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If you've gotten yourself into credit card debt, it's hard to see a way out. Minimum payments can be as much as rent and won't always whittle down the debt because your interest rates are probably too high. With thanks again to Ramit Sethi (@ramit) of I Will Teach You to Be Rich, we'll show you how get out of credit card debt more easily than you probably think possible. And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/188. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: You're in more credit card debt than you'd like. Should you tell your family about it so you don't feel like you're hiding something from them? While we're on the topic of credit card debt, we share some tips from Ramit Sethi for getting that debt under control (Script found here). After surgery, monitoring, and an almost clean bill of health, how can you encourage your spouse that every pain experienced now isn't cancer? How do you deal with blame and taking responsibility after the breakup of a long-term relationship and the fallout of shared property? When visiting another country, we've advised hiring a local to hang out with and guide you around. But where can you find such a guide? How can you find a suitable, non-nuclear solution for you and your long-time partner to travel together, given different work circumstances? Going from employee to entrepreneur in an industry where name equals credibility, how do you keep your name safe if your business fails? So you want to get involved in politics or some other high-profile career? You might want to scrub those old social media posts; here's how. Your timing for knowing when to interject in a conversation could be better. How do you improve it? Life Pro Tip: Keep a $100 bill folded in a side compartment of your wallet in a doggie poop bag. The money is for emergencies. The bag is for protecting your valuables if you're caught out in the rain. Recommendation of the Week: You Vs. Wild Quick shoutout to Melissa! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Huhti 20191h

Hal Elrod (@HalElrod) has overcome two near-death experiences, is the bestselling author of The Miracle Morning, and his latest book, The Miracle Equation: The Two Decisions That Move Your Biggest Goals from Possible, to Probable, to Inevitable, is out now. What We Discuss with Hal Elrod: How the concepts of unwavering faith and extraordinary effort combine to form The Miracle Equation. Why this equation is a quantifiable, non-woo way of achieving the incredible in spite of borrowing words like "miracle" and "faith." How to move from the emotional pain of resistance to the emotional invincibility of acceptance. Why pursuing one mission dauntlessly is worth more than setting a hundred fuzzy goals. How you can turn off your stress response and what you can do to grow from fleeting happiness to lasting inner peace. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/187 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! Listen to Mind Pump Episode 980 to discover the five most important steps you should take to achieve your best body by summer. Find it here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

18 Huhti 20191h 9min

David Smalley (@davidcsmalley) is an actor, comedian, and host of the Dogma Debate podcast, in which he -- as an atheist -- regularly discusses religion and politics with preachers, pastors, comedians, and people who hold different world views. What We Discuss with David Smalley: How David Smalley went from spiritual believer to secular atheist. Why regularly challenging your own beliefs helps inoculate you against manipulation by others. The tactics car dealers and clergy use to corral people into compliance. What happens when atheists cling to faulty beliefs with the same fervor once reserved for their disavowed religions. How to debate in a way that might actually change someone's mind rather than angering them to the point of doubling down on their initial position. And much more... Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/186. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! One's a comedian, one's a radio/TV host. Together they bring you The SDR Show -- a no-apologies, not politically correct, not for the faint of heart show that somehow blends the classic energy of a morning radio show into the new era of digital entertainment. Listen to The SDR Show here or where your ears enjoy podcasts most! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

16 Huhti 20191h 6min

Ever wondered how to get hired like a boss? Ramit Sethi (@ramit) of I Will Teach You to Be Rich joins us for this Feedback Friday to illustrate something called The Briefcase Technique, which you can use to powerfully demonstrate value to connections in your network and potential employers. As Ramit says, "The way to stand out is to not just tell people what you would do, but show them." And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in! Full show notes and resources can be found here: https://jordanharbinger.com/185. On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: How do you keep your mother from bringing her awful date -- who also happens to be your father -- to your best friend's wedding? You could retire early and enjoy time off, but you don't want to get stuck finding a new job if you get bored in a couple of years. What to do? You have questions and concerns while building a new house. How do you avoid ticking off the contractors to the point of sabotage? How do successful people balance between work they're passionate about, families they adore, and outlets they need to function at an optimal level? The dream job you landed at Harvard would be even dreamier if it paid well enough now to make a dent in your student loans. Should you stay or go? When the real nature of your job doesn't reflect what you thought you signed on for, how do you approach a contract renegotiation gracefully? How do you distinguish yourself from the competition and get hired like a boss or make new network connections stick? Ramit Sethi joins us to illustrate an almost magical tactic called The Briefcase Technique. What are the pros and cons of starting a new relationship when you describe yourself as being in an "awkward" stage in life? Life Pro Tip: Save your money on clothes, but find a fantastic tailor. A well-fitting wardrobe of thrift store finds looks way better in person than most high-end clothing. Recommendation of the Week: The Kindness Diaries (Something to ponder: How long does Leon Logothetis get stuck at gas stations waiting for people he can ask for a few drops in the tank?) A quick shoutout to Mark Serratore, who got a prison pen pal for a college course 10 years ago and still keeps in touch! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect... See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

