How to be Yourself and Still Be Loved Ep. 146

In this episode, Sylvia reflects on a life-changing lesson she learned from communications expert Vinh Giang. Inspired by his insights, Sylvia delves into how the beliefs and narratives we hold about ourselves are not fixed and can be changed. Drawing from personal experiences and neuroscience, she explores how our behaviours often stem from old beliefs and how we can consciously break free from them. You'll learn how to identify and challenge limiting beliefs that may be holding you back and discover the power of neuroplasticity—your brain's ability to reorganise itself and create new neural connections. This episode offers practical steps for creating a new narrative, one that aligns with the life you want to live. Key Takeaways: How old beliefs shape your identity and behaviours. The role of neuroplasticity in changing your habits and thought patterns. Tips for breaking free from limiting beliefs and rewriting your story. The power of taking conscious action to create a new future. Show Links: Website: www.sylviasuwan.com Book Your Free Consultation Remember to subscribe, rate, and review if you found this episode helpful! Have a beautiful week, and I'll catch you next time.

24 Marras 202411min

Hey everyone, welcome back! As we near the end of the year, it's a great time to reflect on what's worked – and what hasn't. In this episode, I'm speaking directly to those of you who've had a tough year, especially if you've been struggling to move past a difficult breakup. Together, we'll look at why it's been so hard to get unstuck and, more importantly, how you can make next year different. I'll share insights on the stages of grief and how we often find ourselves holding onto emotions like denial, anger, and regret far longer than we realise. If you feel as though you're looping in these stages, you might be reinforcing patterns that keep you from moving forward. Let's talk about the difference between healthy processing and unhelpful rumination, and explore strategies to leave those habits behind. This episode is all about preparing for 2025 with purpose. Instead of waiting until New Year's Eve to set resolutions, I'll guide you on how to gradually build a new version of yourself, starting right now. By identifying what truly motivates you and setting small, achievable goals, you'll set yourself up for long-term success instead of quick burnout. Questions to ask yourself: What kind of person do you want to be a year from now? How do you want to feel about yourself and your life? What's one step you can take today to start moving forward? If you're ready to start letting go of the past and embracing the possibilities ahead, this episode is here to support you. Listen in, take notes, and let's make the next year your best one yet. Thank you for tuning in. Don't forget to subscribe if you haven't already, and I'd love it if you could leave a rating or review. Here's to a beautiful week and an even better year ahead! Show Links: Ready To Join Breakup to Blessing? Sign up here

17 Marras 202414min

Today, we're diving into a topic many of us face: the way we handle conflict in our relationships. Often, we wait until tensions peak before addressing issues, but I'm here to encourage a different approach—discussing these things before they escalate, while we're in a positive, calm state. This allows us to communicate more constructively and prevents the cycle of recurring arguments and unresolved feelings. In this episode, I explore the difference between focusing on symptoms (the surface-level problems) and tackling the roots (the deeper issues driving these conflicts). When we only address symptoms, it's like covering a wound without cleaning it—temporary fixes won't heal the deeper issues. Some key points we discuss: • Why "symptom-fixing" often fails: Without addressing the underlying emotions, resentment and frustration can build up, leading to recurring conflicts. • Missed opportunities for growth and intimacy: By avoiding difficult conversations, we miss out on moments of vulnerability that foster deeper connection. • Self-reflection in conflict: Often, symptom-fixing leads us to blame our partner's actions instead of exploring our own role or the dynamics between us. Common examples of symptom-focused behaviour include: • Trust issues: Addressed only by setting boundaries instead of exploring underlying insecurities. • Communication breakdown: Limiting phone use without tackling the root issue of emotional disconnection. • Physical intimacy: Creating "reminders" for physical affection rather than exploring unspoken feelings or shifts in priorities. To build a healthier approach, I discuss the importance of self-awareness, learning to self-regulate, and effective listening. I also talk about reframing complaints as needs, so we can better understand and communicate our deeper emotions and desires. Take some time to reflect on your relationship. Are there issues that keep resurfacing? Could there be a deeper root you're overlooking? Try making one small change this week—take a step back, look deeper, and open up an honest conversation Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program Book a Free Consultation: https://sylviasuwan.com/consultation

10 Marras 202420min

In this episode, we tackle the painful and often polarising topic of infidelity. Cheating can feel like a devastating breach of trust and, for many, it seems unforgivable. Drawing from personal experience and insights from relationship expert Esther Perel, I discuss why viewing infidelity in black-and-white terms can complicate our healing and growth. We examine some of the common emotions people feel after betrayal—such as self-blame, doubts about self-worth, and a shattered trust in others. These reactions can be debilitating, making it crucial to develop a mindset that doesn't allow betrayal to dominate our happiness. I share ways to rebuild inner security so that fear of potential betrayal doesn't overshadow your relationships. Key steps include cultivating a strong sense of self-worth, reframing trust, and focusing on your resilience and ability to recover. By understanding the reasons people may cheat—such as seeking novelty, identity exploration, or relief from unmet emotional needs—you can view infidelity less as a reflection of your worth and more as a sign of the other person's struggles. Ultimately, this episode is about finding peace and confidence within yourself, embracing love and connection without letting the possibility of betrayal take control. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing https://sylviasuwan.com/program Interested in working with me 1:1? Book a free consultation

