Heartbreak Hijack, Stress and How to Reduce Anxiety Ep. 90
In this episode, Sylvia delves into the impact of breakups on our brains, highlighting the concept of "amygdala hijack" and how it influences our emotional responses. Drawing on insights from Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence, she explains the interplay between the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex, and how stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline affect us during tough times. Discover why understanding your thoughts is crucial for healing and learn practical strategies to manage anxiety. Sylvia shares techniques from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to help you become more aware of your thought patterns and introduce mindfulness practices to connect with your body. Key topics include: The science behind emotional responses during breakups The connection between anxiety and amygdala hijack Strategies for managing stress through conscious thought The importance of listening to your body and recognising emotions Effective breathing techniques to activate the parasympathetic nervous system Join Sylvia as she encourages you to take control of your mental well-being, fostering a sense of calm amidst life's challenges. Resources Mentioned: Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence 4-7-8 Breathing Technique Book a free consult with Sylvia: https://sylviasuwan.com Book your spot for my upcoming Breakup Retreat: https://bumblebeeretreats.com.au/retreats
29 Syys 202414min
Inserting Hope and Possibility Into Your Life Ep. 89
In this episode, I expand on last week's discussion about moving forward one small step at a time, and we dive into the idea of incorporating hope and possibility into your life. Moving forward after a breakup is a three-phase process: letting go of the past, accepting the present, and creating your future. Sometimes we can get stuck in the first two phases, but choosing to let go is key to making that shift towards healing. I'll guide you through how to open your mind to what's possible for your future, and how to use this time to intentionally create the life you truly want. Whether it's changing careers, travelling the world, or building a new home, this is your chance to embrace those dreams. We also touch on the echo chambers of social media and how the content you consume can either hold you back or help you grow. I'll share some insights on how to clear out the 'online junk food' and nourish your mind with positive, growth-focused content. Plus, I recommend a book that really helped me during my own transformational journey. This week's episode is packed with practical tips on how to make hope and possibility part of your daily routine and mindset. Join me on 10 November for my healing retreat in Sydney. For more details, visit bumblebeeretreats.com.au/retreats
22 Syys 202414min
Moving On, One Small Step at a Time Ep. 88
In today's episode, we're diving deep into the process of moving on after a breakup, one small step at a time. Too often, people rush to let go and move on before they're ready, leading to frustration and disappointment. I talk about how to break down the overwhelming goal of "moving on" into smaller, manageable steps that can help you heal gradually without feeling like it's impossible. We explore: Why jumping straight to "moving on" can feel daunting and unattainable The brain's response to stress and how it affects your ability to move forward The importance of grieving and allowing yourself time to process emotions How to create new routines and structures to support your healing Why small, achievable goals build confidence and progress Shifting your mindset to focus on feeling better now, without pressure to fully let go I also touch on the power of your thoughts in shaping your reality, and how journaling can help you track your mental and emotional shifts during this journey. If you're struggling to move on, this episode will offer practical, compassionate advice to help you take it one step at a time. In-Person Breakup Retreat: Join me for my in-person breakup retreat in Sydney! This retreat is designed to give you the love, support, and community you need during a challenging time. Early bird rate of $397 is available for this month only, and you'll receive a free 1-hour coaching session. After that, the rate will be $450. Spaces are limited to 12, so don't miss out! Show Links: Breakup Retreat: Bumblebee Retreats Follow me on Instagram: @sylviasuwan Episode 83 How to Let Go When You Don't Want to Let Go Episode 41 The Only 2 Things You Need To Work On To Heal Your Heartbreak
16 Syys 202414min
When You're the One Who Messed Up: Rebuilding Trust After a Mistake Ep. 87
In this episode, I'm talking directly to those of you who feel responsible for the end of your relationship. Whether it was a moment of infidelity, an outburst, or ongoing anxiety that led to the breakup, this episode is here to help you navigate the guilt and find a path forward. I'll guide you through the importance of owning your actions, understanding your partner's feelings, and what it takes to rebuild trust if you're both committed to moving forward. We'll also explore the value of introspection and how addressing your underlying behaviours can prevent future mistakes. Plus, I'll discuss how to make amends even if your relationship is over and you're seeking healing and closure for yourself. If this sounds like your situation, or even if you're someone who was wronged, this episode is for you. Episode Highlights: How to own up to your mistakes and give your partner the time and space to heal The role of introspection and therapy in understanding why you acted the way you did How to rebuild trust and avoid repeating the same mistakes What to do if your relationship ended and you want to make amends for your own healing I'm also excited to announce that bookings are now open for my Breakup Healing Retreat on November 3rd! It's going to be an intimate and transformational day with only 12 participants, so each person will get personalised attention. If you're interested, visit www.bumblebeeretreats.com.au/retreats or send me a DM on Instagram @sylviasuwan.
