Love, Limits, and Delight: What Grace-Based Parenting Really Looks Like :: Cody Kimmel [Ep 546]

*Earbud warning…may want to listen without innocent ears hearing as well. 😉 This episode is about having great SEX with your husband. Whether that gets you excited or brings up fear in you, please stay and listen to my chat with Nancy Houston. She is a licensed professional counselor and sex therapist who shares candidly about how to overcome barriers to intimacy in marriage. We talk about how to work through sexual pasts, sex after having kids, the impact of porn and sexual addiction on marriage. And how getting healing from your past experiences can draw you closer to your husband. There’s a big learning curve to all of this. And you know too many times we treat sex as something that should be automatic and if we love each other this should just work. And that’s just not true. I mean statistically 60 percent of couples are having some sort of sexual problem right this minute.  What we chat about: Why the Christian community needs to open up more about sex and healthy intimacy How sex drive changes for women after they’ve had kids The importance of foreplay for women especially God gave us sex as a way to bond us together with our husband Statistically, 60 percent of couples are having some sort of sexual problems at any given minute A woman’s largest sex organ is her brain The need for healing when you’ve experienced sexual abuse How Nancy processed and found healing from the sexual trauma she experienced Porn vs sexual addiction and the need for therapy God made us for intimacy Letting go of the negative aspects you may have built up around the idea of sex Raising our kids to have a healthy view of sexuality 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 and how it references sex in marriage Having your hormones checked, exercise and eating healthy can help your body be prepared for sex Having healthy conversations about sex with your husband (not during sex!) Sex isn’t meant to be a performance, it’s meant to be a way for you and your husband to connect Invite God into the sexual part of your marriage Links Mentioned: The Power of Sex in Marriage :: Francie Winslow, Ep 61  The Ripple Effect of Healthy Sexual Connection :: Francie Winslow, Ep 138  Love & Sex A Christian Guide to Healthy Intimacy ** https://www.affairrecovery.com/ Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage ** Birds & Bees with Mary Flo Ridley, “When to Have the Talk”  Birds & Bees–Continuing the Conversation, Ep 153  Nancy’s recommended books: Celebration of Sex, by Doug Rosenau** Sex Facts for the Family, by Clifford and Joyce Penner** The Gift of Sex, by Clifford and Joyce Penner** Coping with Erectile Dysfunction, by Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy** Coping with Premature Ejaculation, by Michael Metz and Barry McCarthy** Rekindling Desire, Barry and Emily McCarthy** The Conquer Series for men struggling with sexual issues, a video series which can be purchased at Pure Desire Ministries Pure Desire, by Dr. Ted Roberts** **Amazon affiliate link

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There is a lot of pressure placed on moms to nurture and care for our families. Add the responsibilities of a full-time job on top of that and it easy to see why being a mom is called the hardest job in the world. My friends Causha Jolly and Stacey McCabe share about life as working moms and the difficult balance they maintain everyday. I love how they share their hearts about being obedient to God’s assignment for them to work outside the home even in the difficult season of mothering little ones. As a community of God-centered moms, we’re called to cheer on our sisters. It’s my hope that this episode will encourage you to bless and support other moms as they obey God. Remember who you are in Christ, remember that you are called, remember that you are a daughter of the most high and never doubt that.  (STAY TUNED. . .later this week I’ll release a blog post with more practical ideas on work/life balance from Causha) What we chat about: Causha and Stacy’s motherhood stories and why they chose to work outside the home Why it’s harder for moms to travel and not worry about your kids vs. husbands traveling How to respond when we fear we aren’t enough and struggle under the weight of expectations placed on moms The difficulty of finding care for your kids while you work The false internal judgement of good mom to bad mom scale Feeling a divine assignment from God to be in a certain job How it’s necessary to say, “No” to a lot when you have limited family time The need to show grace for yourself so that you can have grace with your kids Moms can’t be there every moment of every day, but Jesus will always be there Teaching our kids to turn to Jesus to meet every one of their needs Dealing with moments of insecurity as a working mom When we judge a mom for her choices then we miss out on the blessing of supporting her in her obedience Links Mentioned: Kat Armstrong –Motherhood, Career and Identity [episode 171]  Courtney Smallbone–The Day Fear Died  Pine Cove Family Camp Freakonomics by Steven Levitt** Whisper by Mark Batterson** Experiencing God by Blackaby** Discerning the Voice of God by Priscilla Shirer**

