213 // Sharing the Load Without the Resentment: Fair Play for Moms with Valerie Recore

Does it ever feel like the mental load of home and family life is all on you? In this episode, productivity coach and Certified Fair Play Facilitator Valerie Recore shares practical ways to bring more balance and teamwork into your home — without walking on eggshells, nagging, or carrying the weight alone.

Valerie opens up about the moment she realized resentment was creeping in (yes, it involved dirty dishes!) and how she and her husband created a simple system that worked for both of them. She explains how the Fair Play Method helps couples define shared values, set clear standards, and divide household tasks more equitably.

You’ll walk away with tangible strategies for:

• Starting the conversation about sharing household tasks
• Using the “Minimum Standard of Care” to prevent conflict
• Making family clean-up time fun and connected
• Regularly checking in to keep things fair through changing seasons

If you’ve ever wished your family could “just see” what needs to be done — this episode will help you start fresh with clarity, teamwork, and peace.

About Valerie: Valerie Recore is a productivity coach and Certified Fair Play Method Facilitator. She helps moms share the load with their partners without walking on eggshells, feeling resentful, or constantly nagging. She’s passionate about helping women feel more peace and accomplishment at the end of the day. Valerie is a mom of two tween girls and enjoys finding ways to make daily life run more smoothly — both at home and in her coaching practice.

Connect with Valerie on her website, Facebook, and Instagram

Grab her free Fair Play Conversation Starter Playbook

Resources Mentioned:

Fair Play by Eve Rodsky

Related Episodes:

Episode 117: Declutter the Mental Load of Motherhood by Following by 5-Step System

Episode 132: How to Diagnose and Fix Broken Rhythms At Work and Home - with Jeanette Tapley from the Moms at Work Podcast

Episode 16: “My Husband Doesn’t Want to Get Rid of Anything!” How to Get Your Spouse on Board with Decluttering in 5 Simple Steps

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