141. Not for Surprises + Why Your Impulse to Help Is Not Helping
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141. Not for Surprises + Why Your Impulse to Help Is Not Helping

Hi there, kooks! This week, Caroline and Jess have a surprise party to debrief on. C was shocked to discover friends and family—including J—at her parent’s house, and is honestly still recovering. J tells her side of events and then the two discuss feeling loved and the best ways to pull off that sort of surprise.

Then J reveals that she and her partner traded their traditional social roles at a party recently, and it made her consider again if she’s doing too much in her relationship(s). What are the ways we connect with people? What could a party be like if we didn’t try so hard to connect people? And what would life feel like if we knew the line between helping and harming the possible connections around us? C and J talk all things breaking codependency and then offer a little homework assignment to you: it’s easy, ostensibly—be baby.


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