12 Huhti 20191h 11min

Naveen Jain (@naveen_jain_ceo) is an entrepreneur driven to solve global grand challenges through innovation. He is the founder of Moon Express, Viome, Bluedot, TalentWise, Intelius, and InfoSpace, and the co-author of Moonshots: Creating a World of Abundance. What We Discuss with Naveen Jain: How Naveen and his siblings all became wildly successful professionals in spite of growing up financially and educationally underprivileged. How to know when a billionaire really becomes successful. Why it's the thought processes -- not the habits -- of highly successful people you should be emulating if you want to succeed. Why Naveen believes sustainability is not sustainable, and why we have to create more of what we need rather than consume less of what we have. What moonshots are, and how they make seemingly impossible goals achievable. And much more... Full show notes and worksheet here: https://jordanharbinger.com/184 Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! The jet-setting lifestyle of an entrepreneur requires a little work on the road. But what if the jet you're setting on doesn't have Wi-Fi? Before you take your next flight, tune in to The $100 MBA Episode 1231: 5 Tips To Getting Work Done On a Plane here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

11 Huhti 20191h 14min

Lisa Lampanelli (@LisaLampanelli) recently lost 100 pounds, retired from a Grammy-nominated career in comedy that spanned three decades, and is now a life coach who runs transformational food and body-image workshops and performs issue-oriented storytelling shows. What We Discuss with Lisa Lampanelli: How Lisa made her last career pivot -- from rock journalist to comedian. How Lisa engineered her image as comedy's "Loveable Queen of Mean." The psychology of a celebrity roast and the toll it takes in the name of good fun. How Lisa lost over 100 pounds and what she learned along the journey. Why Lisa formally retired from comedy recently to focus on helping others. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! If you want to listen to a podcast that will help you avoid financial common pitfalls every entrepreneur faces, check out How To Always Profit First with Mike Michalowicz, Self-Made Man here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

9 Huhti 20191h 12min

Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason DeFillippo (@jpdef) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is your significant other right to be upset that you want to spend some of your social time separately? Is spending eight years to switch careers from barber to therapist worthwhile in your mid-forties? Is there anything wrong with hiding the fact that you're in a relationship when you meet new people? You're still young, but your mindless six-figure job is wearing on you. Would it be irresponsible to drop everything and do something else? How can you overcome your intense fear and anxiety around driving? More important: should you? Our listener whose dog was attacked in episode 161 tracked down the human responsible. What's the best next step? Extensive (and very appreciated!) listener advice for helping the hoarders from last Feedback Friday. Do we ever worry that recommending podcasts we enjoy will result in fewer listeners? Life Pro Tip: When your ISP raises your bill, call in and say “cancel service” to the automated operator. You’ll be sent to their retention team. They will usually take $10-20 off your monthly bill for a year. I do this once a year with Comcast. Recommendation of the Week: Why Not Home? Quick shoutouts to Andrea Ott and Annie Chau! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger. Connect with Jason on Twitter at @jpdef and Instagram at @JPD, and check out his other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course! On Divorce Sucks with Laura Wasser, family law attorney Laura Wasser answers questions, shares anecdotes and chats with opinionated men and women, innovative thought-leaders and celebrities about breaking up, getting...See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

5 Huhti 201946min

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) joins us for this deep dive into why the impulse for blaming other people is a phenomenon familiar to most of us, and how we can curb it in ourselves without defaulting to always taking the fall when it’s undeserved. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: Why the externalization of blaming other people when you're at fault robs you of being truly in control of your own life. Why the internalization of blaming yourself when you're not at fault is just as toxic as externalization. How you can use the Accountability Spectrum to find an appropriate balance between externalization and internalization. What true accountability requires of you and what it gives you in return. The best antidote to blaming. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking — our free networking and relationship development mini course — at jordanharbinger.com/course! The Art of Manliness Podcast is a podcast that aims to help men become better men; host Brett McKay explores how to live a life of both contemplation and action while having some fun along the way. Do yourself a favor and check out The Art of Manliness Podcast here! Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

4 Huhti 201957min