We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

In this episode I want to help you clarify the problem you solve for others. Think about the nonfiction books you purchase. You get them in hopes they will help you solve a problem you have. You often think we are fulfilling desires, but it’s been well proven that our greatest and primary motivators are problems. And I’m going to help you look at some so-called desires and show how they are really problems we want to solve. Think specifically about where you spend your money, and you’ll find it’s primarily for problems you want to solve. Even with entertainment, are you fulfilling a desire, or are you solving the problem of boredom? The problem of anxiety and worry you want to escape? You’ve had a mundane day and you want some dopamine from food and video games to solve that problem? In a recent episode I gave you a list of people who are known for one thing. I’ll show you here how that one thing is a problem they solve. It’s amazing how so many of us with great offerings, fail to focus and promote what we do as the problem we solve, and from this, we miss out on what drives us and drives people to us. Drive with me a moment. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

20 Kesä 202413min

In this episode we look at one of the key ways to become a famous resource. We started with a masterclass in becoming known, with brand guru Rory Vaden. Rory is known for the topic of obscurity, and helping mission driven messengers not remain a best kept secret. In the last episode I drilled further into Rory’s counsel to become known for one thing. I hope you’ve been working on what you are, or are going to be, known for. Once you decide on that, then you need to go out and tell the world. And if you’re like most people, you go open up an account on every social media platform. You start a newsletter, a blog, a podcast and start doing videos for YouTube and reels everywhere you can.  Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

19 Kesä 202413min

In this episode I’ll give you the number one way to become a famous resource. When I share it, you will immediately agree. I’m not being flippant or confident, as I didn’t come up with this, I’m just the messenger. The answer is one of those super simple truths that you hear and go, “Oh, of course.” Super simple, yet it’s amazing how hard it is for us to clarify, choose, and stick to. Drive with me a moment Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Kesä 202412min

In this episode I'm giving you the recipe for being known. Notice the word recipe. It's actually a term we need to use more in this personal growth space. Everyone is promoting to you that they have the answer for you. The secret. The perfectly baked cake to give you all you want. It doesn't exist. The best you can get is a recipe so you can bake your own cake. So here we have a profound recipe for being known. You have something great to offer. If you are unclear on what it is, or even if you think you know, you want to hear this show and gain some core clarity. But even if you do know what your key offering to the world is, you can die alone with it, without anyone, or many people, ever knowing or experiencing you. It happens all the time. My guest is Rory Vaden and he's literally a master at helping people hone in on their core offering, and effectively get the word out to the world. He's done so well at this that even incredibly established people hire him, like Ed Mylett, Lewis Howes, and Tom & Lisa Bilyeu. Rory is the world’s leading expert on the psychology of influence – which he defines as moving ourselves and others to take action. Rory is a New York Times bestselling author, Hall of Fame Speaker, and 8-Figure Entrepreneur, Rory has become a trusted voice by both the media and consumers alike. Rory works with what he calls, mission driven messengers. People not just trying to be massively influential, but who are literally striving to help and serve humanity. Just some of what we covered in this conversation, "Don't start with why, start with who. Who you want to help." "Our purpose is not what we do, but who we serve." "You are most powerfully positioned to serve the person you once were." He describes how we look to model people who are successful in our given field, and how we emulate what they are doing now and miss doing what they did to get them to where they are now. Which is doing one, specific thing, over and over and over. Rory teaches us to "Get consumed with the person you're supposed to help, not with your peers who are more successful." And a revelation he offered in regards to this is, "There is no fear when you’re thinking about helping someone, only when you are thinking about yourself." Friends, this episode is literally a master class in finding your core offering and effectively bringing it to the marketplace. If you want to influence others, this is the show for you. And if you want to go further, you can talk with Rory's team for free. Go to freebandcall.com/drive. Of course they want your business, but to get it they will do what they teach, and provide great value for free. You can take it and run if you want. They're fine with that, cause they know you'll tell other people. This is the type of strategy they teach. If nothing else, go get a free call with them just to see how they do it, and use what you learn for yourself. freebrandcall.com/drive Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

17 Kesä 20242h 4min

In this episode we want to gain clarity on what we are in fact, becoming. You are working to grow, which means you are looking to become…something. Something more, but what? If you don’t have a clear destination in mind, you are likely to wander. Imagine going out in your car to travel, but without a clear place to go. “I’m just traveling!” But we often do this in our growth. “I’m just seeking growth!” Well, to what end? Who are you striving to become. Another aspect is the reality that you are in fact becoming…something. Every day. You are evolving or devolving or remaining stagnant, which is still a becoming. “Yeah, over time, Arnold just became…stagnant. Stuck.” We happen to our transformation or our transformation happens to us. I’m joined by Randy James, Medical Doctor, Functional Medicine expert and one of my favorite allies in striving to grow and become. This is a candid discussion to humbly look at our propensities as humans and the challenge this reality of becoming can be even for aspiring people.  Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

16 Kesä 202450min

In this episode I’m looking at one more angle on this topic of disappointment and ways to mitigate the negative feelings that can haunt and hinder us. I’m striving to find balance between letting disappointments handicap us, and minimizing feelings that have relevance as well. I’m going to continue a story and offer you some relevant human experiences so we can look at different angles of our perspectives and as I said in the title. Temper them. Not invalidate. But…lessen their impact. Let’s look at different angles of our own stories. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Kesä 202411min

In this episode I'm looking at lost opportunities and questioning the stories we have around them. We've been looking at how we view disappointment and there is a lot of content around just telling a different story. But I don't feel the message benefits us much. We felt what we felt and feel what we feel and it feels reasonable. I think it is...reasonable. But I have a question I feel will cause you to really question your perspective on your past. The idea really caused me to take a step back and all of the sudden I'm feeling less remorse about some past, missed opportunities that have haunted me for decades. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Kesä 202412min

In this episode I'm going to confess how something I thought was a great strength, revealed itself as a weakness. And I see it so often with people who are more aware of themselves and concepts of healthy relating. They have learned not to react emotionally toward other people. They can regulate their behavior and in essence, bite their tongues. This can be good for not exacerbating a conflict in the moment. But the question is...what is it doing to us internally? I'm finding over time it can tear us down and even the concepts of healthfully responding and even journaling about it can very often miss the point of resolution and resilience and ultimately leave us in a weakened state. And nobody wants that. Drive with me for a minute to unpack this concept so you can grow stronger and drive better. Got a comment or question about an episode? Want to ask a question about your drive? Email me. I don’t want to just talk to you here, I want to talk with you. kmiller@kevinmiller.co. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Go to shipstation.com and use code KEVIN to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Sign up for AromaTru's Insider Club and today you'll receive a FREE Waterless Oil Diffuser and a FREE lemon eucalyptus oil - that's over $200 in savings. Head to aromatruorganics.com/kevin to take advantage of this exclusive offer.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Kesä 202413min