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In her new book, New York Times bestselling author Lisa Bevere tackles the question, “What is truth?”. It is a defining question in our current age which is ruled by a shifting sea of opinions and a constantly changing culture. But, truth is person, Jesus. And, he is a Rock for his people. When I began to look at this, I thought, ‘Oh my gosh, they were looking for Christ’. The magnet that would draw, but not be drawn, the one who is light, this whole dynamic of being invincible, that’s what adamant means… invincible… it’s also immovable, constant, that rock who follows us in the wilderness… That word in Hebrew means, ‘an unassailable refuge’. That made me realize that Christ is our unassailable refuge. Listen as Lisa shares wisdom and encouragement for moms, daughters and followers of Christ everywhere. What we chat about: Lisa’s background and testimony of meeting Jesus and her husband Parenting, discipline and setting your children up to win The power of positive affirmation in strong-willed children Explaining the why behind the rules and connecting it to God’s word Having grace for the season you are in as a mom Prayers for your kids to go beyond where you are in your walk with Christ Doing motherhood well is not the same as doing it perfectly The meaning of adamant and the background on Lisa’s new book Christ is our unassailable refuge, our rock, our adamant We can’t love what God loves if we don’t hate what God hates The danger of pride and how it separates us from God’s grace Jesus is our pattern for how to love You will never regret kindness and loving words Bring in the word of God when you have disagreements Links Mentioned: Out Of Control And Loving It: Giving God Complete Control of Your Life** Lizzy the Lioness** Messenger International Adamant : Finding Truth in a Universe of Opinions** **Amazon affiliate link

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Losing a baby to miscarriage or later in pregnancy is heartbreaking, especially when you are struggling with infertility. Imagine experiencing that type of loss multiple times. My guest and friend, Shawna Beucler shares the story behind her two healthy sons and the many babies she can’t wait to see again in heaven. If you’re walking through the journey of infertility or have a friend who is, Shawna shares so beautifully why you shouldn’t walk alone in these places of pain and the power of friends lifting you up in prayer every day. We would not have gone through and survived that time in our life had we not had people praying for us around the clock. Because sometimes the anger and the heartbreak when your heart meets tragedy… there is no prayer you can form. I needed a break from the Lord and I had other people holding that connection for me. What we chat about: Struggling with infertility, medical interventions and trying to get pregnant IUI, IVF and miscarriages Feeling the door shutting on future pregnancies The Lord wants us to desire to love and know him Losing a final baby and the traumatic process of going through delivery People praying for you made the difference Why Shawna wants to share her story The healing that can come from talking about the pain in your life Keeping your marriage together in times of deep grief 1 Timothy 1:7 – For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. Philippians 4:13 – I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Psalm 27:14 – Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Luke 1:37 – For nothing will be impossible with God. How to help a friend who is walking through infertility Links Mentioned: What to Say, How to Help, When to Show Up (Lunchbox Babies) Mourning & Dancing by She Reads Truth

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Powerhouse Christine Caine shares how she let go of fear and found faith for when the unexpected happened. Lots of truth and encouragement here for anyone who has encountered fear in parenting, a medical diagnosis and rejection in friendships… so all of us! Jesus never said we’re not going to have trials. He said when trials come, not if, but when. I think sometimes as believers we forget that, but we have a grace within it. I think part of our testimony to a lost and broken world is the way we go through it. What we chat about: Christine Caine’s new book, Unexpected Emboldening our faith and letting go of fear in motherhood Trusting that God will fill in the gaps of what we’re able to do as parents Basic spiritual practices can be some of the most powerful things in our lives Facing painful actualites in a fallen world Christine’s reaction to her cancer diagnosis Jesus is the name above all other names, including cancer Having a “faith cocoon” of friends to encourage you in the face of fear Enduring suffering as Christians Giving in to the pain and fear and suffering is not the answer We serve a God who is bigger! Godly motherhood in this generation is harder than it’s ever been Leaning in with a spirit of faith and not pulling back with a spirit of fear We’re called to train our children up and not restrain their giftings Dealing with rejection in friendship and moving forward Links Mentioned: A21 Ministry Paul the Apostle Movie Unexpected: Leave Behind Fear, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure** Focused15 “Everyday Faith” by Katie Orr** **Amazon affiliate link

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The Bible tells of healings, miracles and the power of the Holy Spirit, but God’s power didn’t stop after the New Testament. Today’s guest Courtney Smallbone shares her personal story of God’s power in the hardest circumstances imaginable. Supernatural healing is for today. Courtney’s story of finding freedom from anxiety and miraculous healing for her infant son is a powerful testimony of God’s faithfulness. As moms we have a lot of fear and anxiety. We carry a lot. We have these little people that we’re in charge of and discipling. It gets exhausting and hard. I felt like the Lord just filled me with himself. He has given me not the spirit of fear, but love and power and a sound mind. I needed a sound mind when I was dealing with anxiety. He has given us power through his Holy Spirit and we can walk that out as moms in everyday life. What we chat about: Courtney’s testimony of seeing God move in her life and health How Courtney met her husband Luke Smallbone of For King and Country The impact of Luke’s autoimmune disease on Courtney and her family Dealing with anxiety and prescription medicine dependence Getting freedom from the shame and finding healing holistically The importance of community in the healing process Why the church needs to embrace a holistic approach to healing and helping people be open about sharing their struggles Courtney’s physical issues with her most recent pregnancy The miracle of her son’s healing Teaching our kids that prayer is powerful and effective and that God is real Worshipping with your children invites them into a lifestyle of worship Hearing God for others and the gift of the praying in the spirit Links Mentioned: “All who call on the name of the Lord will be saved.” Romans 10:13 Lemierre’s Disease for KING & COUNTRY Compassion International   Colitis  Craniosynotosis  “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.”              2 Timothy 1:7 Bethel worship “Without You”  (feat. Courtney)

