When Does “My Money” Become “Our Money”? | Money and Relationships | E482

When Does “My Money” Become “Our Money”? | Money and Relationships | E482

Have you ever asked yourself, “When does ‘my money’ become ‘our money’?” It’s one of those questions couples don’t really face until tension starts to build. And by then, it’s rarely about the dollars. It’s about fairness, power, and feeling seen. In this episode, I’m joined by Heather and Douglas Boneparth, the power couple behind Bone Fide Wealth Management, and co-authors of their new book, Money Together: How to Find Fairness in Your Relationship and Become an Unstoppable Financial Team. We talk about what really happens when love meets money - the unspoken expectations, the invisible labor, and the stories we tell ourselves about who’s “earning” more or contributing “enough.” Heather and Douglas share their own wake-up moment during the pandemic, when their careers and family roles shifted and resentment started creeping in. We explore what it means to honor each other’s time as a form of currency, how to rebuild balance when things feel uneven, and why fairness doesn’t always mean splitting everything 50/50. As you listen, think about what fairness looks like in your relationship. How do you value each other’s time, effort, and care? And what might change if you started talking about money as a shared story instead of a scoreboard? Episode Breakdown: 00:00 When Does My Money Become Our Money? 01:03 Why Couples Fight About Money 08:39 Time Is a Currency 15:29 From “Me” to “We” 21:24 Mistakes vs. Missteps 23:56 Different Definitions of “Enough” 28:12 “My Money” vs. “Our Money” 39:09 Practical Playbook: Money Dates & Goal Alignment 44:45 Case Study: Inheritance & Grief 51:03 When to Seek Financial Therapy for Couples There's a ton of great information in this podcast AND it’s also true that talking about money and creating agreement in your financial relationship can be very tricky for many couples. You don't have to go it alone. One of the things my practice is known for is financial therapy for couples, specifically. If this is a current pain point in your relationship, I hope you get in touch with us and allow us to guide you through the process of creating alignment around all parts of your life, including financials. Here’s the link to learn more, and set up a free consultation. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyGrowing Self

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Let's Talk About YOU! Thursdays @ 12pm MT

Let's Talk About YOU! Thursdays @ 12pm MT

Have you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can! When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time) Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook Each week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice. How to Participate: Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook. Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa to ask questions ahead of time and get a reminder before the live stream starts. Recap: If you can't make it live, sign up through the link to receive a recap video via email. I love making the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast for you, but live streaming adds a special touch by allowing me to interact with you directly. I can't wait to chat about your life and your unique situation. Mark Your Calendar: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time). See you there! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

20 Kesä 20241min

406: Is it a mistake to get back together with an ex?

406: Is it a mistake to get back together with an ex?

Have you been thinking about getting back together with your ex? It's completely natural to wonder if getting back together with an ex is a mistake, or if it might be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your relationship. In this episode, I'm here to offer you the clarity you need. We'll walk through FOUR ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS that you must ask yourself and your ex before getting back together. These questions are designed to help you understand whether giving your relationship another chance is the right move. Doing this introspective work will either set you up for a successful reunion or save you from investing time and energy into a relationship that may not have a future. So, make yourself a cup of tea, grab your journal, and let's dive deep into these pivotal questions together. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered and equipped with the insights needed to make the best decision for your heart and your future. Let's get started! 🌟 xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com P.S. Let's talk! Every week on Thursdays at 12pm MT / 2pm ET I'm hosting a live stream on Monday's podcast topic to answer YOUR questions. If you're wrestling with this "should we get back together or not" dilemma, I hope you join me!! Submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa, and then tune in on the socials: Instagram, YouTube or Facebook. See you Thursday! P.P.S. In the meantime, take advantage of the free resources I mentioned on today's show including tons of insightful articles and a curated podcast playlist all about how to get "relationship clarity." They're all for you! https://www.growingself.com/stay-or-go

17 Kesä 202437min

#405 - How to Take Your Power Back After a Breakup

#405 - How to Take Your Power Back After a Breakup

If your heart is hurting and your confidence is MIA after a breakup or divorce, I see you. That stripped-down, shell-of-yourself feeling? It’s real. But here’s the truth that can change everything: You can take your power back after a breakup—and in this episode, I’m going to show you how. On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, we’re diving deep into what it really means to reclaim your sense of power after a breakup. Whether you were left, or you were the one who walked away, breakups can leave you feeling helpless, obsessively stuck on your ex, and questioning your self-worth. This episode is your permission slip to start choosing something better for yourself. Timestamps: 01:48 – Why Breakups Feel So Disempowering 03:44 – How to Reclaim Your Power (Starting Today) 13:30 – Self-Love as a Rebellion 18:11 – Rewriting Your Story for Good 22:00 – Transforming Pain Into Growth 29:24 – How to Move Forward If this episode resonated with you, I want you to take a deep breath — because that in itself is proof of your strength. You’re not hiding from the pain. You’re facing it, seeking to heal, and learning along the way. That’s what taking your power back looks like. 👉 Take the next step with my free Breakup Recovery Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?It’s an insightful tool to help you understand what stage of healing you’re in — and what specific actions will move you forward. You’ll walk away with a clearer sense of what’s going on emotionally, and a personalized roadmap for reclaiming your energy, confidence, and future. And if you’re realizing that this heartbreak is bigger than you expected — that it’s shaken your sense of self, made you question your worth, or left you feeling stuck— come talk to one of the expert breakup recovery therapists and coaches on my team. 👉 You can schedule a free consultation with someone who truly gets it. Together, we’ll explore how breakup recovery coaching or counseling can help you process your grief, rebuild your confidence, and start feeling like yourself again — or even the version of you that you’ve always hoped to become. You deserve to move forward — not with bitterness, but with strength, insight, and genuine emotional freedom. And friend? That next chapter you’ve been longing for? It starts now. Xoxo Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbywww.growingself.com P.S. If someone you care about is stuck in heartbreak too, forward them this episode. Help them take their power back, too.💛

