1226: James Kimmel, Jr. | No Even Scores in the Science of Revenge

Steven Hassan (@CultExpert) is a a licensed mental health counselor who has been educating the public about mind control, brainwashing, and destructive cults since 1976. He's the author of Combating Cult Mind Control: The Guide to Protection, Rescue, and Recovery from Destructive Cults and the founder of the Freedom of Mind Resource Center. This is part one of a two-part episode (part two coming soon). What We Discuss with Steven Hassan: How to use Steven's BITE model to tell if you or someone you love is involved in a destructive cult through control of behavior, information, thought, and emotion. The four types of destructive cults most prevalent today: commercial, religious, political, and self-help. How cults have weaponized the Internet and social media to fill their ranks and thrive as never before possible. Why it's the people who believe themselves immune to (i.e., too smart for) cult indoctrination who are most at risk of being targeted and recruited. How Steven has refined Ted Patrick's invasive cult deprogramming tactics of the '70s into a more effective strategic interactive approach. Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/237 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

13 Elo 20191h 20min

You and your spouse recently decided to move back to your small hometown after giving the big city a try and deciding it's just not for you. But the problem is: you're going to have to give up the job you love, with benefits and more of a salary than you've ever made elsewhere. On top of that, the company is currently paying for you to finish school, so there may be legal consequences if you ditch them on graduation day. So in this Feedback Friday, we'll try to show you how to quit your dream job gracefully. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/236. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is it unreasonable for you to tell friends and family that you don't support MLM companies, won't host their parties, and won't buy their products? Or is there a softer, more effective approach? You recently broke up with your significant other of 15 months, but feel guilty because they gave up their chance to start their MBA in anther city to be with you. Are you a terrible person who made a selfish decision? Your spouse wants to move the family out of the big city and back to your hometown, but it means leaving a job you love that has invested in your education. How do you gracefully part ways while causing the least impact and without burning any bridges? You did a digital detox after listening to our episode with Cal Newport, and want to limit your seven-year-old's exposure to devices after hearing our episode with Jonathan Haidt. How do you ensure you're not just making the wrong thing more appealing? You moved to another country five years ago and have been working menial jobs, learning the language, and taking classes for fun. Now you're ready to take your career seriously, but your resume might be hard to explain. How to proceed? You've lost your motivation, confidence, and self-esteem after quitting a job under a manipulative boss, and your dreams of landing a better job are stalled after submitting hundreds of applications with no calls back. How do you give yourself the kick-in-the-ass, tough self-love pep talk you drastically need? After a few years of accepting sponsored links and posts for your blog, you ended up owning your own link placement agency. This is now what you do full time and you earn more than you ever have before, but you know it's just a matter of time before Google smacks you down. How can you find time to start a more legit business before this happens? You would love to start your own podcast and YouTube channel. You have a great topic, lots of ideas, and contacts for people you could have on the show. Should you work on both the podcast and YouTube or just focus on one? What's the most interesting experience you've ever had? Safari? helicopter tour of a waterfall in venezuela? I'd love to know. Looking at a bucket list. The books on this are all lame because they're trying to fill 200+ pages. Jordan... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Elo 20191h 9min

David Roeske (@roeske) is a plant-powered portfolio manager, pilot, runner, and the fourth person in the world to summit Mount Everest and another 8,000-meter peak in one trip without supplemental oxygen. What We Discuss with David Roeske: How many calories does an Everest climber burn per day on average? What's the difference between a porter and a sherpa? How does David live a life balanced between investment, climbing, flying, and running? Why do people often die trying to ascend Everest -- even while surrounded by dozens of fellow climbers -- and what are the risks of trying to rescue someone in peril on the slopes of the world's tallest mountain? Why does David only count the times he's summited Everest without bottled oxygen? And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/235 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Mind Pump is an online radio show/podcast dedicated to providing truthful fitness and health information. It is sometimes raw, sometimes shocking, and is always entertaining and helpful. Jack up your ears with some Mind Pump wisdom here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

8 Elo 20191h 9min

Seth Godin (@thisissethsblog) is an entrepreneur, a teacher, a Marketing Hall of Fame inductee, a daily blogger, the host of the Akimbo podcast, and the author of 19 international bestsellers. His latest is This Is Marketing: You Can't Be Seen Until You Learn to See. What We Discuss with Seth Godin: Why it's possible to suffer from imposter syndrome simultaneously with entitlement. Why the market for media is so fragmented today, and what it means for content creators, advertisers, and consumers. Why you can trade for attention, but you can't trade for trust. The simple sentence you can use to remind yourself that you're not going to do better work by heeding your one-star reviewers. Why Seth considers the idea of hustling selfish and akin to bullying. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/234 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Smart Passive Income with Pat Flynn is the podcast where it's all about working hard now so you can sit back and reap the benefits later. Give it a listen here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

