We Choose Our Responses & They Define Our Lived Experience w/ Yale Director of Emotional Intelligence Marc Brackett

#1020: In 2013 Susan Cain published her book, QUIET: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. It was beyond a best seller. It has spent seven years on the New York Times best seller list and as of this recording is still in the top 500 books on Amazon. Her record-smashing TED Talk has been viewed over 30 million times on TED.com and YouTube combined. When they told me Susan was publishing another book, I didn’t hesitate. The book is called Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, and it was an instant New York Times best seller as well. The most beautiful and joyful experiences of my life have also held an ache and a longing, and this is what Susan is speaking to. She gives focus to the four Hippocratic temperaments of sanguine, melancholic, choleric, and phlegmatic. Most of our world’s greatest creativity and art comes from a melancholic temperament, but Susan writes, “We’ve organized American culture around a sanguine-choleric outlook (forward leaning and combat ready), while Freud labeled melancholic as narcissistic and the main stream culture often views sorrow and longing as clinically depressed.” Susan asks, “How did a nation founded on so much heartache turn into a culture of normative sunshine and enforced positivity?” What you’ll hear is a candid discussion that gives us permission to feel the feels and allow sorrow and longing in, in order to more fully experience joy and beauty. Find Susan’s book, BITTERSWEET: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole, anywhere, and connect with her at https://susancain.net/ Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

18 Heinä 20221h 7min

#1019: Our very existence is only as good as our ability to recover. We love to hear about putting in big efforts, whether it’s only sports field, or in the office, or even at home. But those big efforts deplete us. It’s our recovery that allows us to come back for another big performance. A great example is working out to gain muscle. When you work out, you are tearing your muscles down. Your will power as well. It’s when you are in recovery mode that you actually grow stronger. If you don’t recover, you just stay torn down. So if you have times of feeling torn down and just worn down, and it continues…than you are not recovering. I’m joined by my cohost Randy James, medical doctor and functional medicine expert. You’ll hear Dr James change your paradigm by stating that our evening and our sleep is actually how we are starting our next day. How we prepare for sleep, how long and how well are bottom line what are fueling our performance for the next day. All our output, the topic of our previous Functional Friday episode, is subject to our rest and recovery. Many of us are not recovering and every day is a dip lower in our ability...or we’ve stagnated at a mediocre performance level. If we are taking out more than we are depositing, ultimately we’ll end up bankrupt and that’s when we are forced to rest via sickness, disease and disability. I believe you’ll find different information and perspectives on recovery and sleep than you ever have and get clarity on what you can do to best support all the “doing” you desire in your life! Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

15 Heinä 20221h 12min

#1018: I’m back with Tyler Merritt for part 2 to talk through his personal Values, Motives, and Habits. To see what drives him. In part 1 together our focus was stereotypes and marginalization. I’m a 6’ tall, white, American male who has never experienced a negative stereotype or marginalization. Tyler is a 6’4” dreadlocked Black man in America who absolutely knows what it’s like to be negatively stereotyped and marginalized. I encourage you to listen to that episode if you haven’t, but now…we go behind the scenes. Tyler Merritt is a Nashville-based actor, activist, cancer survivor, founder of The Tyler Merritt Project, and author of "I TAKE MY COFFEE BLACK: REFLECTIONS ON TUPAC, MUSICAL THEATER, FAITH AND BEING BLACK IN AMERICA." Over the course of his career, Tyler has gained recognition through notable acting projects including "Kevin Probably Saves The World," "Outer Banks," and "The Outsider," as well as serving as the face of the worldwide teaching curriculum for The Gospel Project for Kids. Most recently, Tyler Merritt made headlines with his 2018 viral video "Before You Call The Cops," which has been viewed by over 100 million people worldwide and appeared on Jimmy Kimmel, MSNBC, and the New York Times. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