8 Syys 202417min
Why They Left - Inside The Mind of the One Who Ended It Ep. 86
In this episode, we dive into a crucial yet often overlooked stage in relationships—the period before a breakup. While there's plenty of advice on what to do after a breakup, today, we're focusing on the internal process someone goes through when they start to consider whether their relationship is still right for them. We'll explore the doubts, the inner conflicts, and the stages of deliberation that lead up to the decision to end a relationship. We also touch on insights from Esther Perel, who reminds us that relationships involve three entities: you, your partner, and the relationship itself. It's crucial to nurture all three, but when one is neglected, it can lead to significant issues down the line. If you've ever been on the receiving end of a breakup and felt confused or blindsided, this episode will offer you a new perspective. We'll unpack the typical stages someone might go through when contemplating a breakup, from feeling discontent to mentally weighing the pros and cons, to the fears and uncertainties they might face. Whether you're currently in a relationship or still processing a past breakup, this episode is full of insights that can help you understand what might have been going on for your ex or even prepare you to navigate similar situations in the future. Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of the pre-breakup phase and learn how to create a safe environment in your relationships where honest communication can thrive. Key Points Discussed: The internal process of considering a breakup The role of doubt, discontentment, and emotional dissatisfaction How individuals weigh the pros and cons before making a decision The importance of aligning needs, desires, and future goals Common fears faced by those contemplating a breakup The subtle signs of emotional distancing Creating a safe space for open and honest communication in relationships Show Links: Early Bird Retreat Registration DM @sylviasuwan Join Breakup to Blessing https://sylviasuwan.com/program
1 Syys 202418min
How YOU Can Move On In 12 Weeks Ep. 85
In today's episode, I'm diving deep into how you can move on from a breakup in just 12 weeks. Moving on doesn't mean you're fully healed, but it does mean freeing yourself from attachment to your ex and any lingering desires to be with them. I'll break down the three key factors that determine how quickly you can move on: belief in your ability to do so, your desire to move forward, and your willingness to step into the unknown. We'll explore how you can shift your mindset, build a new self-concept, and take responsibility for your own life. I'll also outline the five steps that will guide you through this 12-week journey, including acceptance, rewiring your brain, developing self-awareness, and creating a life aligned with your true purpose. If this resonates with you, I encourage you to join my Breakup to Blessing program, where I coach you through these steps in detail. Thanks for listening! Don't forget to tune in next week for more insights and guidance. Show links: Join Breakup to Blessing and move on in 12 weeks https://sylviasuwan.com/program Episode 79 – Healing vs Moving On Listen on Apple Podcasts Listen on Spotify
25 Elo 202416min
When The Breakup Doesn't Make Any Sense Ep. 84
In this episode of the Breakup to Blessing podcast, I delve into the complex feelings surrounding breakups that leave us searching for answers, especially when they just don't seem to make sense. As a breakup and relationship coach, I'm passionate about helping individuals navigate their emotional landscapes and find clarity during turbulent times. This particular discussion centers on the common misconception that we find closure solely through understanding our ex's actions, and how often what we really need is to accept that their reasoning may forever remain a mystery to us. I begin by addressing the concept of closure, a term often thrown around in the aftermath of a breakup. It's easy to believe that closure is something we are owed by our former partners, but the truth is that many people already possess enough information to grant themselves a degree of closure; it's simply a matter of accepting it. For those who grapple with confusion regarding the breakup, I challenge the belief that their ex's feelings and actions should align perfectly. The reality is that emotional complexities can cloud judgment and lead to decisions that might seem illogical from the outside. Throughout this conversation, I emphasise the importance of recognizing emotional variability. It's crucial to accept that people are not only