6 Elo 201957min

So your abusive ex has basically invaded your home and claimed squatter's rights when the police showed up to escort them away. What can you do to get them out -- and keep them out -- of your life forever? Listen to this Feedback Friday to hear our take on the matter! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/233 On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Should you be searching for a new job when you're in extended treatment for a serious medical issue? Is it fair to your current or potential future employer? After time off from your relationship to finish grad school, you're back with your significant other. But how can you get over the retroactive jealousy you feel? When you're the parent of a junior high schooler, how can you create opportunities for your kid to build social skills with adults? When your mentally ill mother gave your estranged sister her house -- from which she was then kicked out -- do you have a legal claim to at least part of that house? How do you retain clients -- without bashing your old employer -- when it's time to move on to a job that will be a better fit in your small, gossipy industry? Do you take on a higher paying, riskier job with a long commute to boost your debt repayments, or stay where you are where the growth is slow but more secure? You fired one contractor for shoddy remodeling work and had to hire others to fix it. What are your legal obligations regarding unfinished payment and equipment left behind? What can you do to keep an intrusive, abusive ex out of your life forever -- especially when they move into your house and claim squatter's rights when you try to kick them out? Life Pro Tip: If you're a student planning your career, look up postings for your entry-level dream job, find the skills and qualifications you'll need, then work backwards from there. Recommendation of the Week: I Am Mother Quick shoutouts to Corbin Payne, Esq. for helping with some of the legal stuff here, and Manny Dhillon! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD,... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

2 Elo 201953min

Daniel Goleman (@DanielGolemanEI) is a psychologist, science journalist, and author of The New York Times Best Seller Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. What We Discuss with Daniel Goleman: The pros and cons of technology's influence on the way human beings connect in the 21st century. How we read emotions on a subconscious level -- and why blind people can sometimes still see them. Why sights, smells, and sounds can make us relive traumatic experiences. How emotions become contagious. The science behind why people act like jerks on the Internet. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/232 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Elo 20191h 13min

Mike Abrashoff (@itsyourship) is a former Naval Commander, leadership and teamwork expert, and author of the New York Times bestseller It's Your Ship: Management Techniques from the Best Damn Ship in the Navy. What We Discuss with Mike Abrashoff: Why leadership style matters and organizational culture is everything. How to know when it's appropriate to break the rules and favor innovation over tradition. When to challenge your superiors, and how to do so without endangering your career. How to earn the trust of your superiors so they come to rely on you and trust your judgment. What it takes to foster learning and innovation among the ranks of people conditioned to just follow orders. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/231 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Mind Pump is an online radio show/podcast dedicated to providing truthful fitness and health information. It is sometimes raw, sometimes shocking, and is always entertaining and helpful. Jack up your ears with some Mind Pump wisdom here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Heinä 20191h 11min

People rarely admit to enjoying small talk, but that's because so few of us are actually very good at it. Luckily, FEW is also a convenient-to-remember acronym for Facts, Emotions, Why -- a foolproof formula for leading small talk that can yield big results. Find out how in this Feedback Friday! And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/230. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: When your friend repeatedly sends five-minute voice messages that a 10-second text would convey, how do you drive home the point that ain't nobody got time for that? Congrats on quitting social media! But now what do you do with your spare two- to five-minute intervals you used to spend tweeting or reading Facebook? Glad you asked! How can somebody in a quaint but underdeveloped town find improv and behavioral classes to improve their skills and up their game on personal and professional fronts? Is it opportunistic to leverage interest other companies have shown in recruiting you when it's time to negotiate for a raise -- even when you planned to stick around anyway? Even though you consider yourself social and find your spouse's friends a delight, they seem to think you don't like them. How can you dispel their concerns and let your real feelings shine through? You've broken up with your significant other of four years for once again lying to you, but you feel guilty because they've been in therapy for the past six months trying to be better. What next? Your usually calm and cool significant other will be taking the bar exam soon, and a lot of things are up in the air until it's passed. How can you express support without getting in the way? When you've lost trust in your business partner, what steps can you take to ensure you're not on the hook for 100 percent of the company's debt if things go even further south? Life Pro Tip: Drowning in debt from that unexpected hospital visit? Medical billing departments will often accept a fraction of what you "owe." A quick shoutout to recently married listener and local Michael Moore! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Heinä 20191h 4min