The Social Anxiety to Social Confidence journey

It's really important for us to have a clear understanding of what the transformational path looks like as we're moving through it. It makes a big difference for people because it also gives them the ability to when we recognise these small steps we've made forward, it gives us the sense of achievement and momentum and so we keep after it."

The words of expert "Gene Monterastelli"; a Brooklyn based EFT tapping practitioner who works with people to help them overcome limiting beliefs, anxiety, and relationship challenges.

Gene suffered from specific social anxiety: "I was totally fine performing on stage for 7000 people. But when I was engaging with a person 1 on 1 I didn't have control because the other person had more agency, they could make choices. And that unpredictability of how they would respond was crippling. For me it was the starting of conversations."

We go into depth on the journey from social anxiety to social confidence and Gene shares what he did to overcome his social anxiety using the tapping, and he also paints a picture of what to expect, and what mindset to take to keep going.

QUOTE: The times that I feel anxious, the times that I feel overwhelmed, the times that I feel insecure it's because I on some level have decided "my worth is determined by how someone else judges and evaluates me". When I am in a position where I recognise my own worth, and I am making that judgment myself and seeing myself as worthy because that's intrinsic about me, then navigating my day is really easy. I'm no longer trying to appease or try to live up to someone else's definition of success and I'm just simply trying to be me in this moment. And when I do that I have so much more control. And regardless of what comes I'm able to respond with so much more grace.

Gene's show notes page

My homepage (find the 12 shortcuts to social confidence here):
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com

Contact me directly:
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/

Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier

Start here:

Free 7 Secrets to Social Confidence
https://bit.ly/socialconfidencenow

This short mini-course explains:
• why social anxiety happens
• why forcing exposure often backfires
• how the fight-flight-freeze response creates anxiety symptoms
• how tapping can help release the emotions and beliefs that trigger anxiety

It's designed to help you understand what's actually driving social anxiety and give you a first experience with the tapping approach.

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If you'd like practical tools you can start using right away:

Fast Social Anxiety Relief
https://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/fast-social-anxiety-relief/

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About Seb

Seb struggled with severe social anxiety himself for many years. Since 2009 he has helped people work through social anxiety using a calm, structured approach that combines psychology with EFT tapping.

No forced exposure.
No pressure to perform.
No "just push yourself" advice.

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Scientific research on EFT tapping

https://eftuniverse.com/research-studies/
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36438382/
https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2023.1195286/full