The Lost Art of Vetting
Vetting a new partner is something we have lost as a society, not just in the BDSM community. We see all the time a person ends one relationship and within a week, or less, be chest deep in a new rel...
28 Helmi 202314min
Building Blocks of BDSM Relationships
While it may be a fun roleplay scene to temporarily act like it, in real relationships dominance and submission are not taken by force. Submission isn't given to the one with the most primal urge to t...
17 Helmi 20239min
Self Collaring
Self-collaring is where the s-type will collar themselves. This is usually done to express self-love, taking ownership of their own submission (after a bad relationship) to help heal and ground themse...
16 Helmi 202310min
Using FetLife
Since late 2008 FetLife has proven itself to be a valuable resource for those persons looking for kink advice and learning all about fetishes they may not have ever considered. It's also a good place ...
15 Helmi 20239min
Uses for Pain
Pain, as a magical or ritual technique, can be generally sorted into one of seven different categories. It should not cause too much in the way of physical damage, because that might make you pass out...
14 Helmi 202310min
BDSM Philosophy
Think for a moment about the traditions that are commonly called Old Guard. The term itself describes a philosophy, not a group per se. A group of people existed that formed and worked toward developi...
13 Helmi 202312min
Step-By-Step Aftercare Instructions
We begin a play scene with negotiations and do the scene with techniques and safety, but how do we end a scene? Today we give you a picture of how aftercare might look, some possibilities for things t...
12 Helmi 202310min
Am I Submissive?
Today we help you answer the question "am I submissive" by looking at statements on a checklist. These determine if you might be interested in exploring the identity of submissive. Covering topics lik...
11 Helmi 202311min
