completed his OB/GYN residency at St Barnabas Medical Center in NJ then went on to complete a three year Fellowship in Reconstructive Pelvic Surgery and Female Pelvic Medicine at the Cleveland Clinic Foundation. After 5 years of clinical practice at Kaiser Permanente where his duties involved overseeing resident research and education and teaching medical students as Assistant Clinical Professor of Stanford University, Dr Castillo created the first private Intimate Wellness Center in the San Francisco Bay Area. Dr Castillo is actively involved in clinical research and is on several women’s health advisory boards to help shape new emerging therapies and advanced treatment protocols that address commonly experienced conditions that occur as a consequence of childbirth, aging, and menopause that impact intimacy and quality of life. Dr Castillo aims to optimize health through root-cause treatments for the common symptoms associated with aging. He is committed to empowering women to embrace their vitality and erase the stigma of Female Sexual Health through educational events, seminars and compassionate care. Remy Paille is an Adult Gerontology Nurse Practitioner working alongside Dr. Castillo at Swan Medical Intimate Wellness in Los Gatos. Remy has years of experience working as a Primary Care Provider (PCP) as well as in acute care and integrative therapy related environments, and has a deep passion for Functional Medicine, as well as pelvic health and intimate wellness. To learn more visit swanmd.com Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Sign up for the Pleasure Attitudes 4-week course here Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off Shameless Sex Fav's with code SHAMELESSLOVE24 or 15% off all other sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

27 Helmi 20241h 11min

What is ethical non-monogamy and how does it differ culture to culture? Why is it important to consider how BIPOC folks experience ENM, marriage, and sexuality as a whole? What cultural stereotypes about sexuality still exist to this day for BIPOC folks? And what are some tools and top tips for people who are new to ENM? About our guest: Taylor Sparks, also known as Mariposa, is an erotic educator and sex goddess and is a dedicated coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy and intimate relationships. With a fervent commitment to empowering individuals, Taylor brings her extensive knowledge as an erotic educator and certified expert in holistic aromatherapy and human behavior to guide people on their journey. Drawing upon more than two decades of experience in the natural skincare and cosmetics industry, Taylor, introduced the world to OrganicLoven.com—the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shop. Organic Loven stands as a beacon of sexual health and wellness, offering organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toys, sex-positive books, enlightening erotic educational seminars, ethical non-monogamy coaching and exclusive adult's only luxury vacations. Taylor's insights have resonated across prominent media, including Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Married 2 Medicine (Bravo TV), Men’s Health, Oprah, Shape, Women’s Health, and others. Prior to the inception of Organic Loven, she crafted a line of 16 head-to-toe organic body care products called Skin Care for Athletes that was tailored for elite endurance athletes. These innovative products gained recognition in Muscle & Fitness Hers and was B Corp Certified, alongside sponsorships for major athletic events and for Olympic athletes in both the summer and winter games. Taylor's mantra resonates through her work and life: "Give as much love as you want to receive, embracing love in all its forms—be it monogamous, non-monogamous, polyamorous, straight, bi, gay, or transgender. Love boldly, deeply, naturally, organically, and purely." Website – www.organicloven.com    Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, X, Youtube – @organicloven  Podcast: anchor.fm/sistersofsexuality  IG: Sistersofsexuality Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 50% off our favorite delicious, healthy pre-made meals with code chipndip50 at http://factormeals.com/chipndip50 Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

20 Helmi 20241h 17min

This episode is intended to continue the conversation we had on #359 with Gigi Engle. You asked us to host a neuroscientist to discuss what’s happening in the brain during compulsive use of sex and porn, and repeat guest Dr. Nan Wise is the perfect fit for this discussion. Dr. Nan shares her definition of sex and porn addiction and whether or not it’s real (spoiler alert - she says it’s VERY real for some people). She explains what’s happening in the brain when someone starts to consume sex and porn compulsively, as well as when it turns into an addiction. She takes this even further by explaining how to know if your own behavior has become compulsive and some of the best modalities for healing or reclaiming your sexuality, as well as what to do if you suspect your partner’s behaviors are problematic. About our guest: Nan Wise, Ph.D., is a cognitive neuroscientist, professor, licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, board-certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified relationship specialist. After almost twenty years in clinical practice, she became driven to understand how the brain creates moods and behaviors in relation to sex and other aspects of human experience. Having returned to academia to pursue a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience, she is now a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University-Newark. She is the author of the book Why Good Sex Matters and has contributed her expert opinion to outlets such as National Geographic, The Atlantic, Time, Glamour, Women’s Health Magazine, The Washington Post, HuffPost, Romper, and Bustle. To learn more visit http://askdoctornan.com Join us April 24th-29th, 2024 for The Shameless Sex Retreat: Unleash Your Shameless Self - in Tulum! Spaces are limited to reserve your spot ASAP here Do you love us? Do you REALLY love us? Then order our book now! Go to shamelesssex.com to snag your copy Support Shameless Sex by sending us gifts via our Amazon Wish List Other links: Get 30 days of free hot audio erotica at http://dipseastories.com/shameless Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESS10 on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at http://uberlube.com Get 10% off while mastering the art of pleasure at  http://OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at http://purepleasureshop.com

13 Helmi 20241h 24min