10 Kesä 202436min

#404 - Overcoming the Fear of Being 'Single Forever'

#404 - Overcoming the Fear of Being 'Single Forever'

Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot.  And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully.  On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life — no matter what.  Tune in to learn:  03:11 Understanding the Fear 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear 13:31 Overcoming the Fear 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single 15:02 Shifting Mindset 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive All of that and more on this episode for you. I hope you'll join me!   xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Ready to stop spinning your wheels and start dating with intention? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

3 Kesä 202435min

#403 - Sex After Infidelity

#403 - Sex After Infidelity

How do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together can bring you closer in unexpected ways.  But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair — for your relationship and your sex life — and that's what we're talking about on today's episode.  Tune in to learn about:  04:32 The Mental and Emotional Well-being of the Injured Party 06:00 Moving Through a Structured Healing Process 07:51 Stages of Sex After Infidelity 12:34 Managing Trauma Triggers During Sexual Encounters 19:16 The Desire for Detailed Sexual Information 29:45 Positive Growth and Conversations About Sexuality 34:37 Educating Yourself and Making Informed Decisions And more. If you are struggling with sex after infidelity, I hope this episode gives you hope and direction. You deserve it.    xoxo,    Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby    P.S. — Want support with healing from infidelity? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

27 Touko 202443min

#402 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Money, Without Fighting!

#402 - How to Talk to Your Partner About Money, Without Fighting!

Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship? This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood.  It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship.  On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love. Tune in to learn about:  01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances 26:44 Talking About Finances Productively And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation.

20 Touko 202434min

#401 - How Introverts Can Win in the Workplace

#401 - How Introverts Can Win in the Workplace

Introverts are the unsung heroes of the workplace. They're thoughtful, analytical, and they excel at working independently. Still, if you have an introverted personality type, getting ahead at work can be a challenge. This podcast episode is going to tell you how to leverage your introvert superpowers (because I promise, you have them) and WIN in the workplace as an introvert.  Although introverts can be assets to a team, they struggle with visibility. They may hesitate to speak up in meetings and spend lunch hours munching a salad in their car rather than socializing with coworkers. Unfortunately, upper management might mistake your introverted personality for disengagement or even disagreeableness. But there are steps you can take to make your voice heard, highlight your accomplishments, and connect with your colleagues, all while staying true to YOU.  Tune in to learn about: 05:42 Career Paths for Introverts 09:21 Tapping into Your Introvert Superpower 12:09 Signs of a Mismatched Career 16:23 The Impact of Negative Feedback  21:40 Finding Balance as an Introvert 24:19 Why Introverts Kick a$$ in the Workplace 26:30 The Value of Introverted Leaders 30:05 How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone 31:29 Self-Acceptance vs. Functioning in the World 38:23 Normalizing the Introvert Experience And more! I hope you'll join me and my Growing Self colleague Susan for this conversation! She's an experienced career counselor and she has so many excellent career tips for introverts that you won't want to miss!  All of that and more on today's show! xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — If you want support building a thriving career, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

13 Touko 202445min

#400 - Mindset: How to Live an Abundant Life

#400 - Mindset: How to Live an Abundant Life

Do you want to feel happier, have more success, and live your full potential? The key is your mindset. Specifically, whether you've cultivated an abundance mindset, or whether you're living with a scarcity mindset. On this week's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're talking about what the abundance mindset is, and how you can put it to work for you in every domain of life.  When you have an abundance mindset, you see possibilities everywhere you look. You're aware of your incredible power to make good things happen in your life, and you can maintain motivation to work toward your goals because you know you're ultimately bound to succeed.  But many of us get stuck in a scarcity mindest, or believing that your opportunities to create the life you want are limited. This mindset makes obstacles feel insurmountable, and keeps you from being and having everything you're capable of.  You deserve better! Tune in to this episode to learn how to shake off your sense of scarcity (which you may not even be aware of) and start embracing an abundant life.  You'll learn: 00:00 What Is an Abundance Mindset? 05:08 Why Mindset Matters 09:44 The Abundance Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset 13:06 Abundance Mindset in the Workplace 20:01 Abundance Mindset and Money 23:14 Abundance Mindset in Relationships 29:07 Internal Benefits of Abundance Mindset 32:00 Developing an Abundance Mindset 37:21 Challenging Your Perspective And so much more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful.  xoxo,  Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby  P.S. — Want support in radically shifting your mindset and getting more out of life? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/

6 Touko 202443min

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