13 Heinä 202246min

#1017: Tyler Merritt is a 6’4” dreadlocked Black man in America who absolutely knows what it’s like to be stereotyped and marginalized. While Tyler is a steadfast activist in the face of racism, I invited him on to talk about stereotypes and marginalization overall. To a great degree, if you are not a white, American man, you have experienced marginalization, and that is our focus. How can you flourish amongst it with strength and compassion? And if you’re a white, American male, I’d encourage you to tune in so you can increase your own strength and compassion. Tyler Merritt is a Nashville-based actor, activist, cancer survivor, founder of The Tyler Merritt Project, and author of "I TAKE MY COFFEE BLACK: REFLECTIONS ON TUPAC, MUSICAL THEATER, FAITH AND BEING BLACK IN AMERICA." Over the course of his career, Tyler has gained recognition through notable acting projects including "Kevin Probably Saves The World," "Outer Banks," and "The Outsider," as well as serving as the face of the worldwide teaching curriculum for The Gospel Project for Kids. Most recently, Tyler Merritt made headlines with his 2018 viral video "Before You Call The Cops," which has been viewed by over 100 million people worldwide and appeared on Jimmy Kimmel, MSNBC, and the New York Times. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

11 Heinä 20221h 5min

#1016: Your daily output is in essence, your work. All of it. The daily tasks and duties in which you exert yourself to fulfill. Personal maintenance, parenting, your job or schooling, relationships, home and life maintenance...everything. Your capacity for daily output is finite, even though we like to think of ourselves as needing to be limitless. How often do you feel spent and you’re only halfway through the day? Or maybe you make it strong through the day but by evening you have nothing left for your family and relationships or a new venture you desire to put effort into? Everyone wants more energy. We’ve created billion dollar companies around energy drinks to give us more energy. But imagine your car being overheated and bogging down and you just keep shoving more gas in the tank! The question is…what is zapping it’s energy? For you, what daily activities, exertions, environments, and mental activities will more quickly deplete, OR… help to better sustain and further your daily output and capacity? This is what Dr Randy James and I address in this episode. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

8 Heinä 202248min

#1015: Habits and goals; what to do when our plans are disrupted. This wraps up my series on Michelle Segar and her book, The Joy Choice: How To Finally Achieve Lasting Changes In Eating And Exercise. Her focus is just that, the habits we intend to fulfill, and how we so often fail. We look at them as all or nothing and when life happens, we let them fall. And the key is being prepared for this, expecting it even, and having a plan. In this episode I bring Tom Ziglar on to discuss this, and how it also relates to our overall goals. Tom is CEO of Ziglar, son of Zig Ziglar, and of course my frequent co-host. He’s grown up in a goals culture and knows well what derails us. We discuss strategies for making consistent deposits and how to pick up when we lose momentum Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

6 Heinä 202256min

#1014: I’m back with unhabitor and author of the Joy Choice, Michelle Segar, to walk through their personal values, motives, and habits in the key areas of life fulfillment so we can hear what has driven and does drive her to guide us in making habits actually sustain, especially regarding eating and exercise, and design a life that fulfills her. Michelle is an award-winning, National Institute of Health funded sustainable behavior change researcher at the University of Michigan and a lifestyle coach. For nearly three decades, she has pioneered methods to create sustainable healthy behavior changes that are being used to boost patient health, employee well-being, and even gym membership retention. I’m pulling info from her new book, The Joy Choice: How To Finally Achieve Lasting Changes In Eating and Exercise. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

4 Heinä 202242min

#1013: Movement. Exercise. My co host Randy James, Medical Doctor and Functional Medicine expert, have been covering aspects of input, and now we move to output. Our bodies were created to move. To elevate our heart rate and stress our muscles. If we don’t, we decline. Simple as that. For the greatest span of history we had to move in order to live, so there was no need for exercise. Life was exercise. Today we can run our lives with near zero movement, and it’s showing. Our sedentary lifestyle is eroding our health. If exercise isn’t your favorite word, just think about movement. What can you do, that you don’t hate, near every day, to get your heart rate going and stress your muscles a bit? Randy and I talk through this with a compassionate and real-world look at how to get consistent movement into your routine, and if it already is, how to make it sustainable and help you get the most out of it. Self-Help(ful) is presented by Ziglar, the most trusted brand in personal and business development impacting over 250 million people worldwide. Visit Ziglar.com to see how they can inspire your true performance.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

1 Heinä 20221h 2min