#428: How to Keep Politics From Destroying Your Relationships
Are political differences with people you love threatening to tear your relationships apart? You’re definitely not alone! Today, we’re diving deep into the delicate dance of keeping relationships healthy across political divides. In this episode, I’m sharing the strategies to help you navigate tricky conversations with grace, keep your cool, and protect your own happiness along the way. By the end, you’ll know exactly how to preserve the connections you care about most, even when politics threaten to tear you apart. Stick around to the end—I’ve got some free resources to help you practice these skills and share them with your loved ones. Let’s jump in! Timestamps: 00:00 - Are Political Differences Threatening Your Relationships? 04:22 - Assess the Importance of Each Relationship 07:32 - Radical Acceptance (It's Tough, But Worth It!) 11:12 - Emotional Regulation - How to Stay Cool 16:49 - Focus on the Positives (Yes, Really!) 23:09 - Set & Maintain Healthy Boundaries 32:18 - Advanced Skills: Radical Curiosity and Empathy 39:06 - Free Resources + Final Thoughts If you loved this episode, don’t miss the next video in this series! Let’s keep building those relationship skills. P.S. Need a little more support? Check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Video Series. Also, join me Thursday at 12 pm MT for a live session right here on YouTube on this very topic, how to navigate political differences in relationships. You can even submit an anonymous question right here.
18 Marras 202442min
#427: How to Fix a Broken Relationship
Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of conflict and misunderstanding with your partner? You're not alone—and you're not powerless to fix it! In today’s episode, I’m breaking down how to fix a broken relationship by exploring the underlying patterns that keep couples locked in negative cycles. Plus, I’ll share my own story (yes, I’ve been there too) and reveal the key strategies and mindset shifts that can help bring you and your partner back together. If you’ve been trying to make things better but feel like you’re swimming against the tide, tune in for some essential insights and actionable steps to get your relationship back on track In this video, we’ll cover: 0:32 – The Toxic Spiral of Negative Communication 3:15 – Uncovering the Hidden Patterns 6:48 – How Negative Cycles Shape Perception 10:25 – Breaking Free and Finding Real Solutions 15:45 – When to Seek Help Want more guidance on fixing your relationship? Check out my free resource, How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz. Using this quiz, you’ll be able to decipher strengths and growth points in your relationship. If you want to ask me a question about your relationship, join me this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube for my Livestream about how to fix a broken relationship. Submit your question anonymously here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. See you there!
11 Marras 202445min
#426 How to Deal With Disappointment
"This wasn't supposed to happen!" Have you ever felt life throw you a curveball so big it knocked you flat? It’s that gut-punch moment when plans unravel, your candidate didn't win, dreams dissolve, and you’re left wondering, “Now what?” In this episode, I’ll take you through the tools and mindset shifts needed to transform disappointment into personal growth. We’ll talk about the power of radical acceptance, why it’s okay to feel all the feels, and how to find the hidden opportunities in setbacks. Timestamps: 00:00 Intro: Life’s Unexpected Curveballs 01:22 Embracing Disappointment: Feel All the Emotions 05:46 Finding the Lesson in Loss 15:23 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward 18:36 Steer Clear of Destructive Reactions 21:16 What Does This Make Possible? 24:15 Conclusion and Free Resources PS: Get free access to my Emotional Wellness Collection, a personally curated podcast and blog collection designed to help you grow and stay well emotionally. Also, don’t miss our live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll dive even deeper into this topic. Submit an anonymous question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa See you there!
4 Marras 202437min
425: Intuition? Or Anxiety? How to tell the difference!
How strong is your intuition? Do you trust your inner wisdom? More importantly… can you tell the difference between intuitive thoughts and anxiety? Today you’re going to learn how to trust your gut! In this episode, I’m thrilled to sit down with Brittney Carmichael, intuitive healer and founder of Shine School, as we dig into how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, the subtle cues of inner wisdom, and ways to strengthen this instinct into a true superpower. Whether you’re an intuitive veteran or someone just starting to listen to that quiet inner voice, this conversation will give you the practical tools you need to better understand, trust, and strengthen your intuitive thought. Timestamps: 00:00 - Intro: Intuition or Anxiety? 02:23 - Intuition vs. Fear: Brittany’s Insights 05:14 - Building Intuitive Strength 10:39 - Brittany’s Journey to Inner Wisdom 20:24 - Understanding Your Inner Voice 29:54 - Self-Love as a Foundation for Intuition 33:02 - Power of Positive Self-Talk 49:17 - How to Trust Your Inner Wisdom *P.S.* Want to dig even deeper? Take the free "What's Holding You Back?" quiz and get clarity on what might be standing in your way. Plus, join me for this week’s Livestream Q&A on Intuitive Thought, Thursday at 12 pm MT,on Instragram, Facebook, or Youtube. Submit an anonymous question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.