3 Marras 202422min

In this episode, we dive into the process of recognising and breaking unhealthy relationship patterns, specifically focusing on why we might be drawn to emotionally unavailable partners. You'll learn how to identify your own thoughts, behaviours, and decisions that contribute to these patterns and, more importantly, what you can do to shift them. Key Takeaways: How to recognise if you have a relationship pattern that's holding you back The role childhood experiences play in attracting emotionally unavailable partners How to create a "red flag list" for yourself The importance of setting clear boundaries and creating new standards for your relationships How to embrace vulnerability and express your needs in healthy ways Why building a support system and practicing patience are crucial steps in breaking these patterns Free Masterclass: Don't miss my upcoming free masterclass on How to Move On From Heartbreak on 6th November at 7am (AEST). Register here Join Breakup to Blessing: https://sylviasuwan.com/program

27 Loka 202414min

In this episode, we dive into a topic that's relevant to everyone at some point in their lives—how to be okay with not being okay. Whether you're going through heartbreak, dealing with a difficult situation at work or home, or just feeling like you want the pain to disappear, this episode is for you. I explore how many of us, growing up, weren't taught to sit with our feelings. Instead, our parents or caregivers tried to make us feel better as quickly as possible, unknowingly teaching us to avoid discomfort. As a result, many of us never learned how to regulate our emotions, which often manifests in adulthood as an inability to handle challenging situations calmly. Key topics in this episode include: Why we avoid uncomfortable emotions and how it impacts us as adults The importance of learning to sit with your feelings rather than immediately comforting yourself How social media, Netflix, and other distractions prevent us from regulating our emotions Practical steps to retrain your nervous system and become more emotionally resilient Why insight alone isn't enough—you need to apply what you've learned to truly change your behaviour If you've struggled with feeling overwhelmed by emotions or find it hard to return to a calm state after being challenged, this episode will provide you with practical tools and guidance to start creating lasting change. Listen in and discover how to be more present with your emotions and why it's okay to not always have everything together. Show Links: Work with me https://www.sylviasuwan.com/consultation Breakup to Blessing Program https://sylviasuwan.com/program

20 Loka 202413min

In today's episode, I dive into the process of rebuilding your life after a breakup. If you're feeling lost or unsure of how to move forward, you're not alone. Many people experience this after a relationship ends, and it can feel like you're wandering through life without direction. Last week, we talked about shifting your mindset and taking control of your life – if you haven't listened to that episode, I recommend checking it out first to lay a strong foundation for today's discussion. In this episode, I walk you through the steps of making small, consistent changes to rebuild your life. Whether it's your career, relationships, or another part of your life, these small shifts can lead to profound transformation over time. I use examples like the British cycling team's success story, which highlights how even marginal gains can lead to incredible outcomes. Key points covered include: Taking small, manageable steps towards change Setting realistic expectations for your progress Assessing different areas of your life using tools like the Wheel of Life Building and nurturing your inner circle of friends to provide support during tough times If you'd like to dive deeper into how you can implement these strategies in your life, send me a DM on Instagram @sylviasuwan or Book a free consult Resources Mentioned: Simon Sinek's book, Start With Why Atomic Habits by James Clear Listen to the full episode and learn how to start rebuilding your life, one small step at a time.

13 Loka 202413min

In this episode, I reflect on the biggest shift that transformed how I view my life, no matter the circumstances. From my childhood to my rebellious teen years, marriage, divorce, and the journey of self-discovery, I've come to realise that my attitude has always been the deciding factor in how I feel and respond to life. We often let our circumstances dictate our happiness, but today, I want to talk about finding sufficiency in the here and now. I share how I moved from feeling powerless during a difficult divorce to gaining clarity, gratitude, and control by shifting my mindset. I discuss the importance of focusing on what we have instead of what we lack, and how that change in perspective can lead to better decision-making and a sense of empowerment. This episode is for anyone feeling stuck, uncertain, or overwhelmed by life. I'll guide you on how to move from victimhood to agency, so you can make intentional decisions and create the life you truly want. It's about learning to appreciate what you have, while also working toward the goals that bring you joy and fulfilment. Tune in to discover: Why your perspective is the key to happiness How finding sufficiency in your current situation can transform your life Practical steps to start taking control of your future The power of pursuing goals to increase your sense of self-worth and diminish envy Plus, if you're in need of immersive healing after a breakup or difficult relationship, don't miss out on my upcoming retreat. It's happening on the 10th of November, and it's designed for those looking for a supportive space to heal and grow. Resources Mentioned: Sign up for my retreat: bumblebeetretreats.com.au

6 Loka 202414min