1226: James Kimmel, Jr. | No Even Scores in the Science of Revenge

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into how even the most driving purpose can wear you down, why meaning doesn't always align with happiness, and what you can do to recalibrate your purpose when you're discouraged by the obstacles you face in its pursuit. Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/205 What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: Why meaning doesn't automatically create happiness, and happiness isn't required to create meaning. Why, if you're doing it right, pursuing your purpose should make you miserable from time to time. The key upsides to embracing the difficulty of your purpose and how it drives you toward your best work. How to focus on the micro over the macro in order to keep you connected to your purpose when you're having your doubts. Understanding that discipline is knowing when to think about certain issues; denial is refusing to think about them at all. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  We all have a love affair with the silver screen. Listen in as Chuck Bryant talks with your favorite people about their favorite movies on the Movie Crush podcast here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

30 Touko 20191h 4min

Scott Galloway (@profgalloway) cohosts Pivot with Kara Swisher, publishes the No Mercy/No Malice newsletter, is a professor at NYU Stern School of Business, and is the author of The Algebra of Happiness: Notes on the Pursuit of Success, Love, and Meaning. What We Discuss with Scott Galloway: How American priorities have shifted from a society that creates millions of millionaires to one that idolizes individuals worth the GDP of Norway. Why the opportunities Scott and earlier generations enjoyed are no longer available to the majority of the population today. How Scott can predict if a young person will be successful by the time he or she is 30 (and what you can do to give yourself an edge if you're not on the path). Why striving for work/life balance and following your passion aren't ideal strategies if you aspire toward great wealth. The good news: why you don't have to have great wealth in order to live a rich and happy life. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/204 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Disgraceland is a true crime podcast about musicians getting away with murder. If you love true crime and you love music, get ready to love Disgraceland here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

28 Touko 20191h 2min

Knowing how to find a mentor is something we've covered in depth on this show, but what advice do we have for those of you who are answering the call and want to know how to be a good mentor? In this Feedback Friday, we'll try to give this excellent question the answer it deserves. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/203. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Why has your spouse stopped calling and writing you from prison? Don't panic! Here are no less than eight possibilities. Should you send an unsolicited text to a professional in your field just because happenstance landed their number in your lap? You've been house hunting for six months, beaten in acceptance offers three times, and you're burning out. What's our advice for keeping your chin up? What kind of problems can arise when college-age friends decide to become roommates? Let us count the (potential) ways! You want to up your metaphor game from Candy Land to chess. Here's a strategy to expedite your victorious cry of "checkmate!" Your employer wants to start a podcast with you taking lead. How should you intelligently approach the compensation side of negotiation? Your significant other's mother is a paranoid narcissist who is trying to pull you apart. How can you loosen her grip on your beloved? Thanks to being a long-time listener, you know how to find a mentor. But how do you ensure you're a good mentor when people come seeking your help? Life Pro Tip: If you want to give your future child a unique or random name, consider making it their middle name. Recommendation of the Week: Last Breath Quick shout out to The World Wanderer! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Touko 201959min

Shane Snow (@shanesnow) is an award-winning entrepreneur and journalist, author of Dream Teams and Smartcuts, and the blogger who wrote How to Debate and Make Progress by Curbing Intellectual Dishonesty. What We Discuss with Shane Snow: What is intellectual dishonesty, how does it undermine meaningful debate, and what can we do to recognize it in ourselves and others? Why the cognitive diversity of differing perspectives and open-mindedness of intellectual humility make for healthy discourse. The six recurring problems in discourse: dodging, logical fallacies, deception, dirty debate, little accountability, and false endings. What we have to gain by rooting out intellectual dishonesty when it appears in ourselves and others. How to pull discussions back from the brink of intellectual dishonesty and put them on an honest track. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/202 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Does your business have an Internet presence? Save up to a whopping 62% on new webhosting packages with HostGator at hostgator.com/jordan! Eight Sleep is the first bed engineered with dynamic cooling and heating that keeps you at the perfect temperature all night long. Get $100 off your purchase when you go to EightSleep.com/jordan! Better Help offers affordable, online counseling at your convenience. If you're coping with depression, stress, anxiety, addiction, or any number of issues, you're not alone. Talk with a licensed professional therapist for 10 percent off your first month at betterhelp.com/jordan! Explore Blue Diamond for all your almond product needs. From delicious almond nut snacks to gift baskets, they've got you covered at a store near you or at bluediamond.com! Disgraceland is a true crime podcast about musicians getting away with murder. If you love true crime and you love music, get ready to love Disgraceland here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