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Does it seem possible to draw our kids away from entitlement and toward the bigger “Yes” of God’s blessing for them and other people in their lives? Well, get excited because Jim and Lynne Jackson of Connected Families are back with parenting wisdom to address entitlement in our kids AND in ourselves. We as parents feel entitled to grateful, hard working kids, and when we don’t get them an we have ungrateful, resistant-to-chores kids we get pretty upset. That shows that we feel entitled to how things go my way in the home. Instead of saying, ‘Oh! Wow we have some challenges here that I can partner with Jesus and really dive into.’ What we chat about: Jim and Lynne Jackson introduce Connected Families and their parenting framework The root of entitled behavior in our kids and the beliefs that back it up Entitlement is the belief that I deserve something because I’m more important than someone else Entitlement is about our sin nature and we’re all born into that As believers we need to call out entitlement in our lives and choose to put God first We as parents feel entitled to grateful, hard-working kids The attitude we bring into parenting and our beliefs are reflected onto our kids Helping our kids learn to work hard and celebrate accomplishments give them a dopamine burst in their brains that helps “rewire” them to want to work hard again Letting go of the places we are coddling our kids by not expecting them to serve and do hard things The “Bigger Yes” of God’s blessing for your kids and other people Take it slow and consider your kid’s perspective as you make changes toward growing our kids out of entitlement Determining the rights, privileges and responsibilities of your family When our kids see the beliefs we fight for and see the joy we experience as we follow God and it inclines them to want that too Links Mentioned: Help Your Child Feel Safe and Loved :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep80] How to Connect, Coach and Correct Your Child :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 81] Connecting With Your Kids in Any Circumstance Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 98] Resolving Sibling Conflict :: Jim and Lynne Jackson [Ep 126]

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Discipline. It’s such an important part of parenting and so hard. But, we don’t have to be alone on the journey. Join me as I sit down with two moms of littles from my church, Meredith and Hailey. We chat about the common struggles and questions that come up in disciplining young kids. Our kids) have the opportunity to be saved by grace through faith just like we were, not by works and not by good parenting. But, it’s the consistency of the love and the safety. And when you have that and they do confess faith then you have the Holy Spirit on your side to do the convicting. What we chat about: Discipline can be a struggle, but we’re not alone in this journey Ask yourself, “Will it matter in 10 years?” Focusing on making our children feel safe The child that’s annoying you the most, you should hug the most even though it’s the opposite of your instinct A lot of the anger that comes up in us as moms comes from unresolved issues in us, not just our kids’ behavior Mommy Time, getting intentional focused time with each child During the 0-5 ages, kids change so much it’s difficult to keep up with the huge developmental changes they are undergoing Leaning into the Holy Spirit when we need to make a decision in parenting to avoid letting fear and insecurity win It’s hard to know what the realistic expectations are for obedience at different ages Don’t sabotage the good in pursuit of the great Disciplining in public requires different tools, take steps to set your kids up to win Your kids will be saved by grace through faith and not through perfect parenting God’s kindness leads us to repentance, so we need to discipline with kindness as well Grace for parenting changes when you add a new baby to your family More Episodes on Discipline: Grace-Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150] Gospel Parenting :: Paul David Tripp [Ep 176] Connected Families– ConnectedFamilies.org –Check out Episodes 80, 81, 98, 126) Anchoring Our Kids’ Lovability in Christ with Jeannie Cunnion [Ep91] How to {Really} Parent with Grace with Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 55] Loving Your “Different” Child with Sally and Nathan Clarkson [Ep 149] 10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns and Arguments with Kirk Martin [Ep 139] Solo Parenting/Perfectionist Kids/Tone of Voice with Kirk Martin [Ep 104] Summer (and Sibling) Survival Guide with Kirk Martin [Ep 77] Calmly Parenting the Strong-Willed Child with Kirk Martin[Ep 69] How to Stop Yelling, Lecturing and Power Struggles with Kirk Martin [Ep 62] Links Mentioned: Heartfelt Discipline by Clay Clarkson** Celebrate Recovery Recovery for Life book– “Steps into God’s Grace” by Lynn Hoffmann** Mommy Time Idea Amy McCready Making Easter Personal for Preschoolers    **Amazon Affiliate link. At no extra cost to you a portion of your purchase will go back to support the God Centered Mom Podcast.

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