1235: Oobah Butler | A Trickster Turns Deception Into Art and Insight

Duana Welch (@duanawelch) is known for applying social science to people’s real-life relationship issues at her Love Science blog and in her book Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do. What We Discuss with Duana Welch: How jealousy differs from envy. The evolutionary purpose of jealousy and why it affects even the typically cooler-headed among us. How we can leverage jealousy like a human smoke detector. What makes both men and women jealous, and how we can use that jealousy to move relationships forward rather than tearing them apart. Jealousy red flags and warning signs -- and rational strategies to employ when we encounter them. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

3 Touko 20181h 10min

David Burkus (@davidburkus) is a sought after speaker, business school professor, regular contributor to Harvard Business Review, and author of Friend of a Friend...: Understanding the Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life and Your Career. What We Discuss with David Burkus: How we can grow our networks based on the science of human behavior, not rote networking advice. How to take advantage of our existing network's weak and dormant ties. What it means to be a structural hole-filling broker of ultimate value to our entire network. How to become a superconnector. Using the illusion of the majority to our advantage. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

1 Touko 201853min

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Is there a way to encourage a significant other to work on him or herself without coming off as critical or patronizing? What if your friends are right and you really are an asshole? How should (and shouldn't) you open a cold conversation with a stranger on LinkedIn? How do you persistently remind a potential mentor you exist without being annoying? Why don't we have more women guests on the show? (Short answer: we'd like to! Please refer them our way!) Should being transgender change the way you network and develop social connections in the workplace? What's the best way to travel and explore the world as a social, immersed adventurer rather than a passive tourist? Recommendation of the Week: Trump: An American Dream Quick shoutouts to Don Hoekwater and Anthony Sandora! Swannies Giveaway winners: Christian and Kathleen! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

27 Huhti 201833min

Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) rejoins us to deep dive into why the fresh eyes of an amateur often spot what the professionals miss, and how we can get some of that so-called beginner's luck to rub off on us no matter how experienced we happen to be. What We Discuss with Gabriel Mizrahi: The experience paradox: while experience helps us solve problems with precision and focus, it also blinds us to alternative -- sometimes better -- solutions. Experts rely on technique and convention; amateurs are guided by insight and intuition. What Einstein understood about the importance of maintaining an amateur's mindset when tackling problems no expert had yet solved. Why making it through the amateur stage is crucial for growth -- or even beginning -- any endeavor. (If you knew then what you know now, you might not have even gone through the trouble of starting!) How we can take advantage of our expertise without losing the beginner's amateur insight. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

26 Huhti 201847min

Will Storr (@wstorr) is an award-winning investigative journalist and author of Selfie: How We Became So Self-Obsessed and What It's Doing to Us. What We Discuss with Will Storr: What is the neoliberal self? Are we born with innate self-obsession, or is it picked up along the way? What happens when our fictionalized sense of self clashes with reality? Why do we overprivilege and credit select individuals for the accomplishments of many while blaming ourselves for not living up to their impossible examples? The dangers of perfectionistic thinking. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

24 Huhti 201849min

Jordan (@JordanHarbinger) and Jason (@jpdef) are back to banter every week and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday on The Jordan Harbinger Show! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now, let's dive in! On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss: Our episode with Vanessa Van Edwards should have video by the time you hear this. Sorry for the delay! Andrew Warner is hiring a second in command to run Mixergy, his Silicon Valley-based podcast business. Are you someone who can't stop thinking of podcast marketing ideas? Think you'd be good at recruiting top guests? To apply, go to AndrewWarner.com/hiring The roommate switch? It can't be done. How might an obliger (Gretchen Rubin, episode 18) self-motivate to learn a new language? How do you take notes like a pro -- and put them to good use afterward? Remember: anything "free" comes with a price. What chakras are to blame for someone's lack of personal responsibility? What can you do to tactfully reintroduce yourself to the world when you've effectively been away due to health issues, personal misfortunes, and downright bad luck? How can a teacher really inspire an underprivileged 11 to 13-year-old to excel? Recommendation of the Week: Wild Wild Country Giveaway winners: Kelvin S. and Nikki F. Quick shoutouts to Andrew McDougal and James Jordan! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com! Connect with Jordan on Twitter at @JordanHarbinger and Instagram at @jordanharbinger, and check out Jason's (@jpdef) other show: Grumpy Old Geeks. You can also find him on Instagram at JPD. Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider leaving your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

20 Huhti 201851min

Bob Burg (@BobBurg) is the co-author of The Go-Giver Influencer: A Little Story About a Most Persuasive Idea, a parable about the power of genuine influence in business and beyond. What We Discuss with Bob Burg: Disagreement -- especially online -- is more common than persuasion or advancing the conversation. What can we do to change this? How "listening with the back of the neck" helps us find common understanding with others. The seatbelt principle of emotions and how we can work on our ability to react in ways that result in more productive disagreements. Setting the right frames and responding to negative ones. How to say "no" in a way that doesn't end up getting us in trouble later down the line. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

19 Huhti 201850min

Vanessa Van Edwards (@vvanedwards) is the lead investigator at human behavior research lab Science of People and author of Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People. What We Discuss with Vanessa Van Edwards: How to make a graceful exit with social cues. How to nicely interrupt someone with social cues. How to introduce someone whose name you don't remember. How to show someone you are (or are not) attracted to them with social cues. How to show someone you don't believe them with social cues. And much more... Sign up for Six-Minute Networking -- our free networking and relationship development mini course -- at jordanharbinger.com/course!  Like this show? Please leave us a review here -- even one sentence helps! Consider including your Twitter handle so we can thank you personally! Full show notes and resources can be found here.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

17 Huhti 201850min