We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

This is my The Big Idea & Action episode to distill down our series on Inner Mastery. Inner Mastery IS…your drive. Your drive isn’t out there, it’s all inside you. It’s just waiting for you to get it in the right gear and to upshift. As I said in part three however, think about it as inner mastering. It’s the day by day pursuit of growth to understand and better manage and be your true self. Our expert for this series is Hitendra Wadhwa, professor at Columbia Business School and author of, INNER MASTERY, OUTER IMPACT: How Your Five Core Energies Hold the Key to Success. Following are the primary topics that emerged from the series for me. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

14 Helmi 202431min

This episode is part 3 in my series on Inner Mastery. We think what drives us is the desire for something...out there. It's having a goal and wanting the goal so much that we're motivated enough to do what it takes to achieve it. This is how we parent. I've done it too. Provide an incentive. "Here is what you'll get...what you can have...if you'll get up and do the work." It can work, but it's a short term solution. Once the prize is achieved you go back to square one. What we want is to be people who are always motivated toward positive results. Again, you are always driven. But your drive is fueled by fear or desire. You can be driving backwards, you can be driven off on time wasting detours. You can be driven to massive wrecks. We all want to be driven to wake up daily and make positive progress toward fulfilling destinations, and regardless of the destination, be enjoying the ride. This comes from inner mastery. Note, don't hear "mastery" as a noun. A destination. Think of it as a verb. More like...inner mastering. Always growing. My expert in part one and two was Hitendra Wadhwa, a professor at Columbia Business School where his class on Personal Leadership & Success is one of the most popular classes. Hitendra’s new book is titled, INNER MASTERY, OUTER IMPACT: How Your Five Core Energies Hold the Key to Success. Here I have my brother and frequent co-host, Jared Angaza on to discuss these five keys, as in my long talk with Hitendra we never got past the first key, purpose. Next are wisdom, growth, love, and self-realization. My interest is digging into how we have cultural meanings programmed into us and misperceive all five core energies, and how we can get them flowing to better inform and direct our drive You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

12 Helmi 20241h 11min

We’re back with Inner Mastery expert Hitendra Wadhwa. In our previous discussion we dove deep into the focus of his book, INNER MASTERY, OUTER IMPACT: How Your Five Core Energies Hold the Key to Success. Here we go behind the scenes to hear what drives Hitendra in his personal and professional life, and how he handles his pursuit of inner mastery. Hitendra again is professor at Columbia Business School and Founder of the Mentora Institute. His class on Personal Leadership & Success is one of the most popular at Columbia Business School. Find him at hitendra.com and mentora.institute You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

9 Helmi 20241h 9min

In this episode we look at a key myth about drive. That it comes from focusing on an external motivation. You are driven to make more money, secure a certain relationship, attain a position, have an experience, etc…It’s always “out there.” And yet all those things are simply items we focus on to get our inner self, driven. My book is about unlocking the drive inside you, and though I do in fact use external motives as tools, the work happens…inside. So here I kick off a series on Inner Mastery. My expert is Hitendra Wadhwa. Hitendra is a professor at Columbia Business School and Founder of the Mentora Institute. His class on Personal Leadership & Success is one of the most popular at Columbia Business School. Hitendra’s mission is to discover, codify and teach the laws of success in life and leadership. His research integrates the latest science of human nature, ancient wisdom, studies of great leaders, and the personal journeys of everyday heroes. Hitendra’s new book is titled, INNER MASTERY, OUTER IMPACT: How Your Five Core Energies Hold the Key to Success, and is endorsed by Arthur Brooks who we just had on the show for the second time, as well as Angela Duckworth, author of Grit, and 8 time Olympian Apolo Ohno. Find him at hitendra.com and mentora.institute You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Helmi 20241h 23min

