Defensive Behavior: How to Overcome this Pattern in Your Relationship: Episode 169

Defensive Behavior: How to Overcome this Pattern in Your Relationship: Episode 169

Defensiveness is a learned behavior to compensate for something going on beneath the surface.

A few common sources of defensiveness in relationship:

  • A lack of feeling emotionally safe because they often feel invalidated
  • Taking something personally (and making it mean something different than what was said)
  • Fear of being judged, not loved, abandoned, or punished
  • An attachment to a certain perspective about themselves or the situation

Here's the thing...if you and your partner perpetually react with defensiveness, you will leave conversations unresolved, build up more and more tension, and/or get to the point where you feel like you're walking on eggshells.

So today's podcast episode goes deeper into understanding why defensiveness shows up in your relationship PLUS how to break this pattern, so you communicate openly and constructively.

Resources For Your Relationship:

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