influenced by their feelings but also by a multitude of external factors. I discuss how some individuals, particularly women, often find themselves replaying past conversations, seeking meaning in each word spoken, yet failing to reach a resolution. This mental spiral can prevent growth and healing if we become too entrenched in our need for answers that may never come. I highlight how differing emotional processing skills can lead to misinterpretation of a partner's feelings. Many people, especially in romantic contexts, operate with distinct emotional frameworks. It's common for someone to express love and commitment one moment and then act in direct opposition when caught in inner turmoil. This dissonance can be particularly confusing and painful. I draw parallels with childhood experiences to illustrate how quickly feelings can shift, reflecting on the dualities we struggled to comprehend as children and how that same complexity exists in adult relationships. The episode further explores the intersection of logic and emotion in decision-making, underscoring the divergent ways we each approach relationships. Some individuals prioritise rational thinking, while others lean heavily on their emotional instincts. This dissimilarity can lead to misunderstandings about the depth and permanence of feelings, particularly in a breakup scenario. I introduce the idea that although we may feel uniquely connected to our ex-partners, each person's internal experience is vastly different, shaped by their own beliefs, backgrounds, and emotional literacy. Toward the close of our discussion, I address the call to find acceptance in situations where clarity eludes us. I propose shifting perspectives: rather than focusing on our partner's decisions that we may not understand, we should redirect that energy towards our own growth and healing. Releasing the need for definitive answers is a vital step in moving forward. Understanding that our self-worth is not tied to another's choices can be liberating and, ultimately, empowering. This episode serves as a gentle reminder that it's okay to not have all the answers right away. Instead, I encourage listeners to embrace the ambiguity of life and trust that clarity will come in its own time. The essence of healing lies not in dissecting our past relationships but in focusing on ourselves and our journeys ahead. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing and Transform Your Life https://sylviasuwan.com
18 Elo 202415min
How To Let Go When You Don't Want To Let Go Ep. 83
Today we delve into the challenging process of letting go, especially when it feels impossible to do so. Many of us struggle with this, even when we know it's the right thing to do. This episode will guide you through understanding why letting go is difficult and provide actionable steps to help you move forward. In This Episode, We Discuss: Why Letting Go is Difficult: Understanding the emotional attachment and why it's hard to accept the end of a relationship. The Importance of No-Contact: Treating no-contact like overcoming an addiction to help you move on. Steps to Let Go: Self-Reflection: Engage in introspection to understand your attachment through journaling, therapy, or talking to a trusted friend. Identify what emotional needs your ex fulfilled. Acceptance: Recognise that the relationship no longer serves you positively and that staying attached only brings negative outcomes. Emotional Regulation: Learn techniques such as deep breathing, journaling, and mindfulness to manage and regulate your emotions. These skills are crucial for future healthy relationships. Reframing Thoughts: Challenge and reframe obsessive thoughts about your ex. Create a new narrative that supports your goal of detachment. Building Self-Worth: Recognise your strengths, achievements, and qualities. Validate yourself rather than seeking approval from others. Cultivating Independence: Engage in activities that boost your confidence and sense of autonomy. Try new things, learn new skills, and focus on personal growth. Focusing on the Present: Practice daily mindfulness and meditation to stay in the moment and avoid dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Key Takeaways: Letting go requires emotional work, not just intellectual understanding. Self-reflection and acceptance are crucial first steps. Developing emotional regulation and self-worth can help you build healthier future relationships. Cultivating independence and staying present are key to moving forward. Show Links: Join Breakup to Blessing and Transform Your Heartbreak https://sylviasuwan.com/program Free Breakup Journal Link: Download Here
12 Elo 202416min