This is our What Drives Your Health episode, because the physical body of you is the vehicle for everything you drive towards! If it’s compromised, so are all your efforts.  Here we’re looking at IBS, SIBO & How To Poop More Frequently & Effectively. I’d say that is not a sexy topic, but being bloated, gassy and constipated is definitely not sexy and we want to help. IBS, irritable bowel syndrome, affects nearly everyone to some degree, even those living a very clean, healthy and active lifestyle. Diarrhea, constipation, gas, bloating, abdominal aches and pains and general discomfort down there should not be “normal” and there is hope to address it. I’ve had my own bouts with these issues, so I really feel your pain. When you do a search in Google and type in, “How often should you…” the number one search is “wash your hair”, number two is “poop”. You are not alone. In this episode Dr Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, and I talk candidly about IBS, SIBO, poop and more. Quick note…hearing all the incredible messages on the What Drives You podcast is powerful. To help it really take root in your life, I invite you to join us in the Drive Tribe online community and join the daily discussions where we go deeper, together, on all the show topics. This community has been a long time coming, and the time is now. We give a primary focus to what is driving us, and what is driving others…to us. We want to influence others with how we feel we can help them. We want to help you drive your influence so you are impacting other people for good. Let’s help each other drive further, faster, and enjoy the ride. Go check it out at kevinmiller.co You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

7 Helmi 20241h 11min

We are wrapping up our series on Interdependence and how it supports our overall drive far more than our independence. There is a place for both, but our focus on being independent is limiting us. This is my Big Idea, Big Takeaway & Big Action episode where I pull out the key highlights from our series. My expert for the series is Interdependence Expert & International Trauma Facilitator, Thomas Hübl, whose new book is titled, Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World. In part three I broadened the discussion with a friend and collaborator of Thomas’, William Ury who is one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation and co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation. William’s new book is called POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict, and we have a series with him coming up shortly. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

5 Helmi 202428min

We are continuing our series with part three on Interdependence and this is a candid conversation getting to the heart of understanding each other’s traumas in order to resolve conflict. We began with Interdependence Expert & International Trauma Facilitator, Thomas Hübl, whose new book is titled, Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World. Here I continue the discussion with a friend and often collaborator with Thomas, William Ury. I often bring on past guests for this part three segment, but William is actually a future guest. We spent three hours together recently and I discovered he and Thomas were more than well acquainted and had done much together. William Ury is one of the world’s best-known experts on negotiation, and the co-author of Getting to Yes, the world’s all-time bestselling book on the topic with more than 15 million copies sold. He’s a co-founder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation and has devoted his life to helping people, organizations, and nations transform conflicts around the world, having served as a negotiator in many of the toughest disputes of our times and consulted with the White House, the State Department, and the Pentagon. His upcoming book you can preorder now is titled, POSSIBLE: How We Survive (and Thrive) in an Age of Conflict, and we’ll be digging into it here on the show in the coming weeks. But these two men, Thomas Hübl and William Ury are called on by countries and organizations around the globe to bring peace to relationships, whether nation to nation, or person to person. You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems.  Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month  Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

2 Helmi 202459min

We continue our series on interdependence, and we’re back with Thomas Hübl, this time to understand what drives him personally as he walks out interdependence in his own life. Thomas is renowned as a teacher, author and facilitator who seeks to integrate core insights from the wisdom of the ages with the discoveries of science. He has worked internationally to help individuals, organizations and even countries heal from their collective trauma. He’s currently a visiting scholar at the Wyss Institute at Harvard University and our muse for this series is his new book, Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World. You can find the book on Amazon and connect with Thomas at thomashuebl.com You can watch this full episodes on YouTube - just search for “What Drives You with Kevin Miller” What Drives You is brought to you by Ziglar, your premier source for equipping Life and Leadership coaches. Visit Ziglar.com and let them inspire your true coaching performance. *This podcast is rated clean but the subject matter is adult themed and may not be suitable or relevant for children or those with fragile belief systems. Head to airdoctorpro.com and use promo code KEVIN and depending on the model receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/kevin Use promo code KEVIN today at shipstation.com to sign up for your FREE 60-day trial. Visit Audible.com/whatdrivesyou or text whatdrivesyou to 500-500. Go to HelloFresh.com/drivefree and use code drivefree for FREE breakfast for life! Go to Seed.com/DRIVE and use code DRIVE to get 25% off your first month Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATDRIVESYOU today to get 10% off your first month Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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