220: What If It “Just Comes Back?” — How to Gain Long-Term Control Over Pornography Use

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Episode show notes:

A lot of men ask –

“What if the porn urge just comes back?” “What if I lose control again?” “What if I stop being so careful and mess up?”

And a lot of wives feel the same fear. One woman said, “It feels like this just lurks in the corner.. like it could come back at any time — and I wouldn’t even know.”

This fear creates pressure, anxiety, and tension in the relationship. The man feels like he has to be perfect. The wife feels like she can’t relax.

This episode helps both of you understand the real reason urges come back — and how to stop that from happening.

You’ll learn:

• Why urges don’t “just show up” — they happen when important skills are missing
• What those missing skills usually are, and how to build them
• Why trying to control everything with willpower and fear doesn’t work
• How to create trust by actually addressing the root cause of pornography addiction
• Why this brings more peace, stability, and confidence to both the husband and the wife

If you're working on porn addiction recovery and want to feel more in control — not just avoid porn but actually overcome porn urges for good — this episode will give you a clear plan.

It’s also helpful for relapse prevention, handling pornography triggers, and understanding how real porn addiction counseling goes beyond filters and rules. It gets to the heart of the problem so you can move forward with healing.