23 Touko 20191h 10min

Eric Schmidt (@ericschmidt) is Technical Advisor and Board Member to Alphabet Inc., former Google CEO, and co-author of Trillion Dollar Coach: The Leadership Playbook of Silicon Valley's Bill Campbell. What We Discuss with Eric Schmidt: Privacy in the age of tech megacorporations and how much access the government should have to our data. What the rise of China, the isolation of North Korea, and the western notion of privacy mean for a free and open Internet across cultures. A realistic view of current day artificial intelligence and what we should expect from it in the future. How idea generation is fostered inside a company like Google. Why all top-performing executives in Silicon Valley have elite-level coaches, and why you should consider one as well. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/201 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! We all have a love affair with the silver screen. Listen in as Chuck Bryant talks with your favorite people about their favorite movies on the Movie Crush podcast here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

21 Touko 201956min

You're having issues with retroactive jealousy regarding your significant other's past. You've tried to find resources to help you cope with this, but most of what's you've found feels gimmicky with little to no real information or exercises aimed at helping you overcome these feelings. In this Feedback Friday, we'll try to lend a helping hand. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Your parents are first cousins, and it's a secret not many know -- including your significant other with whom you're building a life. Are you obligated to share this? Creeps offering to rub your realtor girlfriend's feet for $500 isn't the side hustle she was hoping for; how do you ensure she's safe when meeting clients in empty houses? You love your job, but you don't love the corporate culture and lengthy commute. When is the right time or the wrong time to trade one company for another? How do you go about asking for the raise you know you deserve (especially as more tasks are being assigned your way) without jeopardizing your current position? You've been using our free Six-Minute Networking course, but have a few questions about some of the details. We're here to help! Is Better Help cheaper than in-office therapists, and is it covered by traditional work health options? How do you evaluate it from a budget priority standpoint? You're trying to prove your value during your company's review period, but one of your overseers seems closed-minded to your process. What's your best move forward? Even though you don't consider yourself possessive, you have intense bouts of retroactive jealousy regarding your partner's not-that-sordid past. How do you move past it? Pro Tip of the Week: Instead of saying 'my ex,' say 'a guy/girl I dated.' 'My ex' insinuates that person is still a part of your life. Recommendation of the Week: Chernobyl on HBO A quick shoutout to Liam from the UK! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Full...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Touko 201953min

Ramit Sethi (@ramit) is the author of I Will Teach You to Be Rich, now in its second edition with over 80 pages of new material, new insights, and new tools for mastering money and living your rich life. What We Discuss with Ramit Sethi: What has changed between the first edition of I Will Teach You to Be Rich and the recently published, heavier-by-80-pages second edition. How the idea of a "rich" life differs from person to person. Thinking critically about bank accounts, investing, engagement rings, marginal tax rates, interest rates, budgets, real estate, and prenups. Using the concept of money dials to maximize spending in the areas of your life that count. Why you have a huge advantage if you're able to change your mind quickly in the face of new evidence. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/199 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! We all have a love affair with the silver screen. Listen in as Chuck Bryant talks with your favorite people about their favorite movies on the Movie Crush podcast here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Touko 20191h 24min

Mark Manson (@iammarkmanson) is a blogger, entrepreneur, and author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life and his latest, Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope. What We Discuss with Mark Manson: How acknowledging the uncomfortable truth of human existence's meaninglessness can ultimately serve as an argument against nihilism. What the paradox of purpose tells us about the stress that accompanies an overwhelming abundance of choice. How the feeling brain and the thinking brain might seem at odds, but they actually conspire to guide our values (for better or worse). Why your identity will stay your identity until a new experience acts against it, and how you can change your values to fit your current narrative instead of one that's outdated. What the God value is and how it aligns your hierarchy of values by way of the feeling brain. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/198 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! We all have a love affair with the silver screen. Listen in as Chuck Bryant talks with your favorite people about their favorite movies on the Movie Crush podcast here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

14 Touko 20191h 3min