28 Loka 202453min
#424 How To Reparent Yourself, with Dr. Dan Siegel
Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just… missing? And now, you’re feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don’t worry—you’re not stuck! This week I’m joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and we’re diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, we’re going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships. ✨ In this episode, you’ll learn: - How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but don’t define it!) - The healing power of contingent communication in relationships - Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth - The importance of presence over perfection in parenting—and in life! Chapters: 00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing 02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development 06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication 13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life 14:31 Healing from the Past 20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns 21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality 23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!) 27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth 30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty 35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration 38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts 🌟 Want more? Grab this free resource I created for you: a curated collection of all my best articles and podcasts on attachment, emotional healing, and healthy relationships at https://www.growingself.com/connections/. And… drumroll please! Join me for this week’s live Q&A on Thursday at 12 pm MT on Youtube, Instagram, and/or Facebook where I’ll be talking about emotional healing and reparenting yourself! Got a question? Ask me anonymously in advance using this link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Let’s grow together! 🌱 Love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
21 Loka 202453min
#423 How to Handle Toxic Friends, with Dr. Marisa Franco
Ever feel like your friendship is taking more out of you than it gives? If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that feels draining, toxic, or just plain bad, you’re in the right place. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m sitting down with Dr. Marisa Franco, a brilliant psychologist and bestselling author of Platonic, to talk about one of the toughest aspects of relationships—knowing when a friendship is no longer serving you. Together, we’ll dive into the signs of toxic friends, how attachment styles play a role in our friendships, and whether or not these kinds of relationships can be saved. You’ll learn practical strategies to spot the red flags, approach difficult conversations with kindness and clarity, and—if it comes to it—find the courage to end friendships that have run their course. Here’s what we cover: [00:00] The Friendship Trap: Why difficult friendships are harder to leave than romantic ones. [03:57] Attachment Styles in Friendships: How your past impacts your present friendships. [11:40] Making Positive Changes: How to recognize toxic patterns and start healing. [17:34] Conflict or Goodbye? How to assess if this friendship can be saved. [28:21] Deciding to End a Friendship: When enough is enough, and how to let go with grace. If you’ve ever wondered whether a friendship is worth fighting for or it’s time to walk away, this episode is for you. Ready to dig deeper? Take my free self-esteem quiz to see how your self-worth might be impacting your relationships: How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? Also, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s YouTube Livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT, where we’ll talk even more about navigating toxic friendships. Submit an anonymous question in advance right here: Dear Lisa. I’ll see you there! — Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
15 Loka 202449min
Does Your Therapist Talk About THEMSELVES Too Much??
Does your therapist talk too much about themselves during YOUR sessions? This is a common issue, and it can really get in the way of your work. They’re on your dime, and your time with them should be all about you—not an outlet for them. Frankly, knowing too much about your therapist can even be a barrier to positive outcomes. The reality is, we therapists are human, and we have our own personal and professional growth trajectories. That’s why I’ve created a new side project: Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists. In one of my latest episodes, I had a big sister-style heart-to-heart with therapists about how to contain their own "stuff"—because if we don’t, it can splash onto our clients. And I wanted to share this episode with you so you could share it with them. Here ya go: https://www.growingself.com/self-disclosure-in-therapy-how-much-is-too-much/ Use it as a way to start a courageous conversation with your therapist about what you need, what you want, and what’s working—or not working—in your relationship. Plus, you’ll be providing them with a resource that supports their growth. Win, win, win! If you’re a therapist reading this, I have so much for you! Connect with me at growingself.com/therapists to access this episode and many more on how to flourish and thrive in this career we all love. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
10 Loka 20241min
#422: How Long Does it REALLY Take To Get Over an Ex?
Breakups are brutal. I know you're wondering, “How long will it take before I finally feel like myself again?” Trust me, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the million-dollar question: How long does it really take to get over a breakup? And, even more importantly, what do you need to DO in order to move forward and not get stuck in the past? I'm joined by Kendra Allen, the amazing host of Breakup Bestie, and together we unpack the factors that impact your healing timeline. Spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone! But we’ve got insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to help you make sense of your own process and feel more empowered as you heal. We’re covering everything from how long it takes to feel "okay" again, to why some relationships hurt more than others, and how to know if you’re truly moving on. Plus, Kendra shares her journey of transformation after addiction and abusive relationships, offering you hope that growth is possible—even when it feels like the pain of heartbreak will never end. Join us to learn about: 00:00 – The Hardest Question After a Breakup: How Long Will This Take? 05:40 – Kendra’s Story: From Addiction to Empowerment 12:19 – Why Some Breakups Take Longer to Heal Than Others 19:32 – The Emotional Rollercoaster: What Healing Really Looks Like 29:00 – Handling Triggers: Holidays, Anniversaries & More 37:15 – How to Know if You’re Truly Healing or Just Surviving 45:20 – Next Steps: Tools and Advice for Moving On If you’re hurting after heartbreak, this one’s for you. Thanks for tuning in, and/or for sharing this episode with a friend or loved one who is feeling stuck in heartbreak, and needs some direction for how to move forward. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: Want to see how far along you are in your breakup recovery? Take my free quiz, How Over Your Ex Are You? 👉 Take the Quiz Join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll tackle the topic of Getting Over Your Ex. Submit your questions anonymously in advance ( Ask Here) Or just jump into the conversation on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. See you there!
7 